I’m learning to cut my losses. As some of you know the year attending Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings inspired me to write “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs.” There is a saying those of us who grew up in alcoholic or abusive families understand all too well, “We stick it out through thin and thin.”
Many of us from all sorts of backgrounds adopted limiting beliefs that caused us to endure, manage, make-do, tolerate and settle-for-less. We curtailed our dreams and visions without even knowing we did it.
It’s been a long, hard long lesson but I’m picking up steam. It’s becoming fun!
Persistence has it’s place. It’s very useful, and popular trait. Giving up is good too.
I trade stocks and options on the internet in the morning and actually relish selling with a small loss in stead of watching it drop day after day hoping for a come back. It frees up so much more money for profitable investments. I like to sell those too. No tree grows straight to the sky.
I’m changing the way I relate to people. Some of them don’t like it one bit. I can’t blame them if they move on to more compatible relationships. I bless them on their way.
A few years ago I told the director of a retreat center director to take “warm” out of my bio. Not that I want to be cold, I explained. I’m just not wanting to attract people who are specifically seeking warmth. I’m more interested in being clear, powerful, understanding and loving now – sort of temperature neutral when I teach.
I may even give up on those piles of things I’m going to read some day and get rid of the clutter in my office!
I hope this idea will help you too. Look around your life and inside yourself. Is there something you’d like to give up on? Call it quits and move on with love, joy and new inspiration.
Sometimes giving up is great!
Wishing you the wisdom to know just when to persist and just when to give up that which no longer serves you.
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