Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Freedom from Fear of False Danger

Choosing examples for the new class, "How to Break Out from a Limiting Belief" at entheos Academy for Life, I settled on beliefs about fear. Many of us believe that being afraid protects us from danger. People who suffered trauma and abuse often maintain abiding faith in this fear as if it were a weapon they can never put down. Most of us harbor some fear, of rejection, humiliation, being judged. Maybe heights? Speaking in a group?

Imagine the toll this hyper-vigilant state takes. It bombards our bodies with autonomic and endocrine changes designed for self-preservation. But what if there is no danger?

Living in constant fear not only does not protect from peril, it diminishes your ability to discern actual threats to your well-being. It wears you out. It robs you of peace of mind and restorative rest. Chronic fear wreaks havoc with your ability to love and feel loved.

No matter where it came from, faith in fear will not save you! The ability to accurately discern and respond to danger helps. A healthy flight or fight response works wonders. Learning to avoid harmful people and situations works much better than coloring everything scary.

Here's one of mine. I dread asking anyone for anything, especially for something that  benefits me. It's easier to ask for someone else.

I've got ideas about where it came from but what I've done with it that has compounded the problem big time. I engineered my life around not having to ask. That led me to people who really liked that. That led...
well you get the picture, the impact of that kind of fear.

It's minor compared to the (often hidden) terror many people live with. But provides us with a good, clear example. Sure is one I know well. This is what I've come up with. It helps. I'm gaining on it.

  • Challenge your faith in fear
  • Learn to see real danger and respond to it
  • Avoid harmful people and situations
  • Seek nurturing, supportive environments
  • Relax, if just for a minute, and see what happens

When I feel that old familiar dread, I ask, "Is there any reason you don't want to do that other than because you're scared?" If the answer is answer "no" I do it. Sometimes I have to schedule it on my calendar. I'm talking really little stuff, like calling CreateSpace (Amazon's publishing company) to ask how many pages they require to put a title on the spine of a book. That took 10 days. The answer is 101 :-)!

The big idea is to stop honoring your fear of false danger as if it were some great wall. Challenge it. Walk right through it. Over and over again. You will build new memories and beliefs. When you discover that emperor really hasn't got any clothes, you will never have to blindly obey again. Fear really can turn into excitement!

Now I'm going to ask you for something. Please check out the new class, "How to Breakout from a Limiting Belief" and others at entheos. If you like it, help me spread the word. This is a brand new venture and adventure for me. I'm thrilled to share it with you. The courses there offer you real value.

The link to info about "How to BREAK Out from a Limiting Belief" is http://bit.ly/1dnTBG6

Join us this Thursday 2/20 at 2:00 pm pst. It's free to watch the live video. After that you can watch it at your convenience along with hundreds of courses to enrich the quality of this one precious life you have. Subscriptions are only $18.00 per month or $96 per year at this wonderful new school for life!

Let's stage a BREAKOUT!
About that asking? Heart beating fast, but feeling excited.

Friday, February 14, 2014

Send Love

Happy Valentine's Day! It's a wonderful day to send love.
This rose actually grew in my patio, like a gift from the universe. 

Sending it to you, in sunshine or in snow, with love!

Monday, February 10, 2014

The Best People We Know Interview

Here's the link to listen to Deb Scott's interview with me on "How to Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs." She hosts a wonderful radio show, "The Best People We Know." We got so excited we kept interrupting each other. So much to learn, so little time! listen and learn with us.

New Self Help Podcasts with Best People We Know on BlogTalkRadio


Friday, February 7, 2014

Embrace Change!

Embrace change! Give it a big hug and welcome it in. Change means you're alive.

"Let go or be dragged!" is a favorite quote.

Another -- "You can't hover. You either expand or contract."

I've been through an awful lot of changes. Sometimes I went kicking and screaming, other times grinning from ear to ear.

Shall we be like the flowers, growing from bud to bloom to fading away, sharing their beauty and sweetness Or gripe and moan, punishing ourselves and others on our way through this magical journey of life?

On my birthday, April 3, 2012 a test result, with good news, announced that my life would take a different path from the one I'd prepared for. The words to tell about it have not come easily. When I get them together, I'll share them. Meanwhile I'm inspired by flowers and you!


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Saturday, February 1, 2014

New Class: Big Breakout Ideas

NEW CLASS! How To Breakout from a Limiting Belief

Do you want to improve your finances? Would you like to have better relationships? How about expanding your creativity, or making a greater contribution to the world? Whatever you want, begin with what you believe.
Your individual version of reality influences every choice you make. It colors and shapes every goal you reach for or turn away from, even what dreams you dare to have.

Changing limiting beliefs about your lot in life can open doors you may not have known you closed.  In the midst of beauty and abundance, you can spend your entire life wrestling with circumstances and situations without ever discovering the fixed ideas that keep you stuck in them. Beyond self-defeating beliefs, the possibilities are infinite!

Watch my class for FREE on Thursday, February 20th at 2pm PST at the en*theos Academy for Optimal Living