Friday, January 23, 2009

Why You Can't Let Go of a Limiting Belief

I’m shocked at the number of belief experts who tell anyone who will pay to listen to let go of limiting beliefs and create new ones!

I see it in books, on blogs and promotions of all sorts. Almost everything out there about limiting beliefs is filled with this nonsense.

Why am I so shocked?

Because you cannot do it!

Bi it's very nature, a belief is what you think is real. You will not stop believing the floor is the floor just because your hear it is a limiting belief. You will stand up and walk on it.

You will not stop believing you are unworthy because you think it’s a bad belief! You have to find out it is not true, or not an issue in order to end your faith in it.

For a belief to be limiting, it has to be untrue. The truth never limits. It sets us free. When you see for yourself that something you have believed and lived by, maybe for years, is false you simply stop believing it.

Here’s a poignant example. I had a friend who was very poor. Her name was Mary Galewaler. She had 12 children. Mary was a widow.

One day she told me, the pride of certain knowledge in her voice, “I always tell my kids, “Ain’t no Galewaler never gonna get nowhere in this world.”

Weighing the intrusion factor against the possibility for a new and better reality, I ventured a reply, “You might not want to say that, Mary.”

“Why?” she asked.

“Because it might not have to be true.”

Long pause. Long, long pause.

“Oh, I never thought of that.” Mary’s smile lit up the room!

I’ll bet big bucks. Mary Galewaler never said “No Galewaler’s never gonna amount to nothing” again.

And Mary? She learned to read, she bought a home. She got her first paying job.

She did not sit down and choose something better to believe. She perceived a new, expanded reality. She learned the truth. Neither she nor her children were doomed to a life with no success.

You need to get in there and find out if your limiting or self-defeating belief holds true for you. It’s tough to do alone which is why I wrote two whole books dedicated to just that to help you.

“Travelling Free” covers beliefs formed during painful, hard times. “Emotional Options” focuses on beliefs that block happiness which always block success too. You can order them at my still messed-up but working website:

If you already have them but are stuck in something you don’t like – get them out and read that part again. I do!

Wishing you great insight and clear vision!


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Monday, January 12, 2009

Mandy Evans Live at The Betty Ford Center

The response from those who listened to “Peace with the Past” encourages me to send it to you again.

I’m speaking to recovering addicts and professionals in the field at the famous Betty Ford Center in California. The material applies to all of us who seek freedom from limiting beliefs we formed during challenging times that are not true and block happiness and success now.

Here’s a gift to help you make a strong start in 2009 – FREE for you and FREE to share.

I was deeply touched by the spontaneous comments people sent me. Like these --

“Thank you for your story and your generosity in sharing it. Even though I know so many of the stories of your life, it was with awe and appreciation that I listened again. You are an amazing speaker and a beautiful light in the world and in my life.”

“Thank you for sharing this very personal and inspirational talk with us. You have a lot to say and your presentation is easy to hear and accept on a very personal level as well.”

“It was great! I did not live with alcoholic parents but there are many aspects of your talk that hit us all. As you said, we all have a past!
I sat my husband down and had him listen to your talk on the MP3 since his mother came from an alcoholic family. Never did anyone ever talk about "the father." He was always the bad guy and I know very little about their story but we both wondered what my mother-in-law's fathers' story might have been.Please start selling this CD as soon as you can it will be wonderful!Thank you for giving it as a gift. It was highly received!”

“It was exciting and just like having my own private lecture. I found myself learning stuff all over again from it - as well as feeling very moved.”

I’d love to know what YOU think.


Friday, January 2, 2009

Report from the 2009 Welcoming Group

Five of us gathered here on the patio over bagels and stuff on New Years Day to reflect and write about what we want to welcome into our lives in 2009.

Three of us had done this before. The other two had not. I found myself feeling very shy explaining the point of it all to my friends and trying not to sound like a seminar leader.

We talked about how being conscious of what you welcome matters. Whether to say "I want or I welcome" came up for discussion too. And whether it was just semantics.

For about twenty years I thought in terms of "I want" for this exercise. Then I became aware of the energy and emotions that generated. How it seemed to focus on the lack rather than the awareness of how welcome the object or experience we desire is.

We got to work and spent four hours thinking, writing, sharing, eating, laughing, crying and learning so much about ourselves and each other.

Each of us had focused more than usual on how we wanted to be, changes we wanted to make in ourselves, rather than stuff to attract from the universe. We had plenty of those too though.

We all wanted inspiration to expand, grow, create, express our true selves in different ways.
Clearing excess baggage was popular as were travel, meditating and spiritual growth.

We added to our lists as we learned from each other and thought of new wonders we'd like to show up in our lives.

Here is some of what I wrote:
Being happy
The will to do what I can to be healthy and pain-free
Greatly expanded ability to accept love and support
Deepening dear relationships
To be well accompanied through life
Writing the next book and selling 100,000 copies
Tech help
Someone to help market CDs and seminars
A perfect tenant for a warehouse/office building I own to whom I can give a big rent break and for whom it will be a well used and appreciated opportunity
A durable solution to roof leaks at that building
Continued prosperity
Being a good mother
Being a good friend
Wonderful books to read
Food, love, shelter for all
Help for our new president from all over
Renewal and deepening of values of honor and kindness in our country -- and the world

We talked about the importance of nurturing, support and open communication, the consequences of isolating when times are tough and admiration for the courage of those who put themselves out there in creative ways for all of us to see and maybe judge harshly.

It was a magical morning. I wish we could all be together at one huge table sharing our thoughts and heart's desires.

I love the comments people posted so far. They are a gift to us all.

May all of our "welcomings" arrive at our doors and may we all be wise enough to let them in.


Thursday, January 1, 2009

Temporary Email

Oh no! My website and email are down!

You can reach me here or send email to for now!

Happy New Year!

I love your welcoming posts. I'll get mine in tomorrow.