Start the Year Strong with an 'I Welcome List' (No Resolutions Required).

Ditch those rarely kept, guilt promoting resolutions and begin your new year this way.

Write an I WELCOME LIST

Pointers

• Think of all the wonderful things and experiences you would like to show up in your life this year. What would you like to attract to you or discover and move toward?
• Make sure to distinguish desire from attachment. Desire is awareness of what you would like to experience. That changes as new information becomes available. Attachment requires believing your well-being depends on the outcome you want. It keeps you stuck and unhappy. 
• Write them down. That makes it real, a giant step toward manifestation. 
• Do not be reasonable! If it could just drop out of the blue sky, what do you want? 
• Make sure it is what you really want, not what you think you should want.
• Share it with a friend and/or here in the comments.
• Be open to miracles.
• Watch what happens.

How it works: 

Your true heart's desire is the strongest motivation there is. It moves you and in mysterious ways, affects the universe and other people too. When you acknowledge a desire it you take the first step in making it real. You introduce first a new thought, then written and spoken words into reality as we know it. You literally create new possibilities.

The power of focus. What you focus on grows. So whether you dwell on what you do want or what you don't want matters. Have you heard the phrase, "what you resist persists"? In resistance your thoughts and actions aim at what you do not want. What you are fighting to overcome fills a growing part of your daily experience, your life!

Focusing on what you welcome works the same way, with the an added bonus. When you turn your awareness on how you do want things to be you will notice opportunities, connections and steps forward that you would not see if you were not looking for them.

Contrary to the misquote about causing suffering; pure, unfettered desire feels good and fosters creativity. The actual quote is "misunderstood desire is the cause of all suffering". 

Wishing you many blessings and happy new adventures.

With love,
Mandy

Author of

Emotional Options

Travelling Free: How to Recover

Holidays from Ho Ho Ho to Oh No!

The Holidays -- are you rejoicing, barely holding up or somewhere in between?

I move through the season this year with such a mix of emotions. There is a residual dread I've never been able to shake completely since my young Christmas days wondering if my father would show up. Would be be drunk? Would my mother be mean to him? Would I feel somehow in everyone's way, not quite welcome?

I've had sweet Christmas times since, many of them and some tough ones too. I guess most of us have.

These last days I've felt:

• Gratitude for my sweet home, family, friends and you
• The pleasure of finding just the right gift for someone
• Regret for the times I withheld a kindness
• Missing dear ones I used to celebrate with, a list that grows longer as I grow older
• Dismay at the cruelty of so many of my fellow Americans
• The fervent wish for food, warmth, shelter and love for everyone
• The lovely memories of those sweet Christmases past
• The warmth of love that pushes out dread
• Happiness at the sheer wonder of life itself and the beauty of our earth

Wishing you and yours Happy Holidays and love,

Mandy

Author of

Emotional Options

Travelling Free: How to Recover

Are You in a Groove or a Canyon?

Do you ever wonder, "How did I wind up here again?"  Perhaps:

• In a relationship that does not work
• In a job you dread going to
• Feeling pressured by the demands of a friend
• Alone more than you want to be
• Angry and frustrated
• Struggling to make ends meet

Our belief systems lead us all to some choices and actions while they rule out other possibilities. As long as those fixed ideas and that version of reality remain the same, we will make similar choices and repeat similar actions. The results seem inevitable and in a way they are. 

First you wear a path. You smooth is out until it is easy to follow. It becomes a groove, then a rut. It grows deeper and deeper until you find yourself in a canyon so deep you can no longer see over the walls to the abundant possibilities available to you beyond them.

There is a way out. Change Your Beliefs. Not so easy! But trudging through that endless canyon is so much harder and far less rewarding. 

How can you change a belief? How do you find them when you can't even see them? These clues will help you solve the mystery.

1. Are you are feeling some way your don't like feeling?
2. Do you want something that seems possible for others but not for you?

If you answered "Yes" please visit my website for lots of free information and links to videos to help you scale those canyon walls mandyevans.com. 

Read Emotional Options  It is a step-by-step guide, packed with exercises and insights gleaned from decades of delving deeply into the realm of personal belief systems. There are recent Amazon reviews from people in the US and the UK from people who recently read it again. Here's one Read Review

I'd love to know your thoughts and answer any questions, Please post your comments below.

Cheering you on to vast landscape beyond canyon walls!

With love,
Mandy

Heroic Losers

The hardest thing I ever had to do, he told us, was attending the execution of a young woman I knew was innocent. He was a lawyer who spoke about a case for the Innocence Project in California that he lost. Being there for his client at the end was all he had left to give. 

How much courage it must require to take on challenges like that again and again knowing the stakes, knowing that no matter how much you care, despite preparation and diligence, you cannot control the outcome. Your opponent, the jury, the judge -- each one plays their role in this real-life drama, their way.

Doctors too are high stakes losers. Sometimes they fail to cure sick patients. Sometimes they lose limbs and even lives in surgery. Somehow they go on trying to help us patients. 

Think of all the high stakes losers like AA sponsors, addiction counsellors, police officers, firemen (and women), performers who risk bombing in front of enormous crowds; just to name a few. And famous athletes like Michael Jordon who gave us his famous quote about missing the final shots that lost the game:

These losers are heroes abundantly worthy of the title. If you have lost and tried again, you are too. One of my favorite sayings is "We don't always win, but we suit-up for every game."

Got your suit on? I hope this post will help you to break out from some beliefs about failure.

Cheering you on to happiness, success and failure!

With love,

Mandy

This post is dedicated to JL

Peace in the Face of Hatred

 Do you ever feel overwhelmed by your daily dose of of bad news?

When I feel disheartened by the hatred, cruelty and greed (especially for power) in our world, the only thing I know to do is focus on what I want instead. Kindness. Generosity. Love. Compassion, Peace. I try to extend some.

Doing my small part to create the world I want feels so much better than despair or anger toward those who damage others. I don't wish those people harm or suffering -- just out of power and unable to hurt others.

The courage and strength required to confront suffering without being demoralized reminds me of our civil rights leader, John Lewis, who invited us to get into some good trouble.

So let's also stand up when we can. Maybe not in front of a tank, but In conversation, even if it ruffles a few feathers. Voting. Protesting injustice and cruelty. Contributing to worthy causes

If the plight of innocent people in war zones, or those who are homeless and hungry tugs at your heart so hard it threatens to overwhelm you, I hope this will help.

Love, 

Mandy

Happiness on Sale!

Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness is on sale during this Amazon Kindle Countdown deal. Starting 12/18/23 through 12/22/23 it is just 99 cents. That's 7 for the price of one! Kindle books can be read on any device.

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If you are looking for a meaningful holiday gift, for yourself or people you care about, I hope you will consider this book that has helped so many people to be happier now. 

Headlines from the last 3 reviews, all 5 stars:

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Happy Holidays. 

Happy giving. 

Many Blessings.

With love, 

Mandy

 

Celebrate Your Mistakes!

 Celebrate what?!? Mistakes? Why would anyone want to do that? Because:

 You cannot recognize a mistake unless you just learned something useful. 

For example, I did two Breakout Coaching sessions with a man who wanted to launch his own business, but he was afraid. A few years and several million dollars later he invited me to an interview on his new podcast. During our recording he explained how he knew me. 

He said, She asked me some questions no one had ever asked me before. When I heard my own answers I thought, "But that's just so stupid!"

He announced it gleefully, as if he had just received a wonderful surprise gift. He had. He had given it to himself; I just helped to unwrap the package. 

I'll let you know when the interview airs and you can hear his gleeful proclamation yourself.

But what if the mistake you discover is a belief you have held, maybe for decades, that has blocked your happiness or limited your success? You can regret those erroneous years or celebrate your breakout to newfound freedom. 

If fear of failure or reluctance to make a mistake holds you back from following your heart's desire, don't just take my word for it. Michael Jordan, one of the greatest athletes of all time says:

"I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

Here's to your mistakes! Let's celebrate!

With love, 
Mandy