Tuesday, September 21, 2010

How to Break Up Reality

Al Diaz and I had such a stimulating conversation last night on his show I’m still thinking about it. One thing we talked about were our personal wake up calls.

Here’s one. When my son was about 12 we were shopping for school clothes with our friend Brenda. Brenda worked as head of finance for Werner Erhard’s famous and infamous est organization. She knew a thing or two about what constituted reality.

When my son’s strong will met my soft heart getting him to do stuff was tricky. When Brenda and I were ready to leave the store that day I told him it was time to go. Then I gave him a few minutes more. Then I told him it really was time to go – about 12 times.

Finally Brenda leaned in and said It’s time to break up reality. When I asked what she meant, she replied, We walk out the door and go to the car.

You’d be amazed at how quickly he got there too.. He adjusted to that new reality immediately.

I get a lot of questions from people about how to change someone else. The key is always the same, change yourself. In family therapy the concept goes like this: If one member of a family changes, everyone else has to adjust to the new role definition. In metaphysics it is: If you wiggle our finger, the whole universe has to adjust.

That triggers another est memory. I was in at an est seminar with Werner Erhard. Someone asked a question, then listened to the answer about how he had to be responsible for his own experience. How come it’s always me? He asked only ½ joking. I don’t know how to tell you this, Werner replied, but in your life it’s always going to be you.

If there is a situation or relationship you are struggling with, maybe it’s time to break up reality. It takes action. Talking, unless it’s really different from your old familiar routine will not do it. For a lively adventure tweak your role in the universe, with your family, or at work with a new dance step, a new approach. I strongly recommend a light heart in a happy spirit of adventure. Watch what happens and let us know.


You can listen to my recorded conversation with Al Diaz at

You can break up reality at the BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Vancouver, BC.

Monday, September 20, 2010

12 Tips to Harness the Power of Desire

Some thoughts to help you tap into the power of desire to motivate youself and others.
  1.  Desire is the most powerful motivation there is.
  2. Your belief system determines what you allow yourself to want, even what dreams you dare to have.
  3. You can always grow if you follow your desire as a compass to guide you through life.
  4. You have to correct your course as new information becomes available.
  5. It is important to distinguish between what you want and what you think 
  6. you should want.
  7. Getting what you want is wonderful.
  8. It is very important to be open to better than you ever imagined.
  9. The actual, live, felt state of desire is one of happy anticipation.
  10. Worry, dread and envy are often confused with desire; they are not the same thing.
  11. The difference between desire and attachment is vast.
  12. The ultimate goal of all desire is happiness.
  13. The secret about desire is that you can have that ultimate goal, happiness, right now if you only will allow it.
Throughout the ages sages have advised us to “follow the light” and to “look within.” What lights you up from within?

What do you think? 

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Let's Break Out to Miracles Together

If you are honestly ready to break out to happiness, success and miracles of wonder please consider coming to Vancouver for a BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Vancouver, BC, October 10/23-24.

It may take a personal breakout for you to cross that line from thinking about it, reading, listening and video viewing about it to embark on a new adventure in a larger, happier more creative reality. I’m cheering you on.

I know, it’s hard to imagine all by yourself. I created this weekend so we can break out from the limits we’ve put on our own vision together.

I would never encourage you to go into debt or damage your finances in order to attend. If you can handle it that leaves two questions:
Are you worth it?
Can this weekend deliver the breakout you want?

I have shared this powerful experience for several years in different settings. The feedback has been extraordinary.

The Breakout weekend contains all the best insights and workshop tested exercises from my life’s work. I love this weekend.

I’m especially eager to share it with you. Why? If you are reading this blog you are already engaged in the wonderful process of liberating yourself from limiting and self defeating beliefs that hold you back.

If you are ready, tempted or just curious go see at www.breakouttomiracles.com

There is a BIG $150 discount if you register by 9-30 so go see now.

Let’s stage a breakout together!