Wednesday, June 13, 2012

How Will We Find You?

If there are people who would love to know about you and all you have to offer, how will they find you?

That question rocked the room at the Breakout Coach Training in Palm Springs last year. It dredges up beliefs that keep us from connecting with the very person or people we dream of. It opens doors for me and my coaching students so I recommend it to you.

Today I asked, "If there are people who would benefit from your work, how will they know? How will they find you?" My answer prompted me to write this. There's some more at the end.

Why is it such a big deal? Why are we reluctant to let others know about the richness of our experience, our wisdom, what we have created and what we dream of creating? The desire to be discovered battles the desire to hide our uniqueness, the spark that might not fit the established norm. It keeps us hungry but quiet. We may minimize our gifts and resent not being recognized.

Talk about driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.

What blocks you from telling us who you are? Do you ever hide or down-play your gifts, what you can do, and the value it has for us? What are you concerned will happen if you communicate honestly, clearly and powerfully about who you are and what you have to offer?

Here are some of the beliefs people discovered and shared with me most often:
  • I'll seem like I'm bragging
  • If I get too big, the fall will really hurt
  • I don't want to be like those big blow-hard people who hype everything
  • I don't want to define myself
  • I'm not good enough
  • I'm not into selling
  • Marketing is not for me
  • I'm not one of those people who talk about themselves easily
  • I'm not good enough
  • I don't deserve it (attention, success, being known)
  • People will think that I think I'm all that
  • People will attack me
In my many years helping people to break out from beliefs that block happiness and success, I've never found it useful to lecture or find fault. Questions open these doors better than battering rams.

Discovering a limiting belief is the first giant step. Unraveling it comes next. Do any of these beliefs  hold you back? Did you find some different ones of your own?
Here are some questions to ask about them:
  • Do you believe that?
  • What seems true about it?
  • What are you concerned would happen if you did not believe that?
There is a lot of space and energy on the far side of a limiting belief. Someone I worked with recently declared, "I'm taking off my minimizer bra!" She has a new slogan, "Thou shalt not self-deprecate."

Cheering you on to magical connections and great adventures.

Here's the answer I got when I asked,  How will they find me?" I put the best of how you can break out from limiting beliefs to happiness, success, and miracles into the books, audios, and videos in the Breakout Store

People tell me the content is profoundly useful. Every time someone buys something in the Breakout Store I get excited like a kid at Christmas because I know there is a good chance someone will really benefit from my life's work. Thanks!