Break Out from Limiting beliefs with Mandy Evans

Come On In In 2012!

2011-12-31T12:17:00.000-08:00

Instead of setting goals or making resolutions as we welcome in the new year, I like to reflect on what I would like to welcome into my life in 1212. The first step to making it real is consciousness. Then sharing. Tthe magic, mysterious unfolding of life reveals the rest.

Here is some of what I welcome:

Food, shelter and love for everyone
Feeling really good
Health
Happiness
Opportunities to share what I've learned
Opportunities to share what others have learned
Wonderful books to read
Good times with friends and family
Inspiration for The Connection Breakout Course
Peace on earth and in my heart
Laughter, lots of laughter
A bunch of happy surprises, beyond my wildest dreams

Thank you for reading this. I would love to know your heart's desire for 2012 so I can join in to cheer you on! Just click "Comments" below.

Happy New Year!
Love,
Mandy

Joy to the World

2011-12-22T13:02:00.000-08:00

Jot to the world! Why not? Maybe it's having an 18 month grandchild in the family, all full of wonder and curiosity, studying up on how to talk -- and how to climb really high. Maybe it's the sad but welcome end to the war in Iraq. Maybe it's looking at how far we have come on the path to equal rights for women, African Americans and gay people. Whatever! This year as the holidays wrap themselves around us, my abiding desire is joy to the world!

It seems so real. If we will just do it. We can fill our individual hearts with joy and good wishes for everyone! OK, if you can't go that far yet, how about your family, your neighbors, yourself?!

It seems so real that we who have a little or a lot extra can share some to help those in need. Everyone can have enough to eat, shelter and love. Surely there is enough to go around.

It seems so real that the idea of war can become absurd, the idea of peace real and possible.

It seems so real this year. Joy to the world! Why not?

Wishing you the happiest of holidays and many blessings.

Your comments are always welcome. I love to read about yur thoughts and insights and think that people we do not even know will be able to read them too.

Mandy

Words Make Something Happen

2011-12-18T13:58:00.000-08:00

Emery is 17 months old. She discovered that words make something happen. Can you imagine her delight? More. Wow, that gets you more of something you like. All done gets them to stop giving you food when you don't want any more. Hi makes people smile and say it back. Bye- bye works pretty much the same way, only when people are going away.

Emery works happily all through the day to capture the magical powers! At night she practices as she drifts off to sleep.

You have probably conquered the magical powers long ago. Remembering the magic and the power is the tricky part and the important part.

The same words that convey love or how to build a house can also start a war or break someone's heart. They bring thoughts into reality with their vibration – literally; the spoken word vibrates through the air into our ears where we interpret it. The written word we figure out with our eyes. Amazing!

Emery is my granddaughter. Her gift to me this Christmas is a new awareness that words make something happen. She encourages me to use them well and kindly to make things happen that I want to happen. Like:

Thank you for reading this so we can share some thoughts
May peace prevail
Joy to the world
I wish you boundless success and happiness

Got words to share? Make something happen by leaving your comment.

Love,
Mandy

Find life enhancing gifts at the Breakout Store http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/

The Present

2011-12-12T10:10:00.000-08:00

How are you doing? As the holidays draw near, the days fill with opportunities to connect with friends and family, everyone really – or not.

I don't know about you, but I have spent a few tense holidays, unconscious, on automatic pilot. Growing up in an alcoholic family, my version of that was an exhausting attempt to make everything work out for everyone. Yikes!

This year I plan to break out from the well worn groove and connect with myself and others "presently". Maybe in quiet ways no one will notice, I kind of hope so.

While celebrating our connection and wishing you peace and joy, I thought of two breakout experiences to share, something old and something new. The first one took place in an iconic breakout location.

When that gate shut behind us, I knew something big had really closed. We would not walk back through that opening until someone in a uniform told us we could.

Members of the NAACP in a prison had invited us to speak about famine in East Africa because we were involved in a project to raise awareness of about world hunger. As a guard escorted us below tiers of cells, inmates screamed down at us in such a roar I couldn't pick out what anyone was saying -- probably a good thing. When we reached an auditorium, he took us backstage to meet our sponsors.

The rest is kind of a blur except for this vivid memory: as I waited backstage, I peeked out at rows and rows of black men wearing white tee shirts and green tennis shoes. The first speaker walked on stage, a thin white guy with glasses. They jeered. They howled. He continued with his talk as if nothing were happening.

I was next! As my pulse speeded up, I thought the only thing I can do is connect, not go unconscious like a robot on automatic pilot.

I walked out, took the microphone, and stood there -- gazed out at that green-sneakered sea of difference and let it in. Suddenly, as if it had a will of its own, my voice blurted out, "I've never been in a prison before." Over a ripple of laughter another voice from the back rows rang out, "Neither had I, honey."

When our laughter died down, that group of men, incarcerated in the Woodbourne Correctional Facility in the Catskill mountains of New York listened in total silence while I presented statics on infant mortality and starvation in Somalia and the horn of East Africa in 1982.

Those guys donated several hundred dollars, their gift to alleviate suffering across the world, an amazing amount considering their meager resources.

That memory surfaced during the Breakout Coach training here in Palm Springs this fall. As we prepared to film short Connection Breakout videos, all kinds of fear, self-doubt, anger, and worry stirred up and spilled over. Who knew that in this group of successful, accomplished people, so many of us struggle to connect with our fellow beings in an authentic, conscious, purposeful way? Fortunately, we were in the perfect place to breakout from some of our most powerful limiting beliefs about who we are and what it takes to connect. Over and over we discovered that the present of our presence is always enough.

As you ponder your holiday lists of things to cook and presents to buy, how about including your presence, the most splendid present of all? What a gift you are!

Wishing you golden moments of happy, present holidays.

Love,
Mandy

PS, Please consider some holiday shopping in The Breakout Store. Maybe the gift of happiness with "Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness" or the gift of recovery with "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs".

All of the audio and videos about love, miracles, recovery, and happiness are set for three downloads so you can share them. Have a look at http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/

Speaking of Miracles

2011-12-07T14:21:00.000-08:00

Want to experience a miracle? Several to choose
from came up in a Skype interview with those
delightful women, The English Sisters today.

Miraculously, it's already up and available on YouTube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Ej-VpPf4cA

Rome to Palm Springs! A little jerky, but hey,
across the world and free!

More about Accepting Miracles! If you are looking
for holiday gifts (don't forget yourself) please consider
the "Accepting Miracles" video at the Breakout Store.

http://mandyevans.com/archives/accepting-miracles-video/

For $7.95 you can give it 3 times! We set the delivery
so it can be downloaded and saved 3 times. When you
buy it, you can send the link you get on your receipt to
2 other people. Let's see, that's $2.65 each.

Arithmetic aside, the live presentation in this video drew
a big standing ovation because it opens the door to
accepting miracles. They are available to us all, but so
easy to miss if we get caught in the quicksand of stress,
worry and fear. It's ironically common to lose track of our
blessings during the holidays meant to celebrate them.

Here's to accepting and celebrating the miracles of connection, love, and happiness with you!

Love,
Mandy

Readers and I love to hear what you think and share your
miracles. You can post them here by clicking on "Post a comment"below.

What Are You Grateful For?

2011-11-23T11:19:00.000-08:00

I don't know which is more wonderful feeling gratitude, sharing gratitude or learning that someone is grateful to you.

I'm in Seattle, grateful for warmth and shelter, the love of my family and friends and the opportunity to connect with you. Grateful for the infinite opportunities for happiness, love and prosperity available to us all.

What are you grateful for? Click "comments" below to let us know.

Happy Thanksgiving and many blessings!

Love,
Mandy

Relationship Challenge

2011-11-04T12:25:00.000-07:00

What do you find challenging in relationships -- not just romantic ones, but all kinds, like friendships and people you work with?

For me the hardest one is the choice to say something to someone knowing full well they won't like it and may find it painful, or be a total hypocrite. Usually I can just let it go. I'm not the boss of the universe or anyone but my dear cleaning lady for 3 hours every other week. But sometimes, if you do not speak up you will have to relinquish something you value deeply or put up with something destructive. Give up or risk the lash-back scenario, the loss of a relationship, or having someone set out to destroy your reputation? It is not so easy.

We all face those choices. How do you deal with them?

I've opted to say my piece as kindly as I could in a couple of instances when the choice seemed like doing that or taking a long drink of slow working poison. It was hard, really hard -- the consequences long and drawn out. The result in self-respect and closer connections are worth it.

Connecting with our fellow-beings presents such possibilities for joy and pain. At the first (and probably last) Breakout Coach Training last week, we amazed ourselves with the complexity and power of the barriers we have built between us and our fellow beings. We broke out from many of our privately run prisons of isolation to an outpouring of love and creativity.

What is a relationship challenge for you? How do you deal with it?

Connecting with love,
Mandy

Are You Rich Or Poor? How to Tell

2011-11-01T13:01:00.000-07:00

Do you believe you are rich or poor? If you have enough and some to spare you are rich. If you do not have enough and have nothing to spare, you are poor.

One of the keys that will prop open the door to prosperity is the knowledge that you always have something to give. It may as sweet as a smile or as rare as understanding and acceptance. The generosity of encouragement has strong power to uplift or hold someone up who is about to fall over. A hand to hold can provide a lifeline. Perhaps you can provide actual help with a task or trouble? It could be money too, of course.

I have seen people blast out of poverty consciousness by daring to donate some of their store of cash to a worthy cause, or by leaving a tip to brighten someone's day.

A friend who barely had enough income to scrape by, pledged to give $10 a month to an organization dedicated to ending world hunger at an event we attended. When I whispered, "You don't have to do that." "She replied, "I can do that. I know what it is like not to be able to feed your children. I can do that."

Coincidence, or prime-the-pump Karma? She got a job soon after. It paid enough to move the specter of all-out-of-money farther away than it had ever been in her life.

On the flip side, I live in a fairly affluent community filled with many generous and kind people – and a few who look as if they believe if they smile, they will lose something they can never get back. A poster pops up on Facebook lately. It says, "Some people are so poor all they have is money." I know a few of those people too. The suffer just like those who struggle to pay the rent.

Are you rich or poor? What do you believe? I'd love to know.

Love,
Mandy

Resources? http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/

You're Probably Not Normal!

2011-09-26T09:27:00.000-07:00

You're probably are not normal! One of a kind,
that's what you are. It does not get any more
special than that. How exquisitely unique, your
view of life and our world. Only you have touched
all of the people you have loved and befriended.

What amazing gifts you have to share. If you attempt
to trade them all for a spot on a bell curve marked
"normal," you will never know who you might connect
with if you give a hint of your splendor. Even if you
try to make that bad bargain, you probably won't
succeed; you'll just dim your light a little.

One of a kind character actor, Bill Hickey, was one
of the strangest people I ever knew -- tall, skinny with
teeth like a race horse and a NY accent so intense it
seemed like a joke. Nominated for an Academy
Award for a role in "Prizi's Honor" and beloved acting
teacher at the HB Studio in NYC, he once said,
"If you want a really good acting lesson just ride the
subway and watch all of the people trying to act normal."

Just to think of the beyond-normal wonder of
Bill Hickey and you! Still, almost everyone I know
lives with painful beliefs about lack of worthiness
and doubt about what they have to offer.

If I had a magic wand and could wave those beliefs
away,would you want me to wave it?

If not, why not? If you have an answer to that one,
you've got some beliefs that would be well worth
exploring.

How about celebrating an "I'm Not Normal Day"?
We won't have to tell anyone if we don't want to.
We could devote 24 hours to knowing deep in our
hearts, that each of us is a one of a kind treasure.

I'm starting now; I hope you will join me.

Only 5 Spaces Left in the Breakout Training

2011-09-13T08:56:00.000-07:00

Here in the desert the temperature is cooling and the energy

is rising. There are only 5 spaces left in the October
BREAKOUT Coach Training in Palm Springs, CA.

http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training

My heart's desire is to connect with the people who will get
the most from it and bring the most to it. Like magic, people
are coming from the UK, France, Toronto, Alaska, Hawaii
and places in between. If your heart's desire is to join us,
don't wait. I think it will fill up soon.

Reminder: Wherever you are, whatever your goals, being in touch
with your true heart's desire opens the doors to miracles -- especially
if you are already happy and feeling blessed!

To your happiness, open doors and miracles!

Love,
Mandy

9/11 Vision

2011-09-10T13:03:00.000-07:00

On TV, the tear filled eyes of the children who lost a parent on 9/11 fill my heart with love and admiration for their courage. My thoughts turn to the countless children we humans have orphaned with our blind faith in punishment and vengeance.

I also hold in my heart a vision. In my vision, each person strives for peace, understanding, kindness, compassion and creative solutions to problems. We want it with the same intense desire many of us feel for money, cars, status or fame. I'm feeding the fire of that desire.

Smiling and sending love,

Prosperity Is An Inside Job

2011-09-02T12:43:00.000-07:00

Questions about money fly around like mosquitoes on a muggy night lately. No kidding? Since we hurtled from the ‘give me, get me, buy me era to the days of ‘what happened to my job? And who took my retirement?’ it’s a natural hot topic.

Here are some prosperity priming tips to weather the storm and thrive.

Six habits to breakout from:
1. Clinging to the status quo. Fighting change uses up energy you could put to better use. It’s like trying to cling to a rock as a tsunami roars in instead running for high ground. One of the toughest laws of the universe tells us, “you either expand, or you contract.” You can’t just hover; you’ll crash.

2. Blaming. The fixed idea that someone else determines the outcome of your life blocks creativity. It sucks the life force right out of you. The more you are will to be responsible for, the more freedom you have.

3. Resenting the success of others. It is very hard to attract to yourself what you condemn in others.

4. Complaining. A little whining goes a long way. It turns people off. Not only that, it keeps your focus on what you don’t want. What you focus on grows!

5. Fear. Many people actually keep themselves in a state of fear and anxiety on purpose due to the misguided belief that fear will help them avoid danger. Fear bombards their bodies with adrenalin and wears them out to the point of giving up.

6. Shame. The belief that there is something shameful about loss and hardship is prevalent. I’ve explored it with lots of people. It has never proved true.

Seven habits to cultivate:
1. Flexibility: You may have to move, downsize or expand. It can be a nightmare (if you do not break out from the habits above) or a great adventure. Your choice.

2. Gratitude. Being aware of the miracles around us natures our sense of wonder. Feeling grateful alters your private version of reality from one of lack to one of abundance and blessings.

3. Looking for opportunities. One of my favorite quotes is, “What you see is mostly what you look for.” Keep an eye out for open doors in places you might not expect to find them.

4. Asking for help. Often a simple shame-blame-and-complaint-free request brings big benefits. Friends, family and Facebook Friends are often glad to provide introductions, useful advice, leads and other assistance if they know what you are looking for.

5. Learning. A return to school, some training in your field, working with a coach, a how-to book, a master mind group, an exciting hour with Google – just for starts! So much to learn, so little time. Learning about how to improve your financial health is fun and profitable.

6. Desire. Use your desire as a sense of direction. Follow it and your intense curiosity.

7. Break out from Limiting Beliefs. When you develop the habit of challenging any belief that blocks happiness and success you move out of the prison of lack into the space of miracles.

Prosperity is an inside job. The greatest experience of prosperity comes with knowing you are enough and you have enough to give to others. It may be your love, your time, a job, encouragement, knowledge or money. Circulate your gifts wisely. They will grow and come back to you.

Additional Resources:
October BREAKOUT Coach Training in Palm Springs. If there is a way you can do it, be there! This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to learn how to break out from poverty and lack to abundance and the space of miracles. I have NO plans to offer it again. There are 8 spaces open. Does one have your name on it?
http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training

Check out 50 Beliefs About Money. Which ones are holding you back? It’s free.
http://mandyevans.com/archives/82

Cheering you on to happy prosperity!

Love,
Mandy

BREAKOUT to Miracles Radio Show

2011-08-10T08:00:00.000-07:00

On Thursday, 8/11 from 12 -1:00 pm PDT Hay House radio will air "BREAKOUT to Miracles" with Michael Neill and me.

You know how sometimes you just sort of talk then wait your turn while someone else does? Then sometimes you have a conversation? You think new thoughts, learn new stuff, have a good laugh or two, share some useful information. The time flies by and you wish all of your friends could have been there.

This was one of those conversations and you can all listen in! Woo Hoo!

I'd love to know what you think so please leave comments.

Here's the link. Breakout to Miracles Radio Show

It will be archived so you can listen at your convenience in the next few days.

To many happy miracles!
Love,
Mandy

Do You Dare To Be Present?

2011-08-02T09:38:00.000-07:00

I recently watched Todd Haynes’ “I’m Not There”. Extraordinary actors like Heath Ledger, Christian Bale, Cate Blanchett and Richard Gere create characters that represent different aspects of Bob Dylan’s life. The film explores the conflict between the ever-changing Dylan and outraged fans and critics who wanted to define him and keep him that way.

I can’t say I loved it. Can’t even recommend it. But it has stayed with me as a complex, rich lesson about being present in your life – often in conflict with other people’s expectations. It reminded me of a line from the est training, “Most likely you are perfect the way you are; you just keep acting the way you used to be.”

The more well known you are, the more success you achieve, the more people demand you “be” what they define you as. What is an operative word here because that way of relating to each other objectifies and depersonalizes us.

When you make healthy changes in your life or even totally transform some aspect of yourself it may require courage and patience to interact with friends, family, co-workers and fans who feel betrayed that you are not the same person they signed up to be with.

It can be painful, especially if you believe it’s wrong to be different today from how you were yesterday or last year – or for someone you love or work with to evolve into someone new. Consider the alternative. All creativity, life and growth exist only in the here and now. To keep acting the way we used to be chokes the life-force right out of us. It leaves us bored and frustrated or zombie-like.

It can be a great adventure to discover which relationships can flex and grow as we do and which ones cannot withstand the strain of the stretch.

I remember when I asked Doug Wilson, director to the wonderful Rowe Conference Center, to take ‘warm’ out of my bio. I didn’t want to be cold. I just didn’t want to attract people who functioned like heat-seeking missiles any more. Something shifted. Being clear and useful grew in importance. Being warm, not so much.

At 70, I’m becoming an old person. It’s very interesting. I’ve never been an old person before. When I am present with who and where I am now, it’s as exciting as any other phase of my life. When it doesn’t fit the way I used to be, I feel diminished, just less that I was.

Take a moment to pause. I will too. Notice what it is like to be you. Right here. Right now. Like you have never been before.

As shiver of excitement traveled through my body and remains tingling in my heart. What is happening with you?

Cheering you on to be here now.

With love,
Mandy

Breakout to Inner Kindness

2011-07-19T13:01:00.000-07:00

I stubbed my toe yesterday, the little one. It really hurt.

I exclaimed right out loud. "Whoa-oo, that really hurts."
My inner meanie voice said "Oh, you are such a sissy."

Filled with doubt about my very senses, I wondered if
I am a big sissy. Pain is so subjective, you know.

Marshalling my sensory and intellectual faculties, I realized
My poor toe did hurt. I also wondered why I would say
such a mean thing to myself.

Can you imagine seeing a friend in pain and the best thing
you can come up with is "Oh, you are such a sissy!"?

I like this example. It is a short and clear(albeit mild)version
of the cruelty people inflict on themselves every day.It surprised me, because I thought I had left those self-chiding remarks in the dust long ago.

I remember a time, when I set out to teach that mean old voice a lesson in inner kindness. I consciously corrected it when I caught it saying "You stupid bitch!"--which it actually used to say fairly often. I would say out loud, "I am not." Sometimes I would follow that with "I'm actually
quite bright."

This little private practice did not require discipline. As
I became more conscious of the inner meanie voice, I
simply wanted to set things straight. It was fun. The voice
quieted down. I enjoyed noticing how ridiculous the meanie
judgments were.

I am grateful for the first glimmer of consciousness that
made me aware of the meanie voice and alerted me to
the common practice of self-chastisement.

My clients often say "I beat myself up" when they
want to change something or disapprove of themselves
in some way.

I'm an inward bound explorer so I ask them what they
mean and how they do it. Their answers often shock me.

It turns out that what goes on inside a lot of us makes my
meanie voice sound like a kindly kindergarten teacher.

They describe lying in bed at night raging at themselves.
They walk around cursing themselves, damning themselves,
threatening themselves.

The really weird thing is that they cannot imagine
not 'beating themselves up.' It often seems justified
by some mistake or failure they detect in themselves. They
see it as motivating themselves to do better.

I've never seen it work once. Cruelty is debilitating and demoralizing. It crushes desire and creativity.

I am on a crusade to stop cruel and unusual punishment
of the self and others. I have worked with lots of people.
I wrote two books and lots of articles discouraging the
practice of attempted motivation by misery.

If you suspect you are the victim and perpetrator of misery
motivation, what to do? Listen, listen, listen to that voice
inside. The one that just said "What voice?"

Be firm, but gentle with it. Tell it that it may not speak to you that way. Refuse to accept it. If the beat-you-up voice points out something you do want to change or improve, let it know you do not respond well to cruelty.

I'll bet you will have more happy times and fewer painful ones.

Oh, and about that sissy business? My toe is black now
and I didn't even cry! Pretty brave, huh?It is getting better quickly,
thank you.

To your inner kindness!

Love,
Mandy

There are 10 spaces open in the October BREAKOUT Coach Training
and lots of kindly happiness resources in the Breakout Store
http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

Betty Ford Helped Me Make Peace with My Past

2011-07-14T13:18:00.000-07:00

When I signed on to speak about "Making Peace with the Past" at the Betty Ford Center in Rancho Mirage I had no idea what I was in for. The large audience at the free "Alcohol and Addiction Awareness Hour" ranges from professionals in the field to folks who have only a few days clean and sober. They can be a twitchy group.

I had been warned that many people would leave during the hour and a half I was supposed to fill. The room is wide and shallow so when they get up and go they have to push past a whole lot of people to get out of their row. Right in front of me!

I knew all of that going in. What I didn't know was how hard it would be to share intimate details of my life as an adult child of an alcoholic with a room full of alcoholics. Talk about deja vue!

I guess it always takes courage to reveal yourself for the benefit of people who do not welcome the information. Imagine what it was like for our First Lady to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic."

There were a couple of moments as my past seemed to blend with the present when I just wanted to walk off the stage. But I didn't.

Toward the end I shared a story about when I graduated from high school and my mother sent my father away because he was drunk.

When it was finally over, I was amazed at the crowd around the book table eagerly lining up to have me sign their copies of "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs." A large man approached me. "That was for me," he said. "That was me at my son's graduation from high school, looking through a chain link fence with a bottle in my hand."

We hugged each other and held on for a long time. Sharing some tears, we both made peace with the past in a way we never dreamed of.

I will always be grateful to the courage and contribution of Betty Ford and the support of my friends Catherine Rush and Debra Lux who helped through that wonderful day!

The audio, "Making Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" and Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" are available at http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

Cheering you on to peace with your past and present!

Love,
Mandy

Join Me In Palm Springs

2011-07-11T13:12:00.000-07:00

Join Me in Palm Springs?

Who will get the most from the October Breakout
Coach Training in Palm Springs? The ones who come!

Learn how to open doors you did not know you closed
and walk through to miracles. The next door you open
may be the one that brings you to the Breakout Coach
Training.

There are 12 spaces open. The discount deadline looms!
You have until this Friday, 7/15 to take $100 off the already
(some say too low) low tuition.

See you in Palm Springs?

http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training

Cheering you on to open doors wherever you are!

The Courage and Conviction of Betty Ford

2011-07-09T13:06:00.000-07:00

Remembering the courage and contribution of Betty Ford who died today at the Eisenhower Medical Center in Rancho Mirage, California. The Betty Ford Center is located there. It has helped addicts get clean and sober, "one step at a time" since 1982.

I had the honor of speaking there about the importance of making "Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" The man who introduced me was part of the intervention team who dared to confront the First Lady about her drinking.

It always takes courage to "come out of the closet" as someone society judges harshly. Can you imagine what it would be like to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic?"

The audio of my talk is available in the Breakout Store at my website. www.mandyevans.com.

Unblock the Strongest Motivation

2011-07-08T11:23:00.000-07:00

Desire marks the path! I'm pretty sure desire
functions as a sense of direction that will lead
us perfectly through life. We just have to correct
our course as new information becomes available.

I just watched a video of my 11 month old granddaughter's
triumphant climbing of a steep flight of stairs on her way
to bed. If I had not been convinced before, it erased
all doubt; desire is the strongest form of motivation!

But what governs desire? Warps it? Impedes its
natural function? The limiting and life-extinguishing
beliefs we form as we climb the stairs of life. Limiting
beliefs about relationships, money, and other important
areas of life like these:

I need to feel ashamed or I will do things I do not want to do. Do not want to do is the operative here!

If I don't feel bad, it means I don't care.

I won't have any money to put in an IRA anyway.

If I make a lot of money and lose it I'll feel really bad for a long, long time.

Nobody in this family is ever going to get anywhere.

If you loved me you would ______ (basically do whatever I think is a measure of love).

These beliefs and ones like them will crush the desire
from you own heart and cripple your motivation. Break
out from them and you enter the space of miracles.

Another enemy of desire is disapproval. Sometimes our
true desire is not to achieve some lofty goal. Maybe it is
to curl up and give up. We may want to learn something
we are intensely curious about that does not seem practical.
Or reach out to someone for no apparent reason.

When we follow those desires, we often nurture and
revitalize ourselves in a few hours or days. The fear,
however, is often that it would be a permanent choice.
We would never get out of bed again, stop reading
about that new subject or make a foolish phone call.

In my work, opening doors you did not know you
closed thrills me every time. When desire kicks in
despite all odds against it, people light up before
my eyes.

I am, by nature, much more of an explorer than a
lecturer. I like to find the questions that open doors.
One of my favorite questions is, what might you be
concerned would happen if you do what you want
to do and do not do what you do not want to do?

Try it for a day, an hour, whatever you dare.
Include wanting in order to get a result, like wanting
to finish a job so you can get paid. See what happens.
I'd love to hear.

Love,
Mandy

There are 14 spaces open in the BREAKOUT Coach
Training in Palm Springs in October and 8 days left for
the early registration discount. Do you want to be part of it?
http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training

Millions Watch Good Coaching

2011-06-22T16:17:00.000-07:00

Last night 11.81 million people saw what working with a good coach can do. Where? They tuned in to NBC’s new block buster, “The Voice.” It puts a new spin on the old talent show model – sustained coaching by a pro.

Industry professionals, Cee Lo Green, Adam Levine, Christina Aguilera, and Blake Shelton coach the singers on their teams week by week as long as they last in the competition. They support, inspire, encourage, push and prod their protégés to reach new heights each week. It’s amazing to watch these accomplished performers share their insights and experience then witness the results in live performances.

The coaching movement is spreading throughout the world. For so long, if you wanted help with the business of living, therapy was the only option. Based on a disease model, it requires a diagnosis. But what if you aren’t sick? What if you just want to learn a lot of things you don’t know from an expert who does?

We are all coaches. You may be coaching a first grader through learning how to read, an Olympic athlete, or a CEO to a better bottom line. Perhaps you are working with a friend who is looking for a job, sharing your sobriety in a 12 Step Program. We all have the opportunity to pass on what we know to someone who wants to learn it.

For the last two years I’ve been privileged to be on the faculty of Michael Neill’s Supercoach Academy. I shared my Breakout to Miracles work with coaches from all over the world for a day and a half. The experience left me eager for more. I want go deeper with a smaller group.

I cannot imagine anything that would add more value to your life or enrich your coaching more than the ability to recognize, explore, and break out from limiting beliefs to happiness, success and miracles! That is why I put together the October BREAKOUT Coach Training in Palm Springs. I’m thrilled with the opportunity and eager to share it with the 24 people who will get the most from it and bring the most to it.

Is that you? http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training

Cheering you on to coaching adventures wherever you are!

Love,
Mandy

For more info about the amazing Supercoach Academy for 2012 http://www.supercoachacademy.com/

Book Breakout!

2011-06-20T11:46:00.000-07:00

All of you authors out there, forget the limiting belief that you need an agent and a publisher to get your book out there. John Locke just became the first self-published author to break the million copy e-book barrier.

It is a brand new world out there, a very very large one.

Cheering you on to great success and happiness.

Happy Father's Day

2011-06-18T15:06:00.001-07:00

I did not know my father very well. He was a serious alcoholic and we drifted apart. Then my son, Barnaby was born. There he is just a few days old.

By some miracle of connection my father's and my letters crossed in the mail. It was so much easier sharing baby Barnaby than our painful past. Thank you Barnaby!

My father died. And I confess to a bit of nostalgia on Father's Day.

Then Barnaby and Sheri had a baby! It takes a few divorces to manage it, but Emery has seven grandparents! We were all together to welcome her.

Life is so filled with miracles. I never anticipated the rich, wondrous experience my son has brought to my life. I certainly never imagined what it would be like to see him become a father himself.

On your first Father's Day, Barnaby, I wish you, Sheri, and baby Emery all of the love and joy that life has to offer.

Here's to the nurturing, protecting spirit of fathers everywhere and in each one of us.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

Breakout Coach Training

2011-06-15T09:57:00.000-07:00

You are invited to a special event with Mandy Evans.

Breakout Coach Training
October 27-30 ● Palm Springs, California ● Limit, 24 Participants

When you are clear and happy you make different choices. They lead down remarkably different paths from the ones you pick when you are afraid or caught in a web of life-extinguishing beliefs.
Knowing how to break out from beliefs that cause emotional pain and block success has transformed my life. I cannot imagine anything that would add more value to your life and your coaching career than being able to recognize and break out from limiting beliefs to happiness, success and miracles!

That is why I designed The BREAKOUT Coach Training for:
• Experienced and new coaches
• Counselors
• Teachers
• Therapists
• People in the healing professions
• Committed students of human potential

My work with people from all walks of life, including some of the most successful coaches in the business, confirms how priceless it is to work through fears and self doubt. The ability to coach someone through limiting beliefs is equally important - and as rare as hen's teeth!

Join us in Palm Springs!

Breakout Coach Training
October 27-30 ● Palm Springs, California ● Limit, 24 Participants
Tuition: $875 (After July 15)
Take advantage of the early registration discount of $100 and pay only $775.
Register now: http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

Learn how to:
• Use breakout dialogues to coach people through fear and doubt that keeps them stuck
• Work with individual belief systems in a deep and meaningful way
• Recognize hidden beliefs that block happiness and success
• Break out from the beliefs that hold you and your clients back
• Expand your ability to work in the miracle-attracting space of acceptance
• Distinguish desire from attachment
• Present yourself and your work comfortably and confidently - see video op below!
• Tap into the strongest motivation we all have (and overcome the reluctance to use it)
• Make peace with the past and why it matters

This training provides:
• Extensive dialogue practice and constructive feedback
• Ample opportunities to explore your issues about success, relationships, money and other important areas of your life
• Limited class size of 24 people to assure individual attention
• A certificate of completion
• Follow up conference call in November to share experiences, answer questions, encourage and support each other

Video Presentation: Have you ever heard that to expand your career, "You need a quality video"? One of the training projects will be support and practice to communicate about yourself clearly and confidently. If you like, you can present yourself and your work for a 2 minute video. Award winning filmmaker, Bruce Feagle, will film parts of the training including those presentations. That is included in your tuition. If you like, Bruce will also create a DVD and a video file of your presentation with music and graphics, such as your contact info, for only $150. You can add this valuable marketing tool to your website or You Tube.

Tuition: $875. Early registration discount: $100 = $775 until July 15
To join us for this breakout adventure register now: http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

Meeting space and lodging: We will meet in a private banquet room that opens to a large courtyard at the foot of a 10,000 foot mountain. The hotel has given us such an astounding low rate they asked us not to mention it to other guests -- $85.00 per night for double or single occupancy. That includes a continental breakfast plus free shuttle service to and from the Palm Springs airport. You will receive a special rate code to use and more information after you register.

What people are saying:

I've been working with Mandy for more than 20 years. She is the clearest, happiest, and most effective miracle-maker I've ever known. She helps me get clear so I get results. I have never met anyone like her. I love her.
-Joe Vitale, author of "The Attractor Factor" and way too many other books to list here.

Whenever I'm feeling stuck and convinced I'll never get back into the flow, I turn to Mandy Evans - her deceptively simple questions are fast-acting, long-lasting, friendly and fun!
-Michael Neill, SuperCoach and best selling author of "You Can Have What You Want."

Mandy's workshops have helped me go for it in every area of my life. She has given me wonderful tools to release limiting beliefs and open to the larger flow of the universe. I now embrace life fully, and look forward to each new adventure.
-Sonia Gunderson

Sometimes just learning more information is not enough. We need to take action- change our thinking, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. Taking Mandy's Break Out weekend helped me to realize how and why I was holding myself back from a fuller life, not facing certain difficulties, and to reconnect to my inner Spirit of daring and joyous living. Inspired and 'breakout' determined, I have now completed a huge project avoided for 10 years! Also, by taking the necessary steps to action and believing in my core of joy.
-Laura Silva, M.A., LicMHC, Awakening Coach and Intuitive Psychotherapist

The BREAKOUT weekend experience was life changing for me personally and professionally. Mandy's gift for teaching and practicing the BREAKOUT Option Method is brilliant. If something is not working in your life you can be sure somewhere behind it is a self-defeating belief. Wouldn't you like to know what that belief is? Happiness IS only a thought away.
-Dr. Robert Edelburg, The Palm Springs Healing Center

Limited to 24 participants, to guarantee your space register now: http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

See you in Palm Springs!

Why Bother with Those Pesky Beliefs

2011-06-10T13:29:00.000-07:00

Why Bother with Beliefs? Positive ones. Negative ones.
Limiting, self-defeating ones. Why bother with those all
those pesky beliefs anyway?

Because what you believe effects every choice you make.

Every day we humans grin with delight or feel our hearts
break; we suit up or give up, get married or divorced, take
jobs, quit jobs, make peace or go to war because of what
we believe. We make important life decisions operating
from a hidden program we are not even aware we have.

Intense emotions sweep through us. Sometimes they stay longer
than we like. All because of our belief systems, our individual
versions of reality.

That is why I encourage you to pay attention to your beliefs.
Learn to question every emotion you do not like feeling; you
will find your beliefs. What is that emotion about? Why is
that the way to feel? What are you concerned would happen
if you did not feel that way?

Challenge every limit to following your heartfelt desire. You
will uncover the beliefs that hold you back. Nurture the tingling
awareness of what you want to attract to you and move toward.
It will lead you through life learning everything you need to
know as you go.

If I sound unusually impassioned today, I am.

Why? Because I do not believe beliefs are important. I know
they are! And very few people are paying much attention,
except you! Thank you so much for your interest, encouragement
and support. Your awareness is important. Your open minded
curiosity will change your life and the lives of those you touch.

Would you like to go much deeper and learn a whole lot more
about how to break out to success, happiness and miracles?
Come to the BREAKOUT Coach Training in Palm Springs,
October 27-30. I will train 24 people how to indentify and break
out from beliefs that hold them back.

Designed for both new and experienced coaches, teachers,
therapists and people in the healing professions the course is open
to all committed students. Everyone is a coach to someone,
especially ourselves.

An announcement goes out next week with a discounted early
registration tuition of $775. The course may fill quickly. If you
want to come and be sure you have a space, let me know.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Love,
Mandy

The BREAKOUT Store is Open. Check it out:
http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

Remembrance and Reconciliation

2011-05-27T13:39:00.000-07:00

Did you know memorial day began as a time of remembrance and reconciliation to honor soldiers from both sides of the American Civil War? First known as Decoration Day, by the early 20th century it became a time to visit and decorate the graves of family members.

My grandmother guarded every blossom in our yard from plucking before that last weekend in May. Then we I loaded up the car with peonies, roses, lilacs and tulips and drove out to the Rockville Cemetary. We visited old graves of relatives I never knew and the newer one of my paternal grandfather, even though my parents were divorced, in the true spirit of remembrance.

All 4 of my grandparents are buried there now, some of my mother's ashes scattered, all of my aunts and uncles and 3 cousins though I am the first born. My heart feels very full with sweet memories of them and the soft scent of roses, peonies and lilacs

Happy Memorial day Weekend. With all of the usual celebrations I wish you a time of sweet remembrance, reconciliation and spring flowers.

New Breakout Tools

2011-05-26T11:13:00.000-07:00

The BREAKOUT STORE is open! It's full of tools to
break out to success, happiness and miracles at
http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

I sorted through hours of material, editing and digitalizing
to give you the best of what I've learned from my life's
work. I put it online and priced everything way low so
everyone can afford it.

What's there?

"Beliefs About Love" Stop sabotaging Cupid with a
fresh look at love.

Peace with the Past" recorded at the Betty Ford Center
reveals deeply personal details of my journey as the daughter
of a violent alcoholic father and how I made peace with my
own past.

"Choosing Happiness" provides a complete overview of
the Option Method and a rare opportunity to listen to actual
real-life Option Dialogues.

The "Breakout to Miracles" video was recorded live at the
amazing Miracles Weekend with Joe Vitale in San Diego.
The entire talk is here along with the standing ovation!
Miracles abound! Learn how to accept yours.

My books, "Emotional Options" and "Travelling Free"
are there too, filled with workshop-tested exercises and
insights, they work like your own work-shop-in-a-book.

If you want to break out from prison you need some tools.
When the prison is of your own making, built with beliefs
that block your happiness and clamp limits on your
success, that old hack saw we see in the movies won't
help at all. Go to The Breakout Store and get some new
ones http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store

It is important! Why?

With every false conclusion you come to you fence out a
bit of freedom. Every time you adopt a erroneous belief
about who you are, what you can have and the nature our
world, you rule out countless possibilities. Little by little
as you go through life you confine yourself in a smaller
and space with fewer opportunities. Often the space is
filled with fear, anger, regret, or guilt.

We all do it! But few of us become aware of how our own
belief systems have to shape our lives. Those of us who
share these messages have broken out of solitary
confinement for sure. I think the breakouts are infinite and
love to hear about yours. I'm grateful for your insights
and enouragement.

Please share this with anyone who could use some good
breakout tools.

To your happiness and success!

Love,

Mandy

Comments welcome! Thanks to Bruce Feagle for all sorts of creative and technical help. www.brucefeagle.com

Breakout from Regret

2011-05-22T14:07:00.000-07:00

Regret works like swallowing a bit of poison every day.
It destroys your health and well-being. It closes down
your view of life, blocking out opportunities and beauty.
Habitual regret exacts an enormous toll but delivers no
reward.

A man I'll call Tom taught me my first lesson about
regret. He showed how experiences from long ago fire
up a feeling like the replay of a video - only in real life.

If you want to find beliefs that block happiness start
with a strong feeling you do not like having. Identify
the feeling and question it.

That takes courage because when you question an
emotion with an open mind you enter into uncharted
territory. When I work with people neither one of us
knows what we will discover and go through together.
Years of explorations have taught me that the feeling
we are looking at will most likely come alive while
we study it.

The feeling Tom did not like having was rage. We began
asking questions. I did not have the answers, but Tom
did.

What are you feeling rage about?
My childhood.

What about your childhood?
My mother died when I was twelve. I was the oldest of
five kids and my father always wanted me to take care
of them. His idea of taking care was being in charge of
them. They resented it. They hated me.

What about that leads to rage?
I felt like I only had two choices, disappoint my dad or
make my brothers and sisters hate me.

What about that involves rage?
Tom's body trembled with anger. He spoke through
clenched teeth and began to cry.

Because I'll never know! I'll never know who I would be
if I'd just been free to be a kid. I'll never know.

What about not knowing who you would be if your childhood
had been different leads to rage?

Though I've seen this look many times it always moves me deeply.
Tom's rage slowly dissolved. After a quiet moment he moved
into a sort of soft bewilderment. That's the space of creativity
where the way it was is gone and the new way can come
into being.

He smiled and said simply, I don't know. I don't feel it now.
I guess none of us knows who we would be if things had
been different.

That was a beginning of many explorations for Tom and
for me.

I began to notice the power of regret in the lives of my
students, my friends and myself. For some of us it lingered
as sadness, for others an abiding sense of shame, for many
the default feeling was anger or even rage.

What belief held these feelings in place? What kept them
alive so long?

Since we each create a unique belief system as we go through
life I found many beliefs. There was one belief though, that
everyone held that fed the feelings of regret: If that regrettable
thing or circumstance had not happened, I'd be me, with
my life, only it would be better.

The kinds of better differ; I'd be more confident, successful,
stronger, more beautiful, have more money, be unashamed,
fearless, lovable.

That belief, I would be me, with my life, only better, is not true!
You can't change one puzzle piece in real life and come up with the
same picture only prettier. The whole thing changes. Your life would
be completely different. We have no idea what it would be like. How do you
regret a complete unknown?

Instead of wondering what caused things to happen, Bruce Di
Marsico (founder of the Option Method) liked to ponder, I
wonder what this will be for? I like to ask, what would I like
this to be for, what do I want to come from this?

If there is something you regret you may want to ask those two
questions too. I'd love to hear what you find. Post comments at

Wishing you happiness, success and freedom from regret!

Love,
Mandy

Vision and Action

2011-02-27T12:04:00.000-08:00

“Vision without action is a daydream. Action without a vision is a nightmare.”

This anonymous “tweet” packs more wisdom about how to create your life than I learned in my first 30 years. For most of them I bounced off the walls of disaster. I reacted and recoiled. The only purposeful moves I made were toward isolated, specific goals I created in an unconscious prison of limiting beliefs. Beliefs about what I could have. Who I could be. How I must feel.

Beyond stories of saints and madmen, I had no idea what a vision was. It never occurred to me to consider what kind of life I wanted to create much less a game plan with action.

My daydreams played out fleeting moments, mostly half conscious fantasies that came to me unbidden.

Since I began to work with them so long, long ago I have learned a lot about how to break out from limiting beliefs that block happiness and keep people stuck in anger, fear, resentment, guilt and other painful emotions. It has been thrilling to witness courageous seekers strip away beliefs that block success, to see them flourish and thrive.

When you see for yourself, with certainty, that something you have believed for a long time is simply not true you move through confusion into a more open field. It’s the one the Persian poet, Rumi, talks about when he says, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.”

It is a wonderful open space filled with possibilities for your creativity to mold into unique form and experience. Few people go there after childhood. We cling instead to illusions of certainty like our ideas of right doing, believing that (even false) certainty provides security.

I know a lot about how to get to that open field. I’m just beginning to learn how to combine vision and action to harness the vast power of conscious creation available there.

I can almost feel the boundaries between me and infinite possibilities. Though I perceive only a tiny glimpse of what is possible for one human to create in real life on planet earth it is more than I ever imagined for much of my life.

The time we spend together in that field of possibilities reminds me of the less known lines of the Rumi poem:

“When the soul lies down in that grass,
The world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase, each other
Doesn’t make any sense.”

Cheering us on to great visions and inspired action!
With love,
Mandy

Breakout to Love

2011-02-13T11:38:00.000-08:00

Do you greet the approach of Valentine's day
with joy? Or dread? Or something in between?

With a whole day dedicated to celebrating
love most of us focus on romantic love. What
to give or get? On what it means if we don't
have a sweetheart. Or didn't get a rose or a
dozen roses. It can all be very stressful, even
heartbreaking if you hold limiting beliefs about
love.

There's an easy fix; celebrate all kinds of love.

I love Valentine's day and sending Valentines.
So I'm sending one to you with a very long stemmed
rose from my patio!

Wishing you an open heart overflowing with all
kinds of love, like the love I feel for you
right now.

And brotherly love, sisterly, fatherly, motherly,
grandmotherly, co-workerly, son and daughterly,
we-are-all-one love, spiritual love, sexy love,
happy love, grieving love, caring love, generous
love, curious, wondering, friendly, blessing,
compassionate, grateful, forgiving, and romantic
love.

All kinds of love!

Happy Valentine's Day!

With love,
Mandy

http://www.mandyevans.com/

Break Out from this Futile Fight

2011-01-12T10:06:00.000-08:00

Don't fight reality, use it.

Reality changes all of the time. We can fight it, deny it, complain about it or use it. I recommend using it. Especially since reality does not give a fig about what we think of it. It just is.

Complaining about, fearing and railing against reality it only raises blood pressure and increases tension. It limits creativity.

But you can change reality! Especially your own. You can lose weight, gain financial success, get out of debt, become more loving, move to another town or country, get married, get divorced – well you get the picture.

Helping to change someone else’s reality (like sharing resources or sound advice) is more of a challenge but often worth the effort. Since it is almost impossible to alter someone else’s reality without their cooperation I suggest skipping that endeavor all together!

Here’s an example of how to use reality. A flurry of inflation warnings made financial news today. Some of us will worry and complain others will take advantage of this new reality.

We can bemoan the price of coffee or buy coffee stocks. You can open an online brokerage account for as little as $500. There is even an EFT (electronically traded fund) just for coffee, symbol BAL. Not recommending, just sayin’.

If interest rates go up, the price of bonds will go down. Sell bonds? Redouble efforts to pay off credit cards? Buy real estate, as in “buy low, sell high?”

That is just one example of how to break out from a futile fight against reality.

Here are some others:
• Stop complaining about what is and invest some energy in what you want to attract or move toward.

• If your friends take advantage of you, put your foot down and say no and/or find some thoughtful new friends.

• If someone betrays your trust, instead of trying to make him be more loyal factor in that information when you interact next time.

• If you do not like where you live, move!

• If your boss is a total pain find a better a way to communicate with her or start look for another job.

• If you want more love in your life, be more loving. Just sitting quietly to send love and blessings to people you care about changes you and the energy you share with others.

• Denying reality does not delay it or make it go away. Denial is not a river in Egypt.

The most important, powerful change you can make is your own limiting beliefs. When you regularly uncover and break out from beliefs you hold that block success and happiness you step into a whole new world. Your view of reality opens up. You can see amazing possibilities that used to be obscured by self-defeating beliefs.

Reality rocks! Use it well.

Please share this with anyone who might benefit.

Cheering you on to success and happiness with love,
Mandy

Author of:
“Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs”
“Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness”
Available at www.mandyevans.com

What to Do in 2011?

2010-12-31T12:57:00.000-08:00

Here it comes, 2011! And how are we going to know what to do?

Advice pours in from ever-expanding sources. Google, Facebook, Twitter and life coaches have joined Fox News, CNN, the print pundits, gurus, clergy, therapists, teachers, spouses, friends and family in a great cacophony of do-this-don’t-do-that’s.

I get a fair amount of requests for such advice myself – a bit more than I can handle sometimes. It keeps me thinking about this:

Each of our lives is so unique, so very precious. No one on this planet has ever walked your path or ever will again. No one but you has learned everything you know or rises to meet the same new challenge you face. What a wonder you are!
I’m reviewing the lessons that enrich my life. They may add strength, love and beauty to yours.

You are the authority on your life. No matter who tells you what, you have to decide what advice to follow, who is wise and who seems foolish to you. There is no escaping it, in the matter of your life, it is up to you!

Desire marks the path. I spent last week with my family. Our newest member, Emery is a small 5 month old bundle of happiness and desire. Watching her bright eyes as she reaches and rolls over for the next delight to crinkle, crunch, bang or chew on reminds me of the simple strength of this inner sense of guidance. It may be all we need to lead us through life, if we only dare to follow it.

My son, Barnaby says I gave him some good advice about my favorite form of desire when he was in high school, “You told me if I follow my intense curiosity, I’ll always be alright.” He’s a happy entrepreneur, founder and CEO of http://www.foodista.com/; it seems to work.

Happiness is the ultimate goal. Never hold your happiness hostage to be ransomed for love, money, success or stuff. As supercoach Michael Neill says, “Happiness leads to success a lot more often than success leads to happiness.” You can have your happiness cake and still devour your fill of material gains and mighty triumphs.

As each new year approaches, I write an “I Welcome List” of what I want to bring into my life. This year I’m focusing on who I want to be and how I want to experience the precious days of this miracle – being alive and capable of learning, teaching, loving, laughing and being happy.

Please share your comments, thoughts and knowing what you welcome in 2011 here. I'm pretty sure sharing helps make it real.

Cheering you on with happiness and love,
Mandy

“Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness”
"Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past”
are available at http://tinyurl.com/ordermandysbooks

A Breakout from Struggle

2010-12-03T15:36:00.000-08:00

This powerful principle rarely makes it to the
lists of rules, keys, codes, lessons, steps,
agreements and secrets out there:

Your word is your bond.

Some emails from people who are caught in
desperate struggles inspired me to write this
message to you.

It took me a long time to understand the
incredible creative power that doing what
you say you will do generates.

I'm still learning. I'm doing a pretty good job
of keeping my word to others. I have a way
to go on keeping my word to myself. I think
I lack awareness of the consequences. They
appear so quickly when you break your word
to someone else!

Your word is your pledge to yourself, another,
the universe, about the new reality you are
going to create.

You can promise, intend, affirm and visualize
forever but if what you say is not true you
really affirm that you are a liar.

I did not say bad liar. Just liar. This message
is not about being good or bad or to promote
guilt in any way. The laws of attraction and
natural consequences are quite strong enough
to teach us what we need to learn if open
ourselves to honest observation.

When you can count on yourself to do what
you say you will do, you sign up to play in the
major leagues of manifestation. When others
can count on you and you on them, you build
strong friendships and partnerships based on
earned trust.

I first began to ponder this issue seriously when
I took the est Training in the 1970's. Werner
Erhard's powerful, controversial 2 weekend
seminar emphasized keeping your agreements
as a requirement for having "your life work." I
continued to participate with the est organization
in seminars and the 6 month grueling, no-holds-
barred Guest Seminar Leader's program.

To get clear may require piercing layers of
unconsciousness and hidden beliefs. I remember
one such piercing vividly. I sat at a long phone
bank with a stack of cards from people who
had attended an est guest seminar that week
preparing to call and ask them to sign up.
I dreaded it.

My enrollment team leader shouted through the
roar of surrounding voices to ask how many
people I was going to register that night. My
mind raced about like a squirrel on steroids
searching for an acceptable answer. It never
occurred to me to tell the truth, "I'm just trying
to stay under the radar and get through the night
without crying."

I had only just begun to recognize that myself.
As the fog lifted I saw more examples of how
afraid I was of standing out if I did not match
someone's expectations. As much as I loved
applause and approval, I always left a door
open to slip out the back.

That explained a lot of things about the struggles
in my life: my lack of success, the painful
relationship I clung to, my paralyzing fear of
confrontations.

That moment on the phones served me well. It
opened doors I did not know I closed. As I
write this, I'm proud of my accomplishments.
I have only mutually beneficial relationships.
I recently weathered a few confrontations by
standing up for myself without losing compassion.

Those fog-parting moments seem infinite--as
perhaps enlightenment itself is. There have
been many more. I'm sure there are more
where they came from.

If you want to breakout from desperation to an
adventure in enlightenment, pay close attention
to your real desires, your discernable intentions
and what you tell yourself and others. Not so
you can be good or avoid being bad, but for the
sheer clarity and power of truth as you know it.

Your word is your bond.

Love,
Mandy

How to Break Up Reality

2010-09-21T20:36:00.000-07:00

Al Diaz and I had such a stimulating conversation last night on his show I’m still thinking about it. One thing we talked about were our personal wake up calls.

Here’s one. When my son was about 12 we were shopping for school clothes with our friend Brenda. Brenda worked as head of finance for Werner Erhard’s famous and infamous est organization. She knew a thing or two about what constituted reality.

When my son’s strong will met my soft heart getting him to do stuff was tricky. When Brenda and I were ready to leave the store that day I told him it was time to go. Then I gave him a few minutes more. Then I told him it really was time to go – about 12 times.

Finally Brenda leaned in and said It’s time to break up reality. When I asked what she meant, she replied, We walk out the door and go to the car.

You’d be amazed at how quickly he got there too.. He adjusted to that new reality immediately.

I get a lot of questions from people about how to change someone else. The key is always the same, change yourself. In family therapy the concept goes like this: If one member of a family changes, everyone else has to adjust to the new role definition. In metaphysics it is: If you wiggle our finger, the whole universe has to adjust.

That triggers another est memory. I was in at an est seminar with Werner Erhard. Someone asked a question, then listened to the answer about how he had to be responsible for his own experience. How come it’s always me? He asked only ½ joking. I don’t know how to tell you this, Werner replied, but in your life it’s always going to be you.

If there is a situation or relationship you are struggling with, maybe it’s time to break up reality. It takes action. Talking, unless it’s really different from your old familiar routine will not do it. For a lively adventure tweak your role in the universe, with your family, or at work with a new dance step, a new approach. I strongly recommend a light heart in a happy spirit of adventure. Watch what happens and let us know.

Love,
Mandy

You can listen to my recorded conversation with Al Diaz at
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Ilumine-Ao

You can break up reality at the BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Vancouver, BC.
www.breakouttomiracles.com

12 Tips to Harness the Power of Desire

2010-09-20T12:13:00.000-07:00

A rich discussion with Michael Neill and the graduates of the 1010 Supercoach Academy prompted me to share these thoughts with you about desire.

1. Desire is the most powerful motivation there is.
2. Your belief system determines what you allow yourself to want, even what dreams you dare to have.
3. You can always grow if you follow your desire as a compass to guide you through life.
4. You have to correct your course as new information becomes available.
5. It is important to distinguish between what you want and what you think you should want.
6. Getting what you want is wonderful.
7. It is very important to be open to better than you ever imagined.
8. The actual, live, felt state of desire is one of happy anticipation.
9. Worry, dread and envy are often confused with desire; they are not the same thing.
10. The difference between desire and attachment is vast.
11. The ultimate goal is happiness.
12. The secret about desire is that you can have the ultimate goal, happiness, right now if you only will allow it.

Throughout the ages sages have advised us to “follow the light” and to “look within.” What lights you up from within?

Desiring your comments --

Love,

Mandy

Let's Break Out to Miracles Together

2010-09-11T18:46:00.000-07:00

If you are honestly ready to break out to happiness, success and miracles of wonder please consider coming to Vancouver for a BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Vancouver, BC, October 10/23-24.

It may take a personal breakout for you to cross that line from thinking about it, reading, listening and video viewing about it to embark on a new adventure in a larger, happier more creative reality. I’m cheering you on.

I know, it’s hard to imagine all by yourself. I created this weekend so we can break out from the limits we’ve put on our own vision together.

I would never encourage you to go into debt or damage your finances in order to attend. If you can handle it that leaves two questions:
Are you worth it?
Can this weekend deliver the breakout you want?

I have shared this powerful experience for several years in different settings. The feedback has been extraordinary.

The Breakout weekend contains all the best insights and workshop tested exercises from my life’s work. I love this weekend.

I’m especially eager to share it with you. Why? If you are reading this blog you are already engaged in the wonderful process of liberating yourself from limiting and self defeating beliefs that hold you back.

If you are ready, tempted or just curious go see at www.breakouttomiracles.com

There is a BIG $150 discount if you register by 9-30 so go see now.

Let’s stage a breakout together!

Love,
Mandy

Miracles of Wonder

2010-08-30T09:56:00.000-07:00

When you break out from your own limits you discover you are surrounded by miracles and always have been. Take off the blinders you never even noticed putting on; you will see miracles of wonder everywhere.

I lived in despair for so many years. The oldest I have ever felt was when I was twenty eight. I could not see anything in front of me but a struggle to make it through as a newly single mother – barely. I viewed the world through my own belief system. It told me not to expect much from life, not to ask for anything from anyone.

Infinite opportunities for love, happiness, success – and miracles of wonder surrounded me. I could not see them. Now I see so many I get dizzy trying to choose. It was a long, sometimes painful journey, filled with blessings, love and guidance from many wonderful teachers.

As a coach, writer, seminar leader, I have walked with a whole lot of people through doors they never knew they closed. We broke out from the prisons of their own limiting beliefs into wide open spaces. It can be a dizzying experience, difficult, almost impossible to achieve on your own.

That is why I created the BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend. I took the most effective, powerful exercises and insights from long years of experience and combined them into a one weekend course. The idea is for people to learn how to uncover their own self-defeating beliefs, how to explore them and break out from them into greater freedom.

We have a really good time too. When you get past your own limits, there’s not much left, but truth, beauty, miracles and fun. What would you like to breakout from? Is there a miracle you want to break out to? Learn how at www.breakouttomiracles.com

This course is designed for lasting impact. When you know how to spot a prison and escape from it, you can do it over and over for the rest of your life.

The next BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend will be in Vancouver, British Columbia on October 23/24, hosted by Chuck Davis. You can learn a lot online; it does not compare to the live experience we will share.

This may be the best next step you could ever take and the best gift you could give yourself. Please check it out for yourself or someone you care about. There is a substantial discount for early registration. Enrollment is limited so please go to www.breakouttomiracles.com now.

Let’s break out to miracles in Vancouver!

Love,
Mandy

Strange Belief

2010-08-13T09:05:00.000-07:00

I live in the desert of Southern California. In August the

temperature may soar to 120° and rarely dips below 80°
even in the dead of the night. The asphalt melts. Walls
heat up, stay hot and never cool down. This year we
have basked in the sweet cooling of mid 70's night
after night.

On a glorious desert morning I said to my friend,
"Isn't it amazing?" He said, "I guess we'll have to pay for
it in September."

"What a strange belief!" I blurted. Having spent a lifetime
exploring them, I tend to notice them. "Why would we
have to 'pay' for good weather? What would we 'pay'
with, suffering?"

It's probably my upbringing." He said.

"Oh, I said, "The old pain is good -- pleasure, not so much
routine."

We laughed but I've been thinking about it ever since.

Another incarnation of that belief came up in a coaching
session. Someone said, "If I lose him, it means I failed to be
good enough to have a relationship with."

I think that is important, really important to explore, so we did.
My client decided that whether or not the person in question
wanted to continue the relationship was up to him and had
little or nothing to do with how good she was - though
goodness knows she had tried!

Now I'm not suggesting you go out and be bad. But think
about it. How did this notion of constantly evaluating and
judging everything as good or bad gain traction?

What if we each of us is always doing the best we can
according to our genetics, experience, what we know and
what we believe?

What if each of us is free to choose which relationships and
experiences we welcome and which ones we would like to
pass on?

I value kindness and happiness highly. But I still chuckle at the
old saying, "Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go
wherever they want!"

It's Friday. How about a little fun? A lot of pleasure? An
abundance of happiness and a smidgen of naughtiness?

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love,
Mandy

What do you think? Add comments below.

Curious Power

2010-08-04T12:31:00.000-07:00

In his senior year of high school, my son Barnaby told me he planned to go to Madrid for his first year of college. I forgot that I spent almost a year in Spain in my 20’s. Why?!? I gasped in motherly horror thinking only of the distance.

I decided to take your advice, he replied. I think this was a first. What did I say? I asked in pretty much the same voice.

He answered. You told me that any time I didn’t know what to do I should follow my intense curiosity and I would always be alright. I want to learn Spanish, Mom. I can almost taste fluency.

Well the kid is truly fluent and I’m still thinking about that advice. Curiosity is my favorite form of desire. It may be the most powerful form of all. Unconscious curiosity works just as well as conscious curiosity though.

Last Sunday, I packed up to head down the mountain to the desert after a lovely weekend at my wee cabin on a creek. My exasperated neighbor came over to chat about his woes. He ended a good long list with the news that both of his computers were down and it would take a week to get them fixed. We laughed about how dependent we had become. Wow, I thought with a strong blast of curiosity, I wonder what it would be like to go a whole week without my computer. I got in the car and drove away.

All the way down the twists and turns I had the feeling I had forgotten something besides the vegetables in the fridge, something important.

Day three without my computer is going well. I assume it’s still sitting on the desk. I’m writing this on a borrowed laptop feeling very free. It’s like a vacation from my stuff.

All sorts of wonderful experiences I want to taste, feel, explore, enjoy flood my awareness. Paying a bit more attention this time! Devoting some conscious thought to my intense curiosity.

Without my notes, the old fliers and formats, in the final planning stages of the next BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend, I notice and nurture my intense curiosity. A new sponsor will produce the course. A new location, a new country. I wonder who will come. What miracles and adventures will we share? How will we touch each other’s lives? With a tingle of excitement I dare to wonder, what if it fills up immediately, is a huge success for everyone involved, benefits all of the participants for the rest of their lives in miraculous ways? What if there is a big old waiting list?

Any time you don’t know what to do, follow your intense curiosity! It’s a wonderful, powerful form of desire. Pay attention to your curiosity. Nurture it. Please let us know where it leads you by posting a comment.

PS. I hope I've piqued your curiosity about the next Breakout to Miracles Weekend. Announcement coming soon.

Photos of Emery

2010-07-14T13:26:00.000-07:00

Sheri when Emery was just over an hour old.

Oh no, I sent everyone off to Facebook where they had to sign up to see pics. Sorry! Here they are.

Here's to life, love and happiness.

Mandy

A New Life

2010-07-13T17:19:00.000-07:00

I am in Seattle, Washington thinking of you and the miracles we share. My son Barnaby and his partner, Sheri have a new baby girl, Emery.

Sheri was scheduled for a C-section delivery on Monday. Thanks to a couple of divorces and new marriages Emery has 7 grandparents! We all gathered at the Waterfront restaurant for dinner Sunday. As we stood on the deck waiting for drinks Emery began her entrance. The parents sped off to the hospital. The 7 of us had dinner and arrived to greet The new baby after wandering around a maze of underground parking lots like a group of geriatric explorers.

You should have heard us explaining to the waiter, who by now was very curious, who was related to whom and how. He was amazed that, “Wow, and you all get along!”

Life takes so may unexpected turns. I’m pretty sure we are all doing the best we can with what we know and what we believe as we go along. I am certain it’s better to bless than condemn and more fun to celebrate new life than regret the past.

If you would like to see some photos of us they are here http://facebook.com/mandyspage. I’d love to be facebook friends with you too.

To life, happiness, and miracles.
Mandy

Your thoughts and comments are so welcome!

Declare Your Independence

2010-07-02T10:14:00.000-07:00

No one can authorize you to be free. If you want freedom, sometimes you have to take it.

It's easy to get stuck in prisons of our own limiting and self-defeating beliefs. Often we do not know how to break out. We forget that boundless possibilities for happiness, love and abundance surround all of us. They are always there, whether we know how to access them or not.

As we celebrate our Independence Day this weekend in the US I invite you to declare your own independence. At the top of a piece of paper write your title to freedom, "My Personal Declaration of Independence." Begin with "I declare my independence from... " and write away!

Warning! This powerful exercise works in mysterious ways. Read about what happened to me one dark July night in the mountains with an angel – a real one http://tinyurl.com/personaldeclaration

Got something to say about it? Yeah, comments! Share your declaration and make it real.

Break Out from this Oversold Myth

2010-06-13T14:19:00.000-07:00

Contrary to the advice of many personal and spiritual
development gurus, it is not always a good idea to get
a fixed idea of what you want, post a picture on the
fridge and visualize it every day until you get it or die
trying.

Why? Because your fixed focus may exclude miracles.
Say you set off on a hike, for example. You goal is to
reach the top of a mountain with a wonderful view at
the end of your trail.

You come across a small pool of water, surrounded by
moss covered rocks. It's early spring. Magenta trillium
and other woodsy wildflowers peak out from decaying
leaves.

Will you stop in awe or forge blindly ahead to your view
from the top?

The sound of rushing water captures your attention. Just
around the bend a waterfall, fed my snow melt cascades
into a rushing stream. You hardly notice. On to the top.
A fawn darts across an opening in the trees. Not on your
list of adventures for the day.

Finally as you huff and puff your way up the final incline,
clouds move in obscuring the view. Dang you think, another
wasted day.

You can apply the analogy to any goal - like a promotion
at work, a new car, home or relationship. Like this one.
A vivacious, intelligent young woman in a coaching group
told us how unhappy she was because her boyfriend,
Emmet had ended their relationship.

As we explored her misery, she explained in a tear choked
voice that he was the best boyfriend she ever had. After
some exploration of the limiting beliefs that held her un-
happiness in place her view of possibilities began to
expand. It no longer seemed true that Emmett was her last
chance at a happy relationship. Within minutes she grinned
at us and said, "I should get a tee shirt that says "Emmett
or Better."

My teacher and friend, Bruce Di Marsico who originated the
Option Method, put it well. "It's nice to get what you want,
but it's important to be open to better than you ever thought of."

It's your mind; do you keep it open to the miracles all around
you? Your heart? Is it truly open to an abundance of love?

Cheering you on to better than you ever dreamed of!

Love,
Mandy

PS, Remember "Why You Want Everything?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gewLjrUa0O0 on YouTube.
Now available with Hungarian subtitles - better than
I dreamed possible!

How to Survive a Crisis, Even a Shipwreck

2010-05-26T13:48:00.000-07:00

High waves surged at the small fishing boat. The first one swamped it. The next one turned it over and dumped John Nevarez, his brother Elias, and their friend, Rebecca into the Atlantic Ocean.

For three days they clung to the upside down boat and a cooler with some water and Gatorade in it.

What important priorities did they put in place to survive? “Get rid of all fears,” came first. Next order of business? Tell blonde jokes, favorite lines from movies and share happy times with family.

On day three they were rescued, dehydrated, badly stung by jelly fish and in excellent spirits.

With the stock market crashing like a big wave, oil spilling, Koreas threatening – well you’ve got the picture, sometimes it feels as if we are all afloat in heavy seas.

Will the Nevarez’ approach work for you? Get rid of fears. But how?
Here are the questions I ask myself and coaching clients that dredge up the limiting beliefs that hold fear in place:

1. What are you afraid of? Get really specific. When you deal with fear, the devil is in the details.

2. Why are you afraid of that (whatever your fear focuses on)? Of all the feelings your could have, why fear?

3. What are you concerned would happen if you were not afraid? When we are afraid, many times we are reluctant to feel better. Somehow it seems as if fear will help us and keep us safe. It does not. Awareness of danger helps but it does not require fear.

Happiness helps.

When you face a challenge, even a great big one, instead of scrambling about to find a solution attend to your emotional well-being first.

That’s what those capsized guys did. After they calmed down and cheered up, their creativity kicked in. They took turns tying one person to the top of the boat to rest, rationed that Gatorade and figured out how to survive to fish again.

On the third day a boat spotted them and called the Coast Guard.

May you survive every crisis, be happy and flourish!

Love,
Mandy

PS: My YouTube Video, “Why You Want Everything” just showed up with a Hungarian translation. What a kick! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zJTZl5CfNeo

The Care and Feeding of Mothers

2010-05-05T12:36:00.000-07:00

A report out this week ranks the USA low on its list of the best places to be a mother. It cites a high rate maternal and infant mortality as well as short maternity leaves in its findings.

Since my work is with limiting beliefs that block success and happiness one more cause stands out as well. Human babies do not survive without a great amount of care. If we’re here, we got it, from someone. But in our society we appear to believe that mothers (and caregivers in general) produce endless care, support, nurturing, love, patience, courage and endurance but require nothing to sustain them.

That belief blocks the care and feeding of mothers. Do you know a family where they lavish daily praise and encouragement on the mom? Prepare her favorite foods? Cheer her on when she’s discouraged? Read to her when she’s sick? Imagine what a happy household that would be.

On Sunday, in the US, we celebrate mother’s day, mostly with cards and flowers. A precious gift that is free is acknowledgement, of the gift of life, of caring. Maybe your mom pushed herself beyond her own limits and fears to nurture and provide for you, hoping beyond hope to spare you from every hurt that almost did her in, to give you the best shot to make what you will of the miracle of life. If your mother wasn’t able to do that, maybe someone else did. Or several people.

My mother and I had a rocky time of it but I had time to apologize for the thoughtless things I did and said as a child and teenager -- time to thank her for giving me life. She was surprised and touched. I’m so glad I did.

I wish I had acknowledged my grandmothers for their kindness, love and support. I tell them now, but I’m not so sure they get it.

If you would like to acknowledge your mother and/or those who nurtured you, I would love know your thoughts. You can leave comments here.

Acknowledging the amazing nurturing spirit in each of us! Happy Mother’s Day.

Love,
Mandy

Break Out from this Confusing Barrier to Happiness and Success

2010-04-20T10:26:00.000-07:00

When it comes to beliefs that block success and happiness here’s a popular whopper: Confusion is bad.

There’s more. That constricting belief usually comes with a snaggle of auxiliary ones like:

Don’t let anyone know you are confused
Being confused means you’re stupid
Confusion is humiliating
Avoid confusion at all costs

One of the first barriers my students work through in the Breakout Method, is reluctance to experience confusion. Confusion is a very high state of mind. It comes at that moment just before you learn something brand new or when you see that something is not the way you thought it was and new clarity emerges from the fog.

Fear of confusion or appearing confused keeps us thinking inside the box. Protecting yourself from confusion strengthens the walls. As we grow older the box gets smaller and tighter. It blocks new experiences, inspiration, information and miracles.

In seminars, most of my students break out way beyond fear of confusion. They actually learn to welcome it. When I see someone embrace a state of total bewilderment with gleeful enthusiasm and a grinning “Oh, boy, I am sooo confused!” I know we’ve stepped into a whole new arena.

Miracles, by definition reside outside the box of false certainty. Breaking out to miracles usually entails a passage through confusion to access the wonders that abound, just outside of the box of limiting beliefs.

Cheering you on to happy confusion!

Love,
Mandy

Learn more about embracing confusion:

http://tinyurl.com/emotionaloptions

Share your thoughts http://beliefbreakout.blogspot.com/

Your Connection to Miracles

2010-04-02T12:48:00.000-07:00

You came into this world with a way to attract what you
want or move toward it. Then your (mostly well-meaning)
parents, teachers, and media experts told you it was bad,
wrong and the cause of all suffering.

If you dare to follow the extraordinary power of desire as
an inner sense of direction you will bring wonders into
your life. Desire is the strongest motivation of all. Your
own heart's desire will lead you to a welcome outcome
more than all the discipline you could ever muster.

Be willing to correct your course as new information
becomes available.

Be happy now, the rest is gravy.

Work on yourself. As the old saying goes "trying to make
someone else change is like trying to teach a pig to sing.
It frustrates you and it makes the pig mad."

Focus, re-focus and focus again on what you want.

Because our limiting beliefs block so many opportunities
it helps to have someone point out other possibilities
among the infinite opportunities that surround us all.
You may choose a mentor, a coach, a friend or be blessed
with a mastermind group like mine to broaden your horizons.

Here is a secret about me that may help you break out to miracles.
My birthday is this Saturday, April 3rd. Do you know what my
strong desire has been for a long time? To get through it without
pain.

That's an improvement from early birthdays when I wanted to
get through it without devastating pain. My father was a violent
alcoholic. My mother always said, "I don't have a maternal bone
in my body." Although I had a far easier childhood than many
people I've worked with and some of you who will read this,
it was not conducive to jolly birthday celebrations.

This year another layer of fog parted and I saw it clearly! I had
limited my birthday desire to the avoidance of pain - a narrow
target I sometimes missed.

This year I am celebrating a birthday breakout. I want to have
an amazing, magical birthday full happy surprises beyond my
wildest imagination. I want mark my entry into this realm filled
with love and joy.

Desire has already attracted beautiful cards, Facebook messages,
thoughtful gifts and lunch and dinner dates with beloved friends.

Here's one from Harry Cauley. He was the leading man when I
worked in summer stock in 1960! His card said: "To my dear
friend, you never will be old. For, as you were when first your
eye I eyed, such is your beauty still." Wm. Shakespeare.

Such, my dears, is the power of desire to bring beautiful people,
generosity, grace, happiness, love, prosperity, joyful celebration -
whatever you want to welcome into your life to you.

When I blow out the candles you will be in my birthday wishes.

Desire marks the path.
Mandy

Lessons from Hummingbirds

2010-03-18T18:24:00.000-07:00

There is just something about hummingbirds. I confess to a stab of envy when my friend Betty found a hummingbird nest in a tree in her yard.

I dreamed of having that experience too. A thrill of delight followed when one began to build her nest right outside the window above my desk last year. Alas, she chose a large leaf on a shedding succulant. When it fell off, I knew the sinking feeling of disappointment. I'll bet she did too.

A few days ago I sipped some morning coffee and gazed out the window from the dining area in my little casita by the lake. A flash of movement caught my eye. A pair of super-speedy wings held a wee bird in place for a moment. She lit on a branch and poked at something.

Again and again she returned until she had her beautiful nest just about done. I thought, "I'd better tell the gardeners not to trim this tree." Then I thought, "They never trim this tree unless I ask them to." The thought persisted until I forced it out of my mind. They say humans are the only creatures who go against their own instincts.

Must be true, because I sure went against mine. When I returned to my vantage point, the tree had been trimmed and the little nester was nowhere in sight.

Now I knew the dejection of bitter disappointment.

'It's just an experience," I told myself. It's not something you really had.
"That's all we ever want!" I answered.
"Well, have another one," I replied.
" I wanted the watching-the-humming-bird one." I shot back.

Just about then, she flew in for the landing. I knew the joy, the delight, the rapture of a miracle.

Here's what I learned from the hummingbird.

Even if you are not always good, experience envy, indulge in disappointment, go against your own instincts, argue with yourself and do not create a happy experience evenwhen you know how -- miracles abound! You just have to keep an eye out and accept them.

I 'm thinking about presenting another "BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend" I'll keep you posted.

Love,
Mandy

PS -- Look how close they came! See the fresh cuts on the branch by her beak and behind her! Miracles abound!

Do You Use This Formula for Success?

2010-02-24T13:04:00.000-08:00

Last night I returned from an extraordinary experience in New York. I taught 40 coaches in Michael Neill’s Super Coach Academy how to help their clients to break out from beliefs that block happiness and success.

I’ve known and admired Michael for a few years. He is super good and super successful at what he does and in his life.

What does he do that so many of us do not? After a weekend with him and some reflection I got it. He is happy, but so are lots of people. He treats everyone so well. Especially me! Right down to the 4th row center seats at the Broadway show I picked. His entire team treated me, the students and each other really well. It was quite an experience to bask in the midst of all of that well-treating. It allowed me to teach with intense focus and concentration.

It was an unusual experience. But there is more! Michael Neill treats himself really well too! A joy to behold. I’m pretty good at the treating others part, improving at factoring my own well-being in. Now I want to cherish myself and look after me as the amazing, one of a kind being I am.

You know, like the amazing, one of a kind being you are.

Here’s my new, expanded formula for success:

Be happy and do what you want

Treat everyone really well

Treat yourself like the honored guest at the party of life

Ask for what you want

Give what you want to give

Let me know how it goes!

To your happiness and success!

Mandy

If you like outrageous dark comedy and you are in NYC, go see Christopher Walken in “A Behanding in Seattle” in previews now.

Are You Blocking Love?

2010-02-14T11:56:00.000-08:00

In matters of the heart, if you want the law of attraction to work for you look at your beliefs about love. Some of them may not be true. They may actually block love and limit or defeat you in your quest for a life partner, nurturing family connections and rich, full friendships. It is the hidden beliefs, the ones we don’t even know we have that usually cause the most trouble. But once you know what they are, you can begin to change them.

Here are some commonly held beliefs about love that can ruin a relationship and block the happiness that comes with sharing love with an open heart:

“I’m not good enough to be loved.” Very few people go around saying “I am not good enough to be loved,” but this belief shows up in a variety of ways. People who live by it astound their friends and family by how little they will settle for in a mate and by the amount of abuse they will take. Another clue that this belief is in effect is the inability to accept love when it is freely offered.

“Letting go is hard to do.” Those with this belief suffer long and hard at the breakup of a relationship. Changing your focus from loss and pain to what you want to experience instead will help you to create that experience. The best way to let go is to reach for something else.

“Until I have the romantic love-of-my life I am not a success.” People who believe this fail to enjoy the other wonders in life—friends, family, and the glory of nature. The pride and pleasure of mastering new challenges mean little or nothing to them if they are not romantically involved.

“Love is scarce.” This myth causes people to latch on and hold tight at the first hint of a budding relationship. They do not have relationships; they take hostages. When their “prisoners of love” struggle and sooner or later break free, it reinforces the belief that the potential for a loving relationship is slim.

“Rejection” has to be painful and is to be avoided at all cost.” This belief prevents relationships from growing and changing in intimacy and strength. It causes fear-based communication and interaction. If you and your partner are not a good match, the sooner you know, the better. You can wish each other well and improve your chances of finding a more compatible match.

“I wasted my love on him, or her.” As if there were some huge rotting garbage heap of wasted love somewhere! Although sometimes you may not like the results of the choices you make, that does not mean that the experience of loving was wasted.

“Love is something you acquire and trade like a commodity. Because it results in constant calculation and evaluation, this belief ends in shallow exchanges and loneliness. For the man or woman who operates from this belief, it also seems real that others view him or her in the same calculating way.

“If you loved me, you would _____ (fill in the blank).” Those who suffer (and suffer they do!) from this conclusion measure how loved they are by whether their lovers give in to their demands. The demands escalate until they drive loved ones away or create a living nightmare instead of a loving partnership.

“Love takes away unhappiness.” When someone looks at love through this lens any upset signifies a failure of love. Ironically, when you actively love yourself or someone else, you usually will feel happier. It just doesn’t work when you try to put someone else in charge of your feelings.

“I don’t have anyone to love.” You can fill your heart with love for anyone at anytime. You don’t have to tell them you are doing it! That loving feeling is hard to beat!

What do you do when you find a limiting or self-defeating belief? This discovery is the first step to freedom. Here are four more.

1. Write the belief down so you can focus on it. Ask yourself, “Is that true?” Write your answer down. The goal is simply to determine if you really think that particular belief is true.

Many times this question will be enough to liberate you from a belief that has blocked your ability to love and be loved.

2. If the belief still seems true to you, ask “Why do I believe that? What seems true about this belief?”

3. If your belief disappeared, would that be ok? The answer to this might surprise you. It often leads to the discovery of some hidden fear you may need to work through.

4. Sometimes we are reluctant to part with a belief we have lived by for a long time. Ask “What might I be concerned would happen if I did not believe that?” Let your thoughts and imagination go with this one. Write freely. A masterpiece can come later. Right now give voice to the response that comes when you ask the question.

When you see for yourself that something you have believed, maybe for years, is simply not true, you open the door to new possibilities. What lies on the other side of limiting and self-defeating beliefs? Infinite opportunities to fill your life with love and happiness.

Sending you love and wishing you a happy Valentine’s Day!

Mandy

Expand your “Emotional Options”
http://tinyurl.com/emotionaloptions

Break out from beliefs you adopted in hard times that you may still live by
http://tinyurl.com/travellingfree

What Do You Want in 2010

2009-12-28T15:43:00.000-08:00

What would you like to move toward or attract to you in 2010? Take these steps to attract miracles as we enter a new decade.

Become conscious. Set aside some time alone or with friends to focus on what you want to welcome into you life this year.

Make it real. You help potential miracles move from vague notions to physical manifestation on planet earth by making them real. Make a Welcome List. The vibration of a thought form changes if you write it down. It begins the journey to show up in your life. You can make it more physical and strengthen it along the way if you tell someone else. And someone else. When lots of people hold the same dream with you and for you, it changes again. Now the idea exists in other people’s minds. They may talk about it. It begins to live in the sound vibration of the spoken word.

Remove limiting beliefs that block success. If you feel bad when you think about what you want I’ll bet you believe something that is not true -- something that limits your ability to feel actual joyful desire, or share freely what you want. If you focus on what you want and you feel worried, resentful, angry, guilty, afraid or sad, get to work using free articles at www.mandyevans.com, or by working with the exercises in “Emotional Options” or “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past.”

Focus, focus again, focus some more. It’s not mysterious. What you focus on grows. If you keep your eyes on the prize you will discover opportunities, connections, open doors and the prize itself. If you keep your focus on who done you wrong or who got more, you’ll see a whole lot more of that.

Acknowledge and appreciate any and all movement in the desired direction. So often we dismiss the first mini-manifestations that show up as insufficient and “not worth the trouble.” We give up or lose hope.
Learn what you need to know to make it work out.

Be happy now. The pot of gold at the end of all our seeking is happiness in any of it’s wondrous forms. It may be delight, peace, feeling loved or loving, excitement, being at one with the world or bliss. It is the reward you can have at the beginning of your journey as well as at the triumphant end. You can give it to yourself right now.

Close your eyes and ask yourself: If you could feel any way you want to right now, what would it be. See what happens.

When you know what to do, take action! For years I thought how much I would like it if Amazon would stamp packages that are gifts with “Gift” or something so we can tell them from stuff we order ourselves. Today I sent Jeff Bezos a quick email. I mentioned my son, Barnaby who was a Vice President at Amazon. About an hour later he answered: "Thx for the suggestion, and I will pass it on to the team. (I'm a big Barnaby fan!)." Fast, huh?

Maybe you’ll get a gift with an Amazon stamp one day – think of me :-)!

Wishing you a bright new decade filled with love and happiness.

Mandy

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Breaking Rules to Share My Books

2009-12-17T13:07:00.000-08:00

Writing this defies a lot of what I was raised to believe – about manners, about myself, about what a girl can say. But I want you to have the information, so here goes.

I was at a restaurant with my son, Barnaby; his girl friend, Sheri and two old dear friends who had also been my students.

Sheri asked one of my friends, “How do you know, Mandy?” My friend is happily married, has a successful career training coaches and beautifully dressed looked quizzical. We waited as she thought for a long moment. Then she said “She saved me.”

My eyes filled with tears. My son and Sheri looked stunned.

A few minutes later Sheri turned to my other friend, “And how do you know Mandy?” Another long pause followed as she searched for the answer. Then my friend, a single mother who had just finished law school, replied, “She saved me too.”

“We saved each other.” I replied.

To help as many people as possible, I put the very best of what I have learned about how to break out from beliefs that block happiness and success, emotional healing and recovery from the past into two books. They are filled with workshop-tested exercises from courses I have taught for over 30 years. Each one is designed as a workshop-in-a-book to help you break out to greater happiness and creativity. Learn how to free yourself from the beliefs that cause emotional pain and limit you. The price is affordable in almost any set of financial circumstances. You can order them at www.mandyevans.com

"Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness" focuses on how to free yourself from hidden beliefs that block happiness and success. It tells you how to find, explore, and discard limiting beliefs that hold you back so you can be happier now and move toward what you really want—or attract it to you.

"Travelling Free: How to Recover From the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" deals with how to free yourself from beliefs you formed during painful and stressful times in your life. We often continue to live by these limiting beliefs without knowing it. They lead us down very different paths from the ones we take when we are clearer and happier. Learn how to make better choices and tap into your natural desire and creativity.

I am happily proud of my books, the rave reviews on Amazon and endorsements from giants in the field of human potential such as Deepak Chopra, John Gray, Joe Vitale, and Bernie Siegel.

I hope you will consider “Emotional Options” and “Travelling Free” as gifts to yourself and people you love. The information in them not only “saved” a few of us, it has led thousands of readers to greater success, prosperity and happiness. I should know; I’m one of them!

Wishing you great joy, peace and prosperity for the holidays and always.

Love,
Mandy

Secrets of the Supercoaches

2009-12-03T08:35:00.000-08:00

I am honored to be part of this project and thrilled to
share this invitation from Michael Neil to learn from
some of the world's finest coaches with you.

Have ever dreamed of being a coach?
Are curious about how coaching works?
Do you wonder how different coaches work?

It's free! Go see.

http://www.supercoachacademy.com/teleclass/

To your happiness, success and miracles!

Love,
Mandy

Many Blessings to Celebrate

2009-11-25T08:38:00.000-08:00

I am grateful to everyone who strives for peace,
prosperity, health and happiness for all.

Wishing you a happy day of Thanksgiving, love,
wonderful feasts and many blessings to celebrate.

Love,
Mandy

Please share your blessings and your gratitude with us. What you share grows!

The Miracles of Happiness

2009-10-26T11:03:00.000-07:00

Of all the miracles I treasure happiness above all others.

When we gather to inspire and support each other, with open hearts and open minds, miracles abound.

One of countless highlights at the Breakout to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs was a rousing rendition of that old favorite "Owa Tagu Siam" by the no fear-of-foolish Breakout Chorus. See us as we prepare to deliver.

Wishing you great happiness, fearless foolishness, and miracles!

Love,
Mandy

May the Garden Angel Bless Us All

2009-10-20T19:48:00.000-07:00

I was pruning plants on the patio when I noticed the garden angel. She was here when I moved in. She looked so lovely today, I wanted to share her with you, and many blessings.

Love,

Mandy

Look Out! You're Surrounded by Infinite Opportunities

2009-10-14T11:06:00.000-07:00

We are surrounded by infinite opportunities, limited only by our imagination and our belief systems.

Sometimes it sure doesn’t seem like that, does it? I think the oldest, most helpless and trapped I ever felt was when I was 28, alone with a small child, looking at want ads in the New York Times. I felt like throwing up. I couldn’t see anything I was qualified to do that would pay enough for child care and to live on.

It was a slow climb out of that despair. It could have been a lot faster but I did not know how.

In my courses and coaching sessions I listen to people who feel trapped in a suffocating narrow private reality. Sometimes they have marched along in a rut so long they have worn it into a canyon with walls too high to see over.

I remember how it feels. That’s important. More important is that I know beyond our private limited versions of reality, infinite opportunities wait to be discovered.

This is one of my favorite examples:

What do you think your chances for going to college are if you are a young black kid in the sixties; you live in a public housing project and your dad is in prison?

OK, by some miracle of wonder, you do that. What if you want to play pro basketball too? Yes, it’s happened. But what if you are 5 feet 3 inches tall and weigh 136 lbs?

Muggsy Bogues did! His career spanned 13 years with 5 different teams. He won a place in the NBA Top 20 for career assists. In a remarkable view of reality, a unique perspective all his own, he noticed – the basketball spends a lot more time on the ground than it does in the air.

I love to see people break out of poverty, or a rut, pain, or hopelessness. I love to see people who have achieved that blast out new adventures they never dreamed possible.

I’ve helped welfare mothers, an Olympic coach, drug addicts, a Hollywood director, illiterate adults and best-selling authors to break out from the beliefs they hold that block happiness and success.

I’ve spoken in prisons and churches and lots of places in between. I never forgot what it is like to look at my future and face a wall that I had no idea I created myself.

In February I’ll return to my beloved NYC to train coaches as part of a team of heavy hitters for Michael Neil’s SuperCoach Academy. Who would have thought?

In just over a week, I’ll teach the 8th BREAKOUT Weekend.

I hope Muggsy Bogues’ story and mine help you expand your view of what is possible for you. Opportunities for love, success, happiness and prosperity are infinite; look out, you’re surrounded!

Love,
Mandy

Breakout in Palm Springs? http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps
Recover from experiences in your past that limit you now?
http://tinyurl.com/travellingfree

For Active and Aspiring Coaches

2009-09-29T13:02:00.000-07:00

Are you an active coach who would like to expand your skills and your practice? Have you thought about becoming a coach yourself and wondered where to get the training you need to help people flourish and succeed?

Supercoach Michael Neill has created a Supercoach Academy. He put together a comprehensive certificate training with masters of the coaching methods he values most. These are the tools Michael uses to help his clients astound themselves with their own success stories.

I’m excited to be part the training. I will teach participants how I help people to break out from the beliefs they hold that block happiness, success and miracles.

Only 60 people will be able to train with Michael and this faculty. Registration is open and the course is filling up with people from around the globe. There is a special discount that ends this week, so if you think this may be just what you’re looking for, check it out now at www.supercoachacademy.com.

In the years I’ve known Michael I watched his own list of achievements grow at warp speed. I can’t wait to join him in action, sharing his magic with 60 motivated coaching students.

To your happiness and success!
Mandy

There are some spaces open in the October BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs. I’d love to see you here. http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps

Busted! Trouble Walking the Walk

2009-09-29T12:57:00.000-07:00

Busted! Trouble walking the – well trouble walking at all. I’ve been thinking and writing about how what you focus on grows. Oh dear, look what happened.

A friend of mine recently fell several times and severely injured herself. I wondered with intense curiosity (oh, no!) what would happen if I fell down.

When I tried to recall the last time I fell I came up with only two downer incidents in my adult life. When I was about seven months pregnant with baby Barnaby in 1967, I caught my heel as I stepped down from the Broadway bus in NYC and plunged baby-bump forward onto the sidewalk. I can still hear the gasps from horrified onlookers. Other than skinned knees and minor mortification, Barnaby and I escaped without damage.

About twenty years ago I fell flat on my face on the beach in Carlsbad, CA on Christmas morning while taking a walk with a friend. No problems. Lots of laughs.

By now my tripping/falling thoughts are vivid and strong, my curiosity piqued.

It’s two weeks ago. I’m walking to my car at a shopping mall. I catch my toe on a slightly raised square of concrete. I stumble forward – one, two, three steps. I almost pull out of it. Maybe if I go faster. But if I fall, I’ll smash to the ground harder. I feel the tipping point. Gravity wins and I surrender. I slow down, put my forearm up to protect my face, turn my knee to the side. I land on my right thigh. Scrapes and a big bruise but I think I’m fine.

Now it’s two weeks later. My right hip hurts like a son of a gun. I’m trying to focus on the outcome I want. I catch myself over and over planning for a frozen hip. I’ve had frozen bursitis/tendonitis joints before so I know just what to imagine – vividly!

I drag my thoughts back to what I want. A healthy, pain free hip joint that moves really well. Now I bust myself thinking like a dang mantra, is it better? Is it worse? Better? Worse? Better? Worse? Whew!

I’m sending this message out because I got a lot of response to my last message, “Beware of Your Hidden Plans.” Some people said that the whole law of attracting stuff you don’t want idea suddenly made sense. Others asked how to focus on what you want. The real answer is “Just do it!”

The long, also real answer, is I know it’s hard. We have such vivid memories of past disasters, loaded with emotions, all set and ready to go. We have to make up our images about the future.

Any marketer worth his salt will tell you desire and fear are the strongest motivators. What do you market to yourself? When you focus on what you want, you get ideas, information, see opportunities for that. When you focus on what you dread you get ideas, information and see opportunities for that.

This has been an excellent test case for me. Here are some of my gains. I am highly aware of my thoughts. I direct and re-direct them to plans for healing. I’ve taken the best actions I know for healing. I’m ready to get medical attention if it gets any worse. I know who to turn to for help if I need it. The whole experience has been interesting and pretty much worry free.

The good news is for the first time in a week, I feel better today than yesterday. In fact right now I feel A-OK.

Here’s to conscious, happy motivation!

Love,
Mandy

BREAKOUT to Miracles of Consciousness with me in Palm Springs:
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps

Beware of Your Hidden Plans

2009-09-22T10:10:00.000-07:00

Beware of your hidden plans.

Most of you know the basic The Law of Attraction theory that says, “What you focus on grows.”

That’s why it is important to know what you are really planning for. The inspiration for this message came from a dear friend and former student. He has faced tough challenges in the recession as he watched the market for his small business dry up like the legendary dust bowl of the 1930’s.

He did not lack courage or resourcefulness. He relocated to a more promising area. So did the downturn. He got a job. He got laid off.

He told me, “If they don’t extend un-employment benefits, I’m afraid I’ll be on the streets.”

See the painful plan? My friend is planning to remain unemployed and without income several months from now. He is afraid of what will happen when he follows his plan.

Another student told me about an exciting performance coming up. “After that, there’s nothing but the boring holidays to get through.” she said.

Another lives in fear “my credit card will max out and then what will I do?”

These people are smart, talented, and creative. Each one has read the top-selling books about consciousness, prosperity and spirituality.

The problem is that they are executing hidden plans. Plans that even they do not know the have placed in operation.

Our unemployment guy did not notice that he made up a future that contains no new opportunities, insights, breaks or sources of income.

Our performer did not notice that she created a future with months of boredom out of memories and thin air.

The credit card guy did not notice the he was planning for a future devoid of new opportunities.

I catch myself living by those dread-full secret plans sometimes too. I suspect we all have them.

The problem is that as we follow our secret (from ourselves) unconscious plans we prepare for disaster by kicking in the fight or flight response. But our plans do not include a predator to fight or an escape route to run through. We are left with only the adrenalin splashing into our system, the subsequent depletion of energy and ongoing fear, anxiety and dread.

There is a way out! The truth will set you free! Noticing (becoming aware and conscious) that you are making up a scenario you do not want to live out and that you plan to follow it is an excellent first step.

The next step is to make up an outcome you would like. Focus on that. You may not have all the details in place. I actually prefer a wide focus to an overly narrow one that leaves so many infinite opportunities out of range.

For example you can focus on desire for inspiration, support, new information, new opportunities, unexpected income, fortuitous connections, restorative sleep – whatever your heart desires.

If you could expend as much emotion and energy on what you do want for one week, I’ll bet you would see some miracles.

This experiment does not require you to believe it will work. Try it and see. I’d love to hear what you come up with.

Wishing you happy plans and prosperous outcomes.

Love,
Mandy

Coachella Valley folks, come see the free screening of my video “Accepting Miracles” at the Palm Springs Healing Center tomorrow night at 7 PM. The idea for the center arrived at the Breakout Weekend here last year; now it’s real at 2145 E Tahquitz, Palm Springs. http://palmspringshealingcenter.com/

Breakout to Miracles info/register http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps

Beyond His Wildest Dreams Kevin Skinner Breaks Out

2009-09-18T08:21:00.000-07:00

You just never know. Last night Kevin Skinner won on “America’s Got Talent” and heads to Las Vegas. Here is his first appearance on the show.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to_dareBr5Q&feature=related

What would be a breakout beyond your wildest dreams?

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love,
Mandy

Find out more about the October 23-25 BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps

Learn how to use The Option Method in “Emotional Options” by Mandy Evans
http://tinyurl.com/koydhu

Beyond Fear of Changing

2009-09-14T19:28:00.000-07:00

My coaching clients often tell me they experience profound fear before our first session together. I always explore that fear with them before we move on to other issues they want to work on.

The answers that come up most often are about what will happen if the very changes they want to bring about really happen. Common fear-making beliefs are about deserving, courting disaster, being punished, succeeding, failing, drawing undue attention, being vulnerable to attack, becoming someone they do not like, becoming greedy, arrogant, selfish, uncaring, full of themselves, envied, judged, alone and unloved. Wow!

Me too. When my first book, “Emotional Options” came out, I had lots of those fears! Only a few came about, just as they might have had I done nothing.

I recall a frightening moment when I felt as if I were setting sail in unchartered waters. So many of my beliefs about my lot in life, what I could have and how I must feel had changed, I felt adrift, not knowing where I would land, who I would be. It was about 38 years ago. I did an Option Method dialogue with my dear friend Marvin Beck. I told him I was afraid of crossing a line into an unknown reality.

He asked me, well, “Mand” what scares you about that?
I might not be able to get back, I answered.
What scares you about that? He asked.

My mind went all fuzzy. I felt disoriented – just as my students often do now. This has happened many times. When I was born for example. When I was 14 and lived in Australia. When my son was born. When I went to GROW to become a group leader, discovered the Option Method, took the est training, became hospice volunteer, moved to California. I’ve never been able to get back into the unenlightened state I had been in before those transforming experiences. So far it’s been fine each time.

My list was shorter back then, but I came out of my foggy state and happily told Marvin I figured it would be ok.

Recently people have talked about that kind of fear when they registered for my Breakout to Miracles Weekend. In life the course begins when you sign up for it. Maybe even when you just think about setting out in a new direction, opening doors you may not have known you closed.

I once asked a student, What are you afraid would happen if you were happy? After a long, long, long pause she whispered, You mean, give up pitiful? Then she burst into uncontrollable, gasping, side splitting laughter.

Think about something you would like to bring into your life? Is it scary? Don’t stop there!

Ask yourself what’s scary about it? Do you believe your answer? What are you concerned would happen if you were not scared?

We are going to change. Each and every one of us will grow, learn, gain, love and lose, age, most likely die. The big choice is whether we choose our changes, willingly engage them or simply brace ourselves to endure them.

Wishing you enlightening changes and great happiness.

Love,
Mandy

Find out more about The October 23-25 BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps

Learn to use the Option Method in “Emotional Options” by Mandy Evans
http://tinyurl.com/koydhu

First Prize in the Life Contest

2009-08-25T11:05:00.000-07:00

And the first place prize is, a week in Rosendale! The second prize? Two weeks in Rosendale! That’s where I first heard that joke about the prizes.

I love Rosendale, New York, though. Joppenberg Mountain rises up at one end. Rondout Creek runs through on it’s way to the Hudson River. An old cement mining town, at one time a canal town, later a hippie town; it’s the only place I ever knew with a sense of humor about itself. Someone once said Rosedale had the highest percentage of well read, well traveled poor people in the country. It may even be true.

I learned a lot about the contest of life in Rosendale, sometimes the hard way. In the contest of life, the first prize is happiness – in all of its wondrous forms from peace to bliss, contentment to ecstasy, curiosity to triumph.

The second prize is stuff. Second prizes can be fabulous: cars, jobs, awards, relationships, money, houses, fame – you name it. I love second prizes. They often lead to fleeting moments of first prize.

The great news is that we can claim first prize anytime. Unless we get caught in those webs of beliefs that tell us we are not good enough, don’t have enough, have not achieved enough to be happy yet. Then we rule out any chance for the gold and severely diminish chances for bringing home the silver.

If you get stuck in envy, resentment, regret or guilt you get the booby prize.

We live in a societal trance of prize reversal. Breaking out and staying out represents a worthy challenge. My life’s work is helping people to claim first prize then go for the second with gusto.

I still need reminders about the real order of life prizes though. Without an occasional wake-up call I can struggle along, impatiently striving for second prize while I ignore the primo prize within my grasp, a lifetime of happiness.

There is progress! I haven't settled for the booby prize in a long, long time.

This reminder goes out to you (and me) with good wishes for happy days in the first place winner’s circle and lots of adventures with second prizes too.

Love,
Mandy

More reminders? Visit my website for books, links to free videos, articles and belief quizzes http://www.mandyevans.com/

Clear the Way for Miracles

2009-08-08T12:14:00.000-07:00

Here’s an exercise you can do to give your miracle a chance to meet up with you in reality.

Write down something you want, something that would take a miracle to attract or achieve.
Now write down why you cannot have it.

Those answers are your beliefs. If they stand between you and the fulfillment of your heart’s desire it is vital to know if they are true or not.

Erin Carraway did that. At the Breakout Weekend at Rowe at the end of May Erin began to dream of playing rugby. She believed it was an amazing experience she could not have again.

Erin’s reasons and beliefs:

7 years away from the game. That’s too long. You can’t go back after that long.

No teams nearby. There isn’t anybody to play with anyway

Fitness level. I could never get back into the kind of shape I’d need to be in.

Age, 43. That is too old.

Here’s how Erin broke out of her limiting beliefs to her miracle.

“After reading Emotional Options and doing countless more dialogues on myself, and a few with a friend I met at Rowe, I started to attract answers to other questions about my additional concerns.

I used Vitale's Attractor Factor and your Option dialogues, I started to see and feel it happening.

That Tuesday night, at the gym, I visualized myself talking to a friend about why I wanted to play again.
Wednesday morning found me sending a random email to a club I found just 70 miles from me (how I never knew of it before?!).
They offered me a chance to play with them on Saturday.
The obstacles of getting gear and arrangements all fell, effortlessly into place.
Saturday morning I woke up at 3:30am to make the 4 hour drive to beautiful Saranac Lake to play for this team.
Naturally the drive happened without issue, and by 9:05 AM I was playing rugby again...running, tackling, scrumming against women 20 years my junior, and loving it!

The weekend answered my questions: can I do it, and do I still want to do it. Yes to both...the team asked me to play with them. Today I worked out the final hurdle of health insurance.

There is so much more to say...the universe gives what you ask for, and are willing to let go of.”

I love what Erin says about asking and letting go. Sometimes it is a real challenge to do both!
Wishing you many happy miracles –

Love,
Mandy

There’s more! Erin used to weigh just under 300 lbs! Read how she became “normal sized” person and helps others to do the same. http://tinyurl.com/erinmiracle
Learn about the Breakout to Miracles Weekend. http://tinyurl.com/tomiracles

Is Wonder Calling You?

2009-07-23T19:02:00.000-07:00

Robert Edelberg loves horses. He lived on a ranch and enjoyed the out-the-back-door access to his animals.

When he established a chiropractic practice in Palm Springs and remolded a dream home it seemed that having a horse of his own was a thing of the past.

Then came Wonder.

Wonder is a beautiful thoroughbred jumper. She had a habit of kicking over the top rail in competition so her owner decided to find her a new home.

One of Robert’s friends saw an email about a horse for adoption. She didn’t know much about horses, but she knew Robert. She sent him an email. He asked what kind of horse she was. His friend replied “brown.”

Robert went on with his busy day. Over the next few hours 2 more of his friends sent him emails about a horse for adoption. He ignored them.

When he returned home that night he noticed something odd in the bushes beside his front door. A playing card had lodged there. He lives in a windy area. Maybe the wind?

Or maybe Wonder calling. The card was an Ace with a picture of a horse on it that looked just like –Wonder.

Robert figured he had to at least visit her in the high desert where she was boarded. He fell in love with a horse named Wonder.

When he noticed a cut on her leg, he contacted Wonder’s owner to report the injury and to say he was interested.

His friend, Steve agreed to board her a his ranch nearby. Wonder’s owner met Robert there and said “Let’s move her now!”

Miracles abound! The signs are all around, but if you are listening to a played-out old sad song, trapped in a limiting belief system or just too busy with your day you may miss the call.
If Wonder is calling you, will you hear?

Photos of Wonder and Robert

To many wonders!

Love,
Mandy

Robert Edelberg inspires me every two weeks in the Cathedral City Mastermind Group.

Giving Up Is Good Too

2009-07-16T14:02:00.000-07:00

I’m learning to cut my losses. As some of you know the year attending Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings inspired me to write “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs.” There is a saying those of us who grew up in alcoholic or abusive families understand all too well, “We stick it out through thin and thin.”

Many of us from all sorts of backgrounds adopted limiting beliefs that caused us to endure, manage, make-do, tolerate and settle-for-less. We curtailed our dreams and visions without even knowing we did it.

It’s been a long, hard long lesson but I’m picking up steam. It’s becoming fun!
Persistence has it’s place. It’s very useful, and popular trait. Giving up is good too.

I trade stocks and options on the internet in the morning and actually relish selling with a small loss in stead of watching it drop day after day hoping for a come back. It frees up so much more money for profitable investments. I like to sell those too. No tree grows straight to the sky.

I’m changing the way I relate to people. Some of them don’t like it one bit. I can’t blame them if they move on to more compatible relationships. I bless them on their way.

A few years ago I told the director of a retreat center director to take “warm” out of my bio. Not that I want to be cold, I explained. I’m just not wanting to attract people who are specifically seeking warmth. I’m more interested in being clear, powerful, understanding and loving now – sort of temperature neutral when I teach.

I may even give up on those piles of things I’m going to read some day and get rid of the clutter in my office!

I hope this idea will help you too. Look around your life and inside yourself. Is there something you’d like to give up on? Call it quits and move on with love, joy and new inspiration.

Sometimes giving up is great!

Wishing you the wisdom to know just when to persist and just when to give up that which no longer serves you.

Love,
Mandy

Reminders:
“What’s Holding You Back and What to Do About It”
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Handle Absolutely Everything

2009-07-13T19:57:00.000-07:00

Would you like “A New Way to Handle Absolutely Everything?” Elese Coit dedicates her radio show by that audacious name to making the ‘impossible’ imaginable and the ‘difficult’ do-able.

I enthusiastically accepted her invitation to discuss one of my favorite topics, “What’s holding You Back? (and What to Do About It!)”

Join us to discover a new way to handle any belief that limits you this Friday, July 17 at 10:00 AM Pacific Time.

What beliefs? The ones that block happiness, success, prosperity and love!

Miracles abound. Are you ready to accept them?

Here’s the info you need to listen free:

To listen on the day at 10 am Pacific time, 1 pm Eastern time simply go to http://www.contacttalkradio.com/

Click LISTEN NOW. Listeners can dial in live toll free on 1-877- 230-3062 to be part of the show.

Can't make it Friday? FREE archives are available here:
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Psst! Pass it on,

Love,
Mandy
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Declare Your Own Independence

2009-07-02T10:12:00.000-07:00

Do you want to win independence from something that limits your happiness and creativity? Maybe fear? Poverty? Loneliness? Resentment?

We all create prisons of one sort or another with our own belief systems. We don’t mean to do it. But it happens every time we adopt a belief that seems true but is not.

A Personal Declaration of Independence can be a powerful step on the path to freedom.

On a warm July night in the woods an angel ( a real one) helped me to declare my independence from a life-long fear of judgment.

The liberty I gained that night still grows as does my gratitude.

More people responded to the story of what happened that Independence Day than anything I ever sent out. You can read about it (free) on my website: http://tinyurl.com/myindependence.

Sharing a declaration empowers it. It makes it real. When other people join with you in your intention and cheer you on it works with the Law of Attraction to create miracles. If you would like to share your Personal Declaration of Independence here, I would love to read it and cheer you on. I know it will inspire and encourage others as well.

Happy Independence!

Love,
Mandy

A Breakout from Fear

2009-06-02T10:26:00.000-07:00

I plan my courses pretty carefully. But when we all show up and go live the real magic begins.

Almost always, a secret unplanned theme reveals itself. Something deeper than all the fliers and emails brings us together.

Last weekend a high percentage of the participants at Rowe had experienced severe abuse in their lives.

When some people courageously explored the beliefs that still imprisoned them in a perpetual state of fear and hyper-vigilance, we discovered:

A strong desire to protect themselves, to keep safe from danger and harm
An equally strong belief that fear was the only thing that would protect them
Shame of being afraid

Therapy, courses, all sorts of attempts to overcome their fear had no effect.

Of course not! If you had been attacked and hurt and you believed fear was the only thing that protected you, would you give it up? No matter how ashamed you were of your fear, no matter how debilitating and limiting it was, if you believed it was the only way to survive nothing would take it away.

We saw something in the quiet of acceptance and the dizzy-making confusion that comes with openly exploring beliefs. You don’t need fear in order to be aware of danger. You need to be alert and aware of danger, the way you are when crossing a busy street. It does not require tense muscles, holding your breath, nightmares, and a perpetual state of fear.

Each time, their faces softened and lit up, their bodies relaxed as they embraced a brand new goal – to protect themselves with loving awareness and gratitude for a healthy built-in fight or flight response they would only need when danger threatened. Not all day and all night for the rest of their lives.

Nobody wants to live in the past. But we all live by the past. During painful times especially, we often form strong beliefs that block future happiness and success. We continue to live by those beliefs without being aware of it.

That’s why I wrote “Travelling Free.” If you or someone you know could use help to breakout out from painful experiences in the past, “Travelling Free” is now available at http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1878639048/mandyevanscom in Kindle and MobiPocket versions also.

“It’s not what happens to us but what we come to believe that shapes our lives.” –Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" by Mandy Evans

Cheering you on to freedom from past limits.

Love,
Mandy

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YouTube "Deserving" Video:
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Remembrance

2009-05-24T09:36:00.000-07:00

Memorial: anything meant to help people remember

In the US we celebrate Memorial Day, set aside for the dead from all of our wars, with remembrance and barbeques. I will enjoy both and envision a world at peace.

On Memorial Day my grandmother cut all the flowers in our yard. She filled the back of the car with them and the scent of peonies and lilacs. We’d drive out of town, down the country road, past the country club and into the Rockville Cemetery.

We left bouquets on the graves of generations of Bouics, Peters, Vinsons and Evans’s while she told me things about them I’ve long forgotten.

Headstones for my father, aunts, uncles, cousins and some of my mothers ashes mark their lives and their passing there now too.

I remember my grandmother’s love. How hard her life was. How she worked to make things better for everyone she knew. I honor her and thank her for raising me, though I did not then.

My father was a gentle man and a violent alcoholic. He lived most of his life alone, especially after he finally stayed sober for a few years before he died. I hardly knew him.

In the only real conversation we had as adults I learned he had been a Dachau Liberator in WWII. He told me about prisoners killing guards and his fellow GI’s laughing and cheering. He understood the prisoners, he said, but not his buddies. I remember and honor him and his service. I’m thankful for that story. It helped me to understand him and something about myself.

I remember the smell of peonies and lilacs, a reminder to be happy and to thank the people whose contributions fill my life with love—while they are still alive.

Thank you for being someone I can share these thoughts with.

Love,
Mandy

2009-05-21T11:21:00.000-07:00

A voice woke me up in the middle of the night. A dream? A memory? The universe?

It said “Catch a Buzz, how may I help you? I’m sorry, Linda is all booked up this week. Would you like me to look for something next week?”

Then it came to me. I had heard those words before.

First, for this to make any sense at all, here’s a glimpse into the Breakout Weekend. We do a lot of journaling, beginning with what we want to break out from and what we want to break out to. That way each person uses the weekend to work on their unique issues. It is good info to have about yourself. I encourage you to make your own list and see what happens.

At the last Breakout Weekend we got pretty exuberant playing What If Up. It goes like this. Tell a group something you want or a problem you have. The group shares wonderful “what if’s” instead of the usual stuff to worry about.

One of the things on Robert Edelburg’s Breakout List was a center for healing and teaching. He is a gifted chiropractor and healer. They call him Dr. Buzz from an appropriate childhood nickname.

Linda Hyman draws on a lifetime study of personal and spiritual growth. She had just finished training as a Marriage and Family Therapist. Her list included a successful new therapy practice, recession or not.

We had what iff-ed a thriving center for Dr. Buzz, called, “Catch-a-Buzz” (I said we were feeling exuberant).

Then we focused on Linda’s dream. Dr.Buzz held his hand to his head making the thumb and pinkie telephone symbol. He said, “Catch-a-Buzz, how may I help you? I’m sorry, Linda is all booked up this week. Would you like me to look for something next week?”

Last weekend Linda and I went to a movie. She was almost late. Her practice is so full she had fallen asleep after squeezing 3 more patients into her exhausting schedule on Saturday morning.

Dr. Buzz opens The Palm Springs Healing Center next month.

My list included a good movie buddy and a new place to teach, the Palm Springs Healing Center!

So what was that voice in the night for? Though it took work, it all evolved so naturally, without frustration, pain or struggle. Not one of us had noticed the breakout.

It’s good to know what you want. Even better to get support for your goal. It’s also important to notice when a dream comes true.

Miracles are waiting!

Love,
Mandy

The next BREAKOUT Weekend
http://tinyurl.com/c8ex8f

Linda Hyman, M.A., LMFT
http://www.lindatherapypro.com/

Dr. Robert Edelburg, DC
Palm Springs Healing Center 760-416-2456

Persevere or Give Up?

2009-05-09T10:41:00.000-07:00

That goose sure taught me a lesson about persistence.

We have a little lake here in the desert. Lots of geese spend the winter every year. One flies in with his mate for the summer. They arrive each year just after all the other geese leave for cooler climates.

They build a nest, lay some eggs and wait. As temperatures soar the eggs bake and rot. She sits and he patrols the area attacking the gardeners and baby ducks.

We all wonder why don’t they just give up. I even wrote a blog about it, “Stop Struggling Like a Crazy Goose.” Boy was I wrong. I love being wrong. It always means I learned something new.

Spring moved in this year cool, slow and sweet.

Guess what happened? See below!

So how do you know when to give up and when to keep trying?
Here's a plan.
Never give up unless you want to.
Hold on and persevere as long as you like.
Eventually one of 4 things will happen:
Your dream will come true
You’ll lose interest
You will want something else even more
You’ll run out of time

The extra good news is that you never have to struggle like a crazy goose.
Instead:
Put your order in to the universe.
Enjoy the dream.
Embrace the goal.
Look for opportunities.
Take action when you spot a good opportunity.
Be happy in the meantime.
Make sure you stay open to discover more wonderful possibilities than you ever dreamed of.

Who knows what you might hatch!

To your happiness and success!

Love, Mandy

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To see the new YouTube video
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Who Nurtured You?

2009-05-08T15:11:00.001-07:00

Happy Mother's Day!

Who nurtured you?
Share messages and acknowlegements for Mother's Day here!

Deserving Is a Bogus Issue -- The Video

2009-05-04T14:55:00.000-07:00

This one sure ruffled some feathers. What do you think?

Here's the link for the YouTube video.

http://tinyurl.com/d8rb4o

Accept Miracles!

Love,
Mandy

Kindness

2009-04-18T13:17:00.000-07:00

I got a phone message I didn't know how to respond to. Someone I had never met called to ask for help with a heart-rending challenge and I had no answer. I dreaded returning the call. I felt so inadequate to the task.

Just be kind, I thought. It is always a gift and sometimes hard to come by. I picked up the phone with more enthusiasm.

I met a brave, fascinating person. We had an interesting converstaion. I had even spoken at the church she attends now back when her mother used to go there.

We found a way to happiness and peace of mind even before we solved the problem she faces. We are both going to focus on the desired outcome and send love. We came up with a few steps to take to clear the path for miracles.

It was a great call and a wonderful reminder -- there is always something you can contribute, even when you don't know what to say or what to do. Share kindness. It opens doors for miracles to come in.

Blessings and thanks to SB for a sweet connection.

Love,
Mandy

Richard Can Read

2009-04-14T12:45:00.000-07:00

When an adult learns how to read, it is like walking through a wall into a brand new world. Talk about a breakout!

I have enjoyed the privilege of teaching 3 adults, all over 40 years old how to read.
Mary Galewaler, a widow with 12 children moved out of extreme poverty – the kind where you cry because your kids are cold and hungry and you don’t know what to do. She got her first paying job after living on a veteran’s pension and social security. She bought her own home.

A welfare mother in Desert Hot Springs, CA learned that she was not retarded. I watched as she made a dream come true. She held her youngest daughter on her lap and read her a story.

Richard can read! We are working on “Consonant Blends.” Richard read that title, “Consonant Blends,” without blinking an eye. He is also reading Louise Hay’s “Heal Your Life.”

Want to add your prayers and thoughts to help people learn to read? Palm Springs “Breakout Weekend” graduate, Dorie Geniesse and her friend Sue started Selcarim to see if our prayers and thoughts could change the world by focusing on a different problem each month. They asked me to choose an issue I care deeply about and record a message for April. You can hear it here:
http://www.selcarim.net/universal-thought/

Here’s to walking through walls!

Love,
Mandy

A Clear Path to Prosperity

2009-04-07T12:24:00.000-07:00

Nothing like a bunch of out-dated, off-the-wall, self-defeating, limiting beliefs about money to keep your credit card maxed and your pockets empty.
Nothing like disproving those beliefs to clear a path to prosperity!

Two kinds of beliefs often stand in the way.

Limiting emotional beliefs: These beliefs trigger painful feelings. For example some people feel shame when they fail and guilt when they succeed. What a bind! Anticipatory dread of these emotional consequences keeps us from even trying new approaches. Fear of feeling worse causes the wheel spinning that digs us deeper and deeper into a rut of despair.

Misperceived beliefs about adequacy, deserving and status act like blinders blocking out genuine opportunities. You cannot recognize a magical connection when your focus is on whether you deserve it or not. How can you be recognized if you are trying to pump up your status or hide your true nature?

Actions speak loudly of beliefs. A student of mine is working on a strong case of poverty consciousness. He noticed a great clue to follow up and explore. He rents a low cost apartment in an affluent suburb. When people at his new job asked where he lived, he said “I didn’t want to tell them. I didn’t want them to think I’m rich.”

Another student responded, “Wow. I would want just the opposite. I’d want people to think I’m a lot better off than I am.”

These opposing responses stem from the same misconception: “who I am is not ok.”

There is one thing I wish I could share with the whole world today. “You are enough. You are not too much, too little, too young, too old, too rich, too poor, to beautiful, too ugly – too anything to be happy, to be loved and to prosper. You are enough just as you are. You may want to use that enough-ness to create all sorts of adventures. Maybe you want to make a fortune. Maybe avoid some pitfalls. You may succeed some days and stumble on others. It has nothing to do with whether you are enough to be the perfect you.

To find out more about beliefs like these and how to break out from them take a free quiz on “50 Beliefs About Money”
http://mandyevans.com/index.php/50-beliefs-about-money

Some of them may surprise you!

I hope these messages help you to find and disprove more limiting beliefs so you can see the miracles and opportunities all around. Please feel free to share them.

Love,
Mandy

PS
If you come to the Rowe Conference Center in May we’ll have a whole BREAKOUT Weekend together clearing the path to accept prosperity, creativity and miracles. http://www.rowecenter.org/ . Click Conference Center Schedule; scroll down to May 29. It’s a beautiful, caring environment for a breakout!

Know why you want everything you want? Don’t miss the YouTube clip from the Miracles Weekend
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gewLjrUa0O0

The Magic of a Mastermind Group

2009-03-23T15:04:00.000-07:00

Last weekend the Cathedral City Mastermind Group met in beautiful, peaceful, Rosarito Beach, Mexico for a retreat. We supported each other in loving creative consciousness. We also shopped a bit, day-dreamed on the balcony, went tide-pooling at low tide, ate and drank and enjoyed the amazing condo two of our members shared with us. If you're looking for your own bit of paradise, it's for sale. Send an email to Jo'se at jggllk@aol.com and he'll tell you all about it and show you a virtual tour.

Our Mexican Mastermind adventure --

The astounding view from our balcony, our our group, minus one member who was with us in spirit and me holding forth on something or other.

A mastermind group is a wonderful way to keep growing, expanding your consciousness and breaking out from limiting beliefs you do not even know you have.

Wishing you abundant support for your dreams and great happiness.

With love,

Mandy

The View from on Top of an Obstacle

2009-03-12T15:04:00.000-07:00

I always love it when someone has good news.

Today it is I! After the big crash that took my website down, after months of wrangling with templates, hosting services, fonts and source code my website lives again. It’s new and improved. I learned a lot during the process.

I read each article again as I changed imported fonts that got mangled. I found useful reminders. I checked the “Belief Quizzes” amazed at the nonsense we humans can believe. When my grandmother disagreed with someone she would say “Oh you’re just full of notions!” Now I know exactly what she meant.

In the process, I staged a personal belief breakout and changed a couple of big old notions. I believed technology was a necessary evil. I went kicking and whining through each inevitable evolution convinced and proclaiming “It’s toooo hard, I’m too old.”

It took an awfully long time, but I see the light. I’m eager, excited and ready to convert those books for kindle, ipod, you name it. I’m ready to edit the Miracles Weekend video, get those talks digitalized and out there! I am ready to play with the big kids in the big leagues and have a fine time doing it!

If there is something you’ve balked at learning, moving on to, or changing here are two of my favorite quotes. I hope they will cheer you on to hope and action in the perfect direction for you.

“If the horse dies, get off.” –Author unknown

“There is a great view from on top of an obstacle.” Bruce Di Marsico

About that website, the photo at the top of it is one I took from my patio last Christmas. Seems like a miracle – bright sunshine, green palm trees and snow on the mountain. And being able to show it to you – who live all over the world, WOW!

I’d love it if you would take a look and let me know what you think. http://www.mandyevans.com/

To leave a comment here click "comment." You do not have to sign up for anything just choose another option!

Life is short and miracles await!
Love,
Mandy

Freedom from the Fear Myth

2009-02-26T15:15:00.001-08:00

If I had to give you a two word job description this is it: belief detective. When I work with people in seminars and the few individual sessions I can manage, I look for clues that lead to limiting and self-defeating beliefs.

You can’t break out from the prison of the false reality that locks you in fear, anger or guilt until you discover the beliefs that make that prison.

There is a lot of fear in the air these days, so I’ll use that as an example to explain what I mean. I’ve worked with successful people recently who tell me that they live in fear, mostly about financial issues. This is not an awareness of danger. It is a painful emotion that is always with them.

I ask, “What are you concerned would happen if the fear went away?” Here are some of the answers I hear most often:

I don’t deserve to be happy
I wouldn’t be careful about money
I wouldn’t do anything
I would give up

Can you see that the answers may be an odd match with the question? The point is that the question dredges up the beliefs that hold fear in place.

When we looked more deeply into the specific beliefs everyone uncovered some form of this belief, “My fear protects me” or “My fear keeps me safe.”

Once we uncoverd the belief we could question it. “How does fear protect you or keep you safe?” I cannot recall an instance of fear keeping anyone safe. Living in fear actually blocks awareness of danger and creative responses to it.

So far, everyone who has discovered and explored the belief that they need to live in fear in order to be deserving, careful, productive, tenacious, alert, or aware of danger has come to view that belief as untrue -- a self-defeating myth.

When someone breaks out from a belief that requires him to live in abiding fear, he can relax. People often experience a sense of peace and well-being for the first time in a long time. One man smiled broadly, bopped himself on the forehead like a V8 commercial and said “I could of had fearless!”

Most likely when you are happy, relaxed and at peace you still want to take care of yourself and those you care about. I’ll bet you would still welcome creative solutions to every challenge you face. Breaking out from the fear myth sure improves your chances.

If you or someone you know is living in fear these days, I hope this exploration of the fear myth will be useful. Feel free to pass it on.

Love,
Mandy

For more information on how to breakout from beliefs that block your happiness and success, visit http://www.mandyevans.com/

BREAKOUT to Miracles

2009-02-25T11:12:00.000-08:00

Advanced notice!

Registration is open for the BREAKOUT Weekend, May 29-31 at the Rowe Conference Center.

The BREAKOUT Weekend is the most powerful seminar I have ever taught.

Rowe, in the beautiful Berkshire Mountains of Western Massachusetts is an amazing place for a weekend retreat. For details about the course and the center:

http://www.rowecenter.org/

Have you ever wondered how to break out from the beliefs that limit you to the infinite opportunities and miracles all around you?

Are you ready to give yourself a break, or should I say, a breakout?

If you live in New England, have dreamed of visiting or returning, please consider this rare opportunity to participate in a live and in person, roll-up-our-sleeves and get to work weekend.

Please tell all of your friends and relatives too. Life is short and miracles await.

http://www.rowecenter.org/

Click “Conference Center Schedule and scroll down to May 29-31, Breakout Weekend.

60,000 copies of the catalogue are printed and ready for distribution. I want to make sure that all of you who want to come get the first chance to sign up.

Let’s stage a BREAKOUT!

Love,
Mandy

PS, Rowe works very hard to make their courses affordable for everyone, the food is amazing, the setting beautiful and restorative.

Visit http://www.mandyevans.com/ for free articles and quizzes to help you break out from limiting beliefs to infinite opportunities for happiness, success and love.

My Sweet Valentine

2009-02-14T11:56:00.000-08:00

Why put your your grandson's Valentine on the refrigerator when you can post it on your blog?

You never know when or where you will find a special love.

When I taught in The Netherlands a xouple of years ago someone asked if I had grandchildren. I said no.

Els ten hengle approached me during a break to say her son, Siem did not have any grandmothers.

We wrote. We all spent Christmas together in 2007.

You just never know when you'll find a special love, a special grandson, or what kind of miracle will appear in your life.

Happy Valentine's day!

Sending love,

Mandy

Stop Sabotaging Cupid!

2009-02-10T15:24:00.000-08:00

Around Valentine's Day the focus for many of us zooms in on love. But before you sign up for a dating service or cast carbs aside forever, give Cupid a nudge in your direction in a new way. Check out your love beliefs.

These are the beliefs we all adopt as we go through life. They represent an assortment of conclusions we come to, things we have been told and have had no reason to doubt, assessments and judgments we make along the way. These beliefs affect our lives in many ways because we live by them whether they are true or not.

When it comes to relationships your love beliefs play an important and overlooked role.

In over thirty five years of working with people to change self-defeating and limiting beliefs, I have gathered examples of these beliefs like a squirrel gathers nuts for the winter. Because what you believe about love may determine what happens to you far more than who you meet or how much you weigh, your net worth or any of the factors we so often struggle with in the search for a loving relationship.

It is the hidden beliefs, the ones you don't even know you have that usually cause the most trouble. But once you know what they are, you can begin to change them.

When you change a belief you have held, the private version of reality you live by can change too. You will seek different experiences and be attracted to different people. In a world filled with people wanting to love and be loved some wonderful potential relationships await on the other side of limiting or self-defeating beliefs.

Here are some commonly held beliefs about love that can ruin a relationship and block the hapiness that comes with sharing love with an open heart:

"I'm not good enough to be loved." Very few people go around saying "I am not good enough to be loved," but this belief shows up in a variety of ways. People who harbor this belief astound their friends and family by how little they will settle for in a mate and how much abuse they will take. Another clue that this belief is in effect is the inability to accept love when it is freely offered.

"Letting go is hard to do." Anyone with this belief suffers long and hard at the breakup of a relationship. Changing your focus from loss and pain to what you want to experience instead will help you to create that experience. The best way to let go is to reach for something else.

"Until I have the romantic love-of-my life I am not a success." Those for whom this seems true fail to enjoy the other wonders in life, friendships, family, and the glory of nature. The pride and pleasure of mastering new challenges mean little or nothing as long as this believer is not romantically involved.

"Love is scarce." This myth causes people to latch on and hold tight at the first hint of a budding relationship. They do not have relationships; they take hostages. When their "prisoners of love" struggle and sooner or later break free, it reinforces the belief that the potential for a loving relationship is slim.

"Rejection has to be painful and is to be avoided at all cost." This belief limits the ability to risk finding out what a relationship can withstand. Avoiding rejection at all cost actually keeps relationships from growing in intimacy and strength.

"I wasted my love on him/her." As if there were some huge rotting garbage heap of wasted love somewhere! The bitterness that accompanies this belief robs the believer of most of the sweetness of life. Although you may not like the results of choices you made,that does not mean that the experience of loving was a waste.

"Love is something you acquire and trade like a commodity." Because it results in constant calculation and evaluation, this belief ends in shallow exchanges and loneliness. For the man or woman who operates from this belief, it also seems real that others view them the same calculating way.

"If you loved me, you would _____ (fill in the blank)." Those who suffer(and suffer they do!)from this conclusion measure how loved they are by how much their lovers give in to their demands. The demands escalate until they drive loved ones away or create a living nightmare instead of a loving partnership.

"Love takes away unhappiness." When someone looks at love through this lens any upset signifies a failure of love. Ironically, when you actively love yourself or someone else, you usually will feel happier. It just does not work when you try to put someone else in charge of your feelings.

Once you identify a self-defeating belief, asking these questions about it can help to unravel it.

1. First, write the belief down so you can focus on it. Ask yourself, "Is that true?" Write your answer down. Don't worry if your answer surprises you. For now, the goal is simply to determine if you really think that particular belief is true.
If you see for yourself that something you have believed, maybe for years, is simply not true, you can begin to change the seeming reality that goes with living by that belief.

2. Why do I believe that? What seems true about this belief?

3. What might happen if I did not believe that? Let your thoughts and imagination go with this one. Write freely. A masterpiece can come later. Right now give voice to the response that comes when you ask the question.

4. If that belief disappeared, would that be ok? The answer to this might surprise you. It often leads to the discovery of some fear you may need to work through.
If you uncover even more beliefs, you can question them as well.
Question your love beliefs and give Cupid a chance! What lies on the other side of limiting and self-defeating beliefs? Infinite opportunities for a life filled with love and happiness.

Upcoming Free Teleseminar Series

2009-02-07T14:53:00.000-08:00

You CAN listen to the Teleseminar Intensive Series free!
To sign up:

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The prior notice for the Free Teleseminar had several errors. Thanks to the thoughtful people who noticed and let me know the info has been revised!

Series producer, Jodi Rosenberg is new in the wild world of teleseminars. It is an amazingly complicated process. She has been working on it for months. I've not dealt with a more dedicated producer, conscientious in presenting my segment accurately and reading my books to prepare for our presentation.

We live in the midst of infinite opportunities, but it's easy to get stuck behind a wall made from beliefs that are just not true! I welcome the opportunity to share how to break out to greater freedom, happiness and success in this far reaching way -- FREE to everyone who wants to listen.

You can also download the entire 12 week intensive series or buy a transcript for a fee if you want to.

Here's the info again.

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Sending love,

Mandy

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Why You Can't Let Go of a Limiting Belief

2009-01-23T15:58:00.000-08:00

I’m shocked at the number of belief experts who tell anyone who will pay to listen to let go of limiting beliefs and create new ones!

I see it in books, on blogs and promotions of all sorts. Almost everything out there about limiting beliefs is filled with this nonsense.

Why am I so shocked?

Because you cannot do it!

Bi it's very nature, a belief is what you think is real. You will not stop believing the floor is the floor just because your hear it is a limiting belief. You will stand up and walk on it.

You will not stop believing you are unworthy because you think it’s a bad belief! You have to find out it is not true, or not an issue in order to end your faith in it.

For a belief to be limiting, it has to be untrue. The truth never limits. It sets us free. When you see for yourself that something you have believed and lived by, maybe for years, is false you simply stop believing it.

Here’s a poignant example. I had a friend who was very poor. Her name was Mary Galewaler. She had 12 children. Mary was a widow.

One day she told me, the pride of certain knowledge in her voice, “I always tell my kids, “Ain’t no Galewaler never gonna get nowhere in this world.”

Weighing the intrusion factor against the possibility for a new and better reality, I ventured a reply, “You might not want to say that, Mary.”

“Why?” she asked.

“Because it might not have to be true.”

Long pause. Long, long pause.

“Oh, I never thought of that.” Mary’s smile lit up the room!

I’ll bet big bucks. Mary Galewaler never said “No Galewaler’s never gonna amount to nothing” again.

And Mary? She learned to read, she bought a home. She got her first paying job.

She did not sit down and choose something better to believe. She perceived a new, expanded reality. She learned the truth. Neither she nor her children were doomed to a life with no success.

You need to get in there and find out if your limiting or self-defeating belief holds true for you. It’s tough to do alone which is why I wrote two whole books dedicated to just that to help you.

“Travelling Free” covers beliefs formed during painful, hard times. “Emotional Options” focuses on beliefs that block happiness which always block success too. You can order them at my still messed-up but working website:
www.mandyevans.com

If you already have them but are stuck in something you don’t like – get them out and read that part again. I do!

Wishing you great insight and clear vision!

Love,
Mandy

PS: Enlighten and inspire us with your thoughts -- always welcome! Click "comments" below.

Mandy Evans Live at The Betty Ford Center

2009-01-12T10:58:00.000-08:00

The response from those who listened to “Peace with the Past” encourages me to send it to you again.

I’m speaking to recovering addicts and professionals in the field at the famous Betty Ford Center in California. The material applies to all of us who seek freedom from limiting beliefs we formed during challenging times that are not true and block happiness and success now.

Here’s a gift to help you make a strong start in 2009 – FREE for you and FREE to share.

http://www.brucefeagle.com/mandyevans/

I was deeply touched by the spontaneous comments people sent me. Like these --

“Thank you for your story and your generosity in sharing it. Even though I know so many of the stories of your life, it was with awe and appreciation that I listened again. You are an amazing speaker and a beautiful light in the world and in my life.”

“Thank you for sharing this very personal and inspirational talk with us. You have a lot to say and your presentation is easy to hear and accept on a very personal level as well.”

“It was great! I did not live with alcoholic parents but there are many aspects of your talk that hit us all. As you said, we all have a past!
I sat my husband down and had him listen to your talk on the MP3 since his mother came from an alcoholic family. Never did anyone ever talk about "the father." He was always the bad guy and I know very little about their story but we both wondered what my mother-in-law's fathers' story might have been.Please start selling this CD as soon as you can it will be wonderful!Thank you for giving it as a gift. It was highly received!”

“It was exciting and just like having my own private lecture. I found myself learning stuff all over again from it - as well as feeling very moved.”

I’d love to know what YOU think.

Love,
Mandy

Report from the 2009 Welcoming Group

2009-01-02T14:22:00.000-08:00

Five of us gathered here on the patio over bagels and stuff on New Years Day to reflect and write about what we want to welcome into our lives in 2009.

Three of us had done this before. The other two had not. I found myself feeling very shy explaining the point of it all to my friends and trying not to sound like a seminar leader.

We talked about how being conscious of what you welcome matters. Whether to say "I want or I welcome" came up for discussion too. And whether it was just semantics.

For about twenty years I thought in terms of "I want" for this exercise. Then I became aware of the energy and emotions that generated. How it seemed to focus on the lack rather than the awareness of how welcome the object or experience we desire is.

We got to work and spent four hours thinking, writing, sharing, eating, laughing, crying and learning so much about ourselves and each other.

Each of us had focused more than usual on how we wanted to be, changes we wanted to make in ourselves, rather than stuff to attract from the universe. We had plenty of those too though.

We all wanted inspiration to expand, grow, create, express our true selves in different ways.

Clearing excess baggage was popular as were travel, meditating and spiritual growth.

We added to our lists as we learned from each other and thought of new wonders we'd like to show up in our lives.

Here is some of what I wrote:

Being happy

The will to do what I can to be healthy and pain-free

Greatly expanded ability to accept love and support

Deepening dear relationships

To be well accompanied through life

Writing the next book and selling 100,000 copies

Tech help

Someone to help market CDs and seminars

A perfect tenant for a warehouse/office building I own to whom I can give a big rent break and for whom it will be a well used and appreciated opportunity

A durable solution to roof leaks at that building

Continued prosperity

Being a good mother

Being a good friend

Wonderful books to read

Food, love, shelter for all

Help for our new president from all over

Renewal and deepening of values of honor and kindness in our country -- and the world

We talked about the importance of nurturing, support and open communication, the consequences of isolating when times are tough and admiration for the courage of those who put themselves out there in creative ways for all of us to see and maybe judge harshly.

It was a magical morning. I wish we could all be together at one huge table sharing our thoughts and heart's desires.

I love the comments people posted so far. They are a gift to us all.

May all of our "welcomings" arrive at our doors and may we all be wise enough to let them in.

Love,

Mandy

Temporary Email

2009-01-01T17:30:00.000-08:00

Oh no! My website and email are down!

You can reach me here or send email to mandye@ix.netcom.com for now!

Happy New Year!

I love your welcoming posts. I'll get mine in tomorrow.

Love,
M.

Welcome Miracles in 2009

2008-12-31T12:12:00.000-08:00

We’ve all had the experience. You think how much you love someone and want to connect. The phone rings. You hear your loved one’s voice and smile with delight.

How does it work? What gets in the way when it does not work?

I’ve rummaged around with those questions for over 30 years with lots of bright, curious, open minded, generous spirited people.

Here is some of what we learned.

The bad news is that you are not in charge of the whole universe, your vote about how things should go is not the only one that counts. If you think about it though, it’s not really bad news. How would you like it if someone else could determine the outcome in your life?

Desire is the rocket fuel of manifestation. It propels thoughts, action and creativity. I’m pretty sure it works in a cosmic way too, pushing and pulling things around in ways we are just beginning to grasp.

Happy desire brings happiness. Unhappy desire brings unhappiness.

Desire comes from the Latin desiderare, to await from the stars.

It works like an inner compass – an awareness of what we want to move toward or attract to us.

Self-defeating beliefs get in the way. They block amazing experiences. Call them miracles, blessings, whatever you want; we deflect and reject them every day. Because these experiences seem like miracles to us, they do not, by definition, fit into our limiting belief-systems about what we can be, what we can have and what we deserve. We rule them out like a foul-happy umpire in the game of life.

When we uncover those beliefs and reveal them as the misperceptions that they are, we can accept the wonders all around us. You may want to read (or re-read!) “Emotional Options” and “Travelling Free” to help you to do that. You can order them at http://www.mandyevans.com.”

On the first day of each New Year, I gather with a small group of friends to become more aware of “What I Welcome Into My Life.”

We’ll reflect on the miracles and wonders we’d like to show up in 2009, write them down and share the ones we want to divulge. I’ll share some of mine here.

There is power in shared consciousness. Letting people know what you would like to connect with improves the chances that it will happen, especially if lots of us celebrate and support each other’s heart’s desire.

I hope you’ll welcome miracles and blessings in 2009.

One desire leaps to mind right now: for each of you to be happier than ever before, more prosperous, healthier, more filled with love and receiving it back from all around you.

Please share this with anyone you’d like to extend a welcome to.

Happy New Year!
Love,
Mandy

Christmas in the Desert

2008-12-24T09:41:00.000-08:00

Happy Holidays!

We have snow way down low on our mountains here in the desert of the Coachella Valley in Southern California.

I'm wishing you happy holidays filled with love and joy.

If, as so many of us are this year, you are struggling with health, financial, relationship or other problems, I wish you especially happiness, prosperity, health, inspired solutions, caring support, peace of mind, courage, creativity and hope.

Love,
Mandy

The Most Challenging Talk I Ever Gave

2008-12-13T11:10:00.000-08:00

The gift of recovery means so much to those of us who have lived through painful times--especially during holidays that evoke so many memories.

Nobody wants to live in the past, as the saying goes, but many of us live “by the past.” That is because during painful times we often form beliefs that are distorted, limiting, self-defeating – and simply not true. Then we continue to live by those beliefs without knowing it.

Finding and changing those beliefs opens doors we never knew we closed. Then miracles can come in.

So I took the exercises I developed for a seminar, insights from participants and my experience with Adult Children of Alcoholics and put it all together in a book.

“Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs” is back in stock after some updates at Amazon. I hope you’ll buy a copy for some one (maybe you?) to help them recover from a tough time, expand their horizons and accept new miracles!

You can order it from my website, www.mandyevans.com

This year I spoke about my own past at “The Alcohol Awareness Hour” for the world famous Betty Ford Center in Rancho Mirage, CA. I revealed things I had never shared in public.

There were laughter, tears and moments when I was not sure I would make it through the hour long talk. I had not anticipated how hard it would be in a room full of strangers, many of whom were only a few days or weeks clean and sober.

At the end of the talk something miraculous happened that made it more than worth while. Would you like to hear it?

“Making Peace with the Past is not for sale yet – anywhere. Here is the link to listen. It takes a few seconds to load. It’s FREE, my gift to you, sent with love.
http://www.brucefeagle.com/mandyevans/

Thanks to Debra Lux and Catherine Rush for helping me at “The Betty” and Bruce Feagle
(www.brucefeagle.com) filmmaker extraordinaire for help with the CD.

Wishing you the gifts of recovery, love, health, happiness, prosperity and success during this season of many holidays!

Love,
Mandy

PS I'd love to know your thoughts. Please share them at "comments" below.

Share Your Gratitude

2008-11-25T19:02:00.000-08:00

What Are You Grateful For?

As we in the USA approach our day of gratitude, Thanksgiving, I would love to hear from you, wherever on this jewel of a planet you call home. Please share your thoughts; click the word "comments" below

Something happens when you share from your heart that is different from what happens when you keep it to yourself alone. You may increase the power of attraction, the goodwill of acknowledgement, the inspiration of your example, the recognition of our shared humanity. So I hope you will let us know what you are grateful this Thanksgiving.

I always thought it should be spelled great-full – as in “filled with awareness of greatness” – the awareness of the greatness of the beauty, abundance, love, joy--the magnificence of being alive on planet earth on the 3rd Thursday in November, 2008.

I am grateful for the love, challenge and many lessons of being my son, Barnaby’s mother – with all I have yet to learn. And to Sheri who loves him so well For my dear Dutch grandson, Siem

I am “great-full” for friendships old and new – like Catherine Rush, Debra Lux, Gary Dorothy, Kerry and Joe Lemier, Buzz Edelberg, Harry Cauley, Bob Burgos, Susan Stafford, Jeffrey Pease, Joe Vitale, Michael Neill, Jeffrey Pease, Abe Zimmerman, Douglas Wilson and Prue Berry, Rae Bales, Kate Nowak, Martin Parks, Sheila Bradley and so many others who have filled my life with love and lessons.

I am filled with gratitude to my reading student, Richard, for his inspiration and for giving me, twice a week, a time when I know without a doubt, that I’m doing something good.

I’m filled with gratitude for the abundance and beauty in which I live.

There is more, always more. What are some of yours?

If you share your blessing and gratitude who knows whose heart you will touch. Who you will inspire?

May your days be filled with gratitude and blessings!

Love,
Mandy

Trusting Reluctance

2008-11-20T10:57:00.000-08:00

Perhaps a true seeker of truth never graduates from truth-seeking-school. But then, when would you want to be done with that? When would you want to stop learning more of the sheer, breath-taking beauty of clear vision?

One of my favorite truth seeking topics is “Trusting Yourself.” For the first part of my life I did not know it was even an issue. I just blundered about bouncing off the walls that defined my physical and emotional reality.

Around age 30 I began to listen to that small, still voice within. I began to see that even though a lot of my choices led to painful conclusions, I did want to take care of myself as best I could. I simply had a lot to learn. And a lot to unlearn. I still do.

Even so, I know I do the best I can with what I know and what I believe. I’ll bet you are too. The great news is that we can learn more every day. As we gain clarity our beliefs change with the speed of light.

Of all the ways we can trust ourselves, trusting reluctance doesn’t get a lot of buzz. I’ve never seen a headline or a seminar on “Trust Your Reluctance!”

What is that “oh, no, I don’t want to” message about anyway? So often we assume that if we don’t want to do something we believe we should it points to a character flaw – a sure sign of something in ourselves we need to overcome.

But what if it isn’t that at all? What if that internal braking system that slows us to a halt has another message. Sometimes our reluctance to act tells us that the very thing we try to force ourselves to do will not work. Or will not work yet. Will never turn out well with the approach we are about to take.

I’m learning to honor my reluctance. Sometimes I need more information, more courage, more support, more insight before opening my mouth, my heart or my purse-strings.

Yeah, but what if it is just a character defect of cowardice, laziness, sloth and torpor that holds me back? I ought to know, right? Maybe there is hope or help for improvement.

Here’s a question that helps me to sort it out. Say I dread making a phone call. I ask, “Is the only reason you don’t want to do it that you are afraid to?

If the answer is “no” – I’ve got other reluctance-reasons I can address now that I am aware of them.

If the answer is “yes” I can ask what I’m afraid of. When I identify my fear I can explore it. I can discover my reasons for being afraid. Those reasons are beliefs I can challenge and often dismiss as the limiting misconceptions they are.

I’m pretty excited about this new avenue of inquiry – celebrating reluctance! Who would have thought?

Now there is a phone call I’m ready to make – with no reluctance at all!

I’d love to know what you think. You can post comments by clicking the blue word “comments” below. My blog host shows a reluctance to give much of a clue!

2008-11-19T15:02:00.000-08:00

The Bargain :
Bargain Miracles? -- What a concept!

Joe Vitale specializes in them. He just released his newest, latest and maybe his last book all about them, “Expect Miracles.” It sounds terrific.

Joe wants to spread the word and the miracles. Its available at a big bargain discount for $10.85 today at Amazon. Miracles for everyone on your holiday gift list! Get yours at:

http://snipurl.com/expectmiracles

The Freebie:
Free Gifts from the Heart at Foodista.

My beloved son, Barnaby and his beloved girlfriend, Sheri are building an online encyclopedia for everything about food and cooking – Foodista!

I really liked their blog with 10 homemade gifts for budget conscious times.

http://www.foodista.com/2008/11/16/top-ten-homemade-gift-ideas/

Now I’m going to go order some copies of “Expect Miracles” and make that intriguing garlic vinegar from Foodista.

True foodistas hunting down those fierce oysters in the wild waters north of Seattle!

Have a wonderful day, full of bargains, miracles and gifts from the heart!
Love,
Mandy

Listen Up! You'll Be Glad

2008-11-07T11:58:00.001-08:00

Did you ever have a wonderful time and think of all the people you wish you could share it with?
Only it’s too late, or time, travel, financial challenges get in the way.

Well last night Al Diaz and I had a conversation like that. Al is a generous spirit, a true seeker. It was smokin’ hot, super cool and as much fun as I’ve had in a long time.

Best of all, I CAN share it with you. It’s free. You can listen to it on your computer, download it and even send it to friends!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Ilumine-Ao Scroll down to the list of shows.

Listen up. I think you’ll be glad.

Have a great weekend.

Love,
Mandy

Peace with the Past Radio Interview

2008-11-02T15:03:00.000-08:00

I’m doing a free one hour internet radio interview on “Making Peace with the Past” on Thursday, November 6 at 6:00 PM Pacific time, 9:00 PM Eastern. The call-in number is (347) 826-7680.

The link is http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Ilumine-Ao

We will discuss how you can clear beliefs from the past that block success and happiness now.

The law of attraction always works; they don’t call it a law for nothing. A lot of things can get in the way of it working the way you want it to though, at least on a conscious level.

You probably already know that what you focus on usually grows.
What determines what you focus on? Your belief system does.

Created from a lifetime of observations, conclusions, perceptions, interpretations, everything you’ve been taught and told, your belief system is your unique version of reality. That’s the reality you really live by. It includes beliefs about who you are, what you can have and how you have to feel. It controls what you reach for, even what dreams you dare to have.

Your belief system trumps discipline, affirmations and guilt every time. How powerful is that!?

During painful, challenging times we often form limiting and self-defeating beliefs. We continue live by those beliefs without being aware of it.

Of course I do not recommend “living in the past” but it’s just as important that we not live “by the past” – that we are not ruled by outdated beliefs that were never true to begin with, that block success and happiness.

My book, “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past” covers how to find and unravel those beliefs so that we can be happy and create more of what we want NOW! You can order it at:

http://www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html

Here is the link for the radio show:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Ilumine-Ao

I hope you’ll tell all of your friends. Call and join in with your questions. The call in number is (347) 826-7680.

Past shows are archived so you can listen on your computer later if you miss it live.

Wishing you a peaceful past, a happy now, and an amazing future!

Love,
Mandy

The "Present Present"

2008-10-19T15:20:00.000-07:00

So many amazing people from all around the world attended the Miracles Weekend in San Diego I wanted to tell those of you who are interested all about it.

My presentation, “Accepting Miracles” was the very last one before the final Key Note by Joe Vitale. It was a fabulous experience – something we all created together with our love and enthusiasm.

Good news! They filmed it an I’ll get a copy of my part to share with you. I’ll keep you posted.

Then I got busy getting ready for the BREAKOUT Weekend here in Palm Springs, info/register:
http://beliefbreakout.blogspot.com/2008/06/breakout-in-palm-springs.html

It begins on Friday night. There is still room and I would love to see you here!

Thanks to Jarad James here’s a complete report! And best of all it’s a “present present” – just click the link and you’ll see what he means.
http://www.thecollegeguide.net/thepresent.html

To Your Happiness and Many Miracles!

Mandy

From Economic Fear to Happiness

2008-10-10T11:00:00.000-07:00

You may have heard me say, “Be happy and do what you want.” But what if you’re not happy? What if you’re really scared?

The level of economic fear and worry I hear reminds me of one of my very first clients.

Robert was out of work. And he was scared. Walking into a job interview paralyzed him with dread. He began to stammer and sweat his way through the few interviews he forced himself to go. They ended abruptly, putting him out of his misery but leaving him out of a job.

Robert also felt deeply ashamed – of his lack of employment and of his fear.

We sat across from each other at a battered old drop leaf table in an apartment on Manhattan’s Upper West Side. As a young single parent I had financial issues of my own, but that wasn’t the point. My job is to find the beliefs that fuel those painful emotions, keep them in place and block happiness and success.

I began to ask Robert questions about his fear. He was afraid he wouldn’t find work, his wife would get tired of him, that she would eventually leave him.
We followed his fear to see where it led – into those dark corners where it’s hard to look.

Robert was afraid he’d end up homeless and alone. When I asked what scared him about that he looked at me like I was crazy.

“Could you still be happy?” I asked. I admit, it took all my nerve to get the question out. It sounded outrageous, even to me.

During the long, long silence that followed, I barely resisted the temptation to butt in with soothing words or a positive thought.

Then Robert exploded out of his chair with a yell, “Yes! I could!” He danced around my living room shouting gleefully, “It could be a relief! I could be happy! I could be happy! I could think, Oh boy! We’re having pea soup at the shelter tonight!”

The next week Robert got a job. And his wife had never even thought about leaving him.

It’s still seems outrageous to ask someone (or myself) what about being homeless, or alone, or even dying frightens them. There is freedom in the answers to those questions though. In that freedom we breathe deeply again and focus on what we want. We give ourselves the best chance to move toward our heart’s desire or attract it to us.

Wishing you freedom from every fear and happy solutions to every challenge!

Love,
Mandy

PS
To share your thoughts click "comments" below. We love to hear them.
Details/Register for the BREAKOUT Weekend at
http://beliefbreakout.blogspot.com/2008/06/breakout-in-palm-springs.html

Miracle Lillies

2008-10-02T09:32:00.000-07:00

The UPS guy handed over the tell-tale long box. The temperature hovered at 107 in the late afternoon. The box felt warm, very warm.

When I opened it, steam came out! Oh, no. Inside, a huge bunch of long stemmed lillies, just in the bud was actually hot!

What a shame, I thought. They’ll never make it.

I hurried to clip the stems and put them in water, though I was sure they were lilly toast.

I read the note. The lillies were from the Miracles Coaches to thank me for a recent training with them in Texas on how to clear limiting beliefs.

Look what happened! Miracles abound!

May all of your budding ideas, hopes and dreams open in splendor!
Love,
Mandy

Mystery of Attraction -- Magic and Miracles

2008-09-20T13:52:00.000-07:00

I met them in Michigan in the summer of 1960.

I was a 19 year old from a small town in Maryland, completely on my own for the first time as an apprentice at The Ledges Playhouse in Grand Ledge.

The producer, Bill Slout; his lovely wife and talented leading lady, Marte Boyle and the handsome writer/actor, multi-talented leading man, Harry Cauley lived in New York. So did my fellow apprentice and life-long friend 17 year old actor/director-in-the making, Bob Burgos.

The memory of that first summer in Grand Ledge (I spent 2 there) is bright and vivid. For the first time I felt wanted, connected, a vital part of something I loved.

I gave up my short life in the theater a few years later and never thought much about those early dreams again.

From Michigan, New York and Maryland, all of us ended up in Southern California within 2 hours from each other.

Last night we gathered with a whole bunch of other people for Bill and Marte’s 50th wedding anniversary. What a time!

For us to be hugging, laughing, teasing, reminiscing again seems almost miraculous. What sweet mystery attracted us to each other in the first place and brought all 5 of us together again on a soft end-of-summer evening 48 years later?

For a long time I’ve known I was going to join Joe Vitale and a group of exciting teachers next week in the San Diego Miracles Weekend, http://www.miraclesweekend.com/

I knew they are going to video it and make a movie.

But not until I headed West to meet my old show business friends did it dawn on me – I’m going to be in a movie!

The Law of Attraction? Karma? Dreams coming true? Whatever it is, I love it!

May all of your special connections thrive and be blessed, cherished and nurtured! And how about an old dream coming true, like magic and miracles?!

Love,
Mandy

PS -- Comments welcome! Click "comments" below to add yours.

Keep Learning!

2008-09-08T10:48:00.000-07:00

Every single person I know who is unhappy and stuck balks at learning. They may resist a life-lesson that stares them in the face. Or they might cling to the status quo and fight every inevitable change.

Every single successful, happy person I know loves to learn.

Keep Learning!

On Saturday I trained Joe Vitale’s Miracles Coaches http://miraclescoaching.com/apply team in my way to find and clear beliefs that keep each and every one of us in a small box of our own making. Those beliefs separate us from the abundant opportunities and resources available to us all.

With this is extraordinary group of dedicated, experienced and caring people, my concern was that nobody would admit to having anything to work on.

Guess what? They had plenty of stuff – painful, bewildering, confusing stuff. That’s because they are human. What sets them apart and contributes to their remarkable success with clients is that they keep learning and learning and learning.

On Friday night I had dinner with Joe and his beloved Nerissa. A major factor in Mr. Attractor Factor’s ability to accomplish more than most people ever even dream about in a lifetime (or 10 lifetimes!) is his insatiable thirst for knowledge. As fast as he learns something wonderful, he finds a way to share it.

I learned so much over Thai lettuce wraps! An amazing idea to improve the BREAKOUT Weekend, new ways to communicate old ideas, websites to visit and a killer title for an article.

In search of a summer learning adventure I took a 4 day Qigong course in San Diego. At 67 I did wonder if I’d be the oldest, stiffest, chubbiest, least experienced person there – I wasn’t! Though it was a challenge, I completed every single exercise and form all the way through including the one that lasted 2 hours. I loved it. My body, mind and spirit learned a lot.

Richard is 67, like me. Though he has a lot of physical problems, he’s happier than he has been in years. He is learning how to read – fast! We work together twice a week . Teaching adults how to read thrills me beyond description.

If you’d like to learn something that will enhance and enrich your life forever, come to the October 24-26 BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs:
http://mandy@mandyevans.com

Or the Miracles Weekend with Joe Vitale and a group of his favorite teachers (including me) in San Diego, September 26-28:
http://www.miraclesweekend.com/

Or be wild! Come to them both.

Love,
Mandy