Saturday, September 24, 2016

Failure to Yield

In the spring of 1963 I worked at the Pinehurst Playhouse in North Carolina. Every week, on strike night, we took down the old set and put up the new one for the next show. One of my jobs was to make food for the crew to get them through the weary cold hours.

On my way to the Piggly Wiggly for ingredients to make a big batch of chili I noticed an elderly black man walking toward me on the sidewalk. There was a wall on my left and to the right a very steep step down into the street. Though the walk was narrow there was room for us to pass. I moved close to the wall to give him room. He was carrying bundles. As he grew near, he lowered his eyes and, with difficulty, stepped down on to the street. Reflexively, I blurted, out "Oh, no, you don't have do that!"

He froze and I saw I was just making things worse. I quietly said "I'm sorry." I walked on, but the incident stayed with me. I think about him from time to time. The life he led. The things he experienced in a time when looking a white woman in the eyes was a dangerous thing in North Carolina and failure to yield could be fatal.

When my homeland elected Barack  Obama president, I breathed a sigh and thought we were finally past those awful times. Haven't we seen too many black men killed for failure to yield? Or worse, perceived failure to yield!

As I think about the distorted, limiting beliefs and view of reality that feed racism and notions of white supremacy, I want to sweep them clean. So here is one pass of the broom. Isn't it time for black men in America to have the same right of way as everyone else? What do you think?

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Breakout Training in The Netherlands with Mandy Evans

An experiential training to breakout from (usually hidden) limits that block happiness and success. I cannot imagine anything that would add more value to your life and career.

Dates: May 18 thru 21
Tuition for Dutch participants is €675 (plus tax)
Tuition for International participants is $775
Early Registration discount is €575 and $675 until December 1

Who should come? Everyone coaches someone, especially yourself!
  • Experienced and new coaches 
  • Mentors and managers
  • Counselors  
  • Teachers  
  • Parents  
  • Therapists  
  • People in the healing professions 
  • Students of personal growth and human potential  
You can learn the basics of Breakout Coaching in 4 days. The experience will last forever. When you are clear and happy you make different choices that lead down remarkably different paths from the ones you pick when you are afraid or caught in a web of life-extinguishing beliefs. Open doors you did not know you closed and enter a world of new possibilities.

Learn how to:
  • Expand your ability to work in the creative space of acceptance 
  • Use breakout dialogues to coach yourself and others through fear and doubt that keeps you stuck 
  • Work with individual belief systems in a deep and meaningful way  
  • Recognize flawed perceptions of reality that block happiness and success 
  • Tap into the strongest motivation we all have (and overcome the reluctance to use it)  
  • Distinguish desire from attachment  
  • Make peace with the past and why it matters 
  • Present yourself and your work comfortably and confidently   
This training provides:
  • An accepting, encouraging atmosphere to foster growth and creativity 
  •  A journal and written exercises  
  • Extensive practice and constructive feedback 
  • Ample opportunities to identify and breakout from issues about success, relationships, money and other important areas of your life 
  • Limited class size of 24 people to assure individual attention 
  • Saturday Nite Live Celebration 
  • A certificate of completion  
Take advantage our early registration discount (good until December 1) and pay only €575 for Dutch or $675 for International students.

Since the training is limited to only 24 participants, it may fill quickly. Register now to secure your space. 

How to Register
Send your name and email address to Karen Gerritsen at

International participants send $675 tuition via Paypal  PayPal.Me/MandyEvans1. You do not need to have an account. Paypal accepts credit cards and handles currency conversion.

Dutch Participants will receive an invoice for €675 plus tax from Karen

Receipt of tuition completes your registration and secures your space.
    Meeting space and lodging
    On the beach in Zandvoort! Zandvoort Centerparcs Hotel and Cottages is right on the beach about 30 minutes by train from the airport and Amsterdam.  It's an ideal location for home base for an extended visit to The Netherlands.You will receive lots of travel information after you register, including a discount from the hotel for us.

    Read what people say about working with Mandy Evans

    “I’ve been working with Mandy for more than 20 years. She is the clearest, happiest, and most effective miracle-maker I’ve ever known. She helps me get clear so I get results. I have never met anyone like her. I love her.”
    –Joe Vitale, author of The Attractor Factor and way too many other books to list here.
    Whenever I’m feeling stuck and convinced I’ll never get back into the flow, I turn to Mandy Evans – her deceptively simple questions are fast-acting, long-lasting, friendly and fun!
    –Michael Neill, SuperCoach and best selling author of You Can Have What You Want.
    Sometimes just learning more information is not enough. We need to take action- change our thinking, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. Taking Mandy’s Break Out weekend helped me to realize how and why I was holding myself back from a fuller life, not facing certain difficulties, and to reconnect to my inner Spirit of daring and joyous living. Inspired and ‘breakout’ determined, I have now completed a huge project avoided for 10 years!  Also, by taking the necessary steps to action and believing in my core of joy.
    –Laura Silva
    , M.A., LicMHC, Awakening Coach and Intuitive Psychotherapist
    The BREAKOUT weekend experience was life changing for me personally and professionally. Mandy’s gift for teaching and practicing the BREAKOUT Method is brilliant. If something is not working in your life you can be sure somewhere behind it is a self-defeating belief. Wouldn’t you like to know what that belief is? Happiness IS only a thought away.
    –Dr. Robert Edelburg
    , The Palm Springs Healing Center
    Join us in May. Let's stage a Breakout in the Netherlands!

    Tuesday, September 13, 2016

    Free Breakout Keys. Prices Drop to 0!

    Free is good! No? Being of relatively sound mind, in a burst of gratitude for the blessings in my life, I dropped the prices on the breakout material available on my website to 0. Yes, that's zero, zilch, zip, nada. Free, gratis, no charge. Well you get the point.

    These are my gifts to you with my compliments and good wishes for great success and much happiness at

    Break out to Miracles! Video

    Miracles abound; you just have to accept them.  To learn how, listen to the inspiring talk that brought the house down, recorded live at the Miracles Weekend in San Diego with Joe Vitale. About 60 minutes.

    Beliefs About Love – Audio;

    This funny, insightful audio teaches how to break out from beliefs that block love. Do your beliefs about love sabotage cupid? The good news is there is enough love for everyone! About 25 minutes.

    Choosing Happiness – Audio  with Mandy Evans Live at Interface. 

    This recording includes an overview of the Option Method and rare Option Dialogues with real people working on real issues. Learn how to identify, explore and unravel limiting beliefs.

    Peace with the Past – Audio

    Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center in California
    In this revealing hour long talk, Mandy Evans tells the story of her childhood as the daughter of a violent alcoholic father and how she made peace with her own past. During challenging times we form beliefs that we continue to live by without knowing it. Learn how break out from beliefs you adopted in your past that block success and happiness now. About 60 minutes

    Cheering you on to happiness and success!

    Saturday, September 3, 2016

    Breakout from Guilt Jail

    Are you locked up in guilt jail? A lot of of people have expressed feelings of guilt lately. Or insisted that someone else should feel guilty. Feeling guilty doesn't help anything much, though. It breeds resentment. It locks you up in guilt jail for an indefinite sentence -- with no release guaranteed. 

    Here are some observations about the toxic nature of guilt (gleaned from decades of exploring this over-rated, painful emotion) to aid and abet your escape. Do you hold any of these limiting beliefs?

    Myths about guilt:
    • If I didn't feel guilty, I would be a monster. I doubt that you are a monster, but if you are, feeling guilty will not un-monster you. It will just make you feel bad.
    • If I didn't feel guilty, I wouldn't change (whatever it is you feel guilty about). Desire is the strongest motivation for change. You probably really want to change something already if you are willing to feel that awful guilt just on the chance it might help you. Instead of stoking the hell fires of guilt, focus on what you want instead. 
    • Feeling guilty shows I care. This in another cart before the horse situation. You have to care first in order to know when to feel guilty. Skip the guilt and nurture the care.
    • If I can make you feel guilty, you'll do what I want. This rarely works. First, you can't really make someone else feel guilty. You can only discover what they will feel guilty about and give them an unhealthy dose of it to swallow. Second, they may give up or give in but they will resent the heck out of you for it.The price of induced guilt is way to high for the minimal, short-lived gains it promises but rarely delivers. 
    • It, he or she, makes me feel guilty. All guilt is self-imposed. You have to agree to it or it won't work.
    • Feeling guilty is how we know right from wrong. The old cart first scenario. Awareness of wrongdoing only takes a moment, but some people incarcerate themselves in guilt jail for years. Finding another way and acting on it is the real work.The punitive approach of self-induced guilt demoralises rather than strengthening your chances for changing something you want to be different. 
    • Feeling guilty is how you pay for hurting someone. I would really like to know who came up with the idea that pain pays for pain. Wars and prisons testify to society's faith in that life extinguishing contract, but look at the results. There has to be a better way. I believe it would transform our world if we could banish that myth. Inflicting pain only creates more pain. Can you imagine a world committed to finding a creative, compassionate solutions to problems? What a paradise we would live in without guilt and punishment as moral guides.

    Some questions that have helped people breakout from guilt jail. Each question follows the answer to the one before it.
    • What do you feel guilty about? Identify and clarify.
    • Why do you feel guilty about that?
    • Do you believe that?  
    • If you answer yes, why do you believe that?
    • What are you concerned would happen if you did not feel guilty?
    • Do you believe that (your answer)?
    • What are you concerned would happen if you did not believe that?

    Instead of guilt, I recommend happiness and desire. Make amends when you can. Be kind. Be happy. Do you dare to breakout from guilt jail?

    With guilt-free love,