You just never know. Last night Kevin Skinner won on “America’s Got Talent” and heads to Las Vegas. Here is his first appearance on the show.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to_dareBr5Q&feature=related
What would be a breakout beyond your wildest dreams?
Have a wonderful weekend.
Love,
Mandy
Find out more about the October 23-25 BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps
Learn how to use The Option Method in “Emotional Options” by Mandy Evans
http://tinyurl.com/koydhu
Friday, September 18, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
Beyond Fear of Changing
My coaching clients often tell me they experience profound fear before our first session together. I always explore that fear with them before we move on to other issues they want to work on.
The answers that come up most often are about what will happen if the very changes they want to bring about really happen. Common fear-making beliefs are about deserving, courting disaster, being punished, succeeding, failing, drawing undue attention, being vulnerable to attack, becoming someone they do not like, becoming greedy, arrogant, selfish, uncaring, full of themselves, envied, judged, alone and unloved. Wow!
Me too. When my first book, “Emotional Options” came out, I had lots of those fears! Only a few came about, just as they might have had I done nothing.
I recall a frightening moment when I felt as if I were setting sail in unchartered waters. So many of my beliefs about my lot in life, what I could have and how I must feel had changed, I felt adrift, not knowing where I would land, who I would be. It was about 38 years ago. I did an Option Method dialogue with my dear friend Marvin Beck. I told him I was afraid of crossing a line into an unknown reality.
He asked me, well, “Mand” what scares you about that?
I might not be able to get back, I answered.
What scares you about that? He asked.
My mind went all fuzzy. I felt disoriented – just as my students often do now. This has happened many times. When I was born for example. When I was 14 and lived in Australia. When my son was born. When I went to GROW to become a group leader, discovered the Option Method, took the est training, became hospice volunteer, moved to California. I’ve never been able to get back into the unenlightened state I had been in before those transforming experiences. So far it’s been fine each time.
My list was shorter back then, but I came out of my foggy state and happily told Marvin I figured it would be ok.
Recently people have talked about that kind of fear when they registered for my Breakout to Miracles Weekend. In life the course begins when you sign up for it. Maybe even when you just think about setting out in a new direction, opening doors you may not have known you closed.
I once asked a student, What are you afraid would happen if you were happy? After a long, long, long pause she whispered, You mean, give up pitiful? Then she burst into uncontrollable, gasping, side splitting laughter.
Think about something you would like to bring into your life? Is it scary? Don’t stop there!
Ask yourself what’s scary about it? Do you believe your answer? What are you concerned would happen if you were not scared?
We are going to change. Each and every one of us will grow, learn, gain, love and lose, age, most likely die. The big choice is whether we choose our changes, willingly engage them or simply brace ourselves to endure them.
Wishing you enlightening changes and great happiness.
Love,
Mandy
Find out more about The October 23-25 BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps
Learn to use the Option Method in “Emotional Options” by Mandy Evans
http://tinyurl.com/koydhu
The answers that come up most often are about what will happen if the very changes they want to bring about really happen. Common fear-making beliefs are about deserving, courting disaster, being punished, succeeding, failing, drawing undue attention, being vulnerable to attack, becoming someone they do not like, becoming greedy, arrogant, selfish, uncaring, full of themselves, envied, judged, alone and unloved. Wow!
Me too. When my first book, “Emotional Options” came out, I had lots of those fears! Only a few came about, just as they might have had I done nothing.
I recall a frightening moment when I felt as if I were setting sail in unchartered waters. So many of my beliefs about my lot in life, what I could have and how I must feel had changed, I felt adrift, not knowing where I would land, who I would be. It was about 38 years ago. I did an Option Method dialogue with my dear friend Marvin Beck. I told him I was afraid of crossing a line into an unknown reality.
He asked me, well, “Mand” what scares you about that?
I might not be able to get back, I answered.
What scares you about that? He asked.
My mind went all fuzzy. I felt disoriented – just as my students often do now. This has happened many times. When I was born for example. When I was 14 and lived in Australia. When my son was born. When I went to GROW to become a group leader, discovered the Option Method, took the est training, became hospice volunteer, moved to California. I’ve never been able to get back into the unenlightened state I had been in before those transforming experiences. So far it’s been fine each time.
My list was shorter back then, but I came out of my foggy state and happily told Marvin I figured it would be ok.
Recently people have talked about that kind of fear when they registered for my Breakout to Miracles Weekend. In life the course begins when you sign up for it. Maybe even when you just think about setting out in a new direction, opening doors you may not have known you closed.
I once asked a student, What are you afraid would happen if you were happy? After a long, long, long pause she whispered, You mean, give up pitiful? Then she burst into uncontrollable, gasping, side splitting laughter.
Think about something you would like to bring into your life? Is it scary? Don’t stop there!
Ask yourself what’s scary about it? Do you believe your answer? What are you concerned would happen if you were not scared?
We are going to change. Each and every one of us will grow, learn, gain, love and lose, age, most likely die. The big choice is whether we choose our changes, willingly engage them or simply brace ourselves to endure them.
Wishing you enlightening changes and great happiness.
Love,
Mandy
Find out more about The October 23-25 BREAKOUT to Miracles Weekend in Palm Springs
http://tinyurl.com/miraclesps
Learn to use the Option Method in “Emotional Options” by Mandy Evans
http://tinyurl.com/koydhu
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
First Prize in the Life Contest
And the first place prize is, a week in Rosendale! The second prize? Two weeks in Rosendale! That’s where I first heard that joke about the prizes.
I love Rosendale, New York, though. Joppenberg Mountain rises up at one end. Rondout Creek runs through on it’s way to the Hudson River. An old cement mining town, at one time a canal town, later a hippie town; it’s the only place I ever knew with a sense of humor about itself. Someone once said Rosedale had the highest percentage of well read, well traveled poor people in the country. It may even be true.
I learned a lot about the contest of life in Rosendale, sometimes the hard way. In the contest of life, the first prize is happiness – in all of its wondrous forms from peace to bliss, contentment to ecstasy, curiosity to triumph.
The second prize is stuff. Second prizes can be fabulous: cars, jobs, awards, relationships, money, houses, fame – you name it. I love second prizes. They often lead to fleeting moments of first prize.
The great news is that we can claim first prize anytime. Unless we get caught in those webs of beliefs that tell us we are not good enough, don’t have enough, have not achieved enough to be happy yet. Then we rule out any chance for the gold and severely diminish chances for bringing home the silver.
If you get stuck in envy, resentment, regret or guilt you get the booby prize.
We live in a societal trance of prize reversal. Breaking out and staying out represents a worthy challenge. My life’s work is helping people to claim first prize then go for the second with gusto.
I still need reminders about the real order of life prizes though. Without an occasional wake-up call I can struggle along, impatiently striving for second prize while I ignore the primo prize within my grasp, a lifetime of happiness.
There is progress! I haven't settled for the booby prize in a long, long time.
This reminder goes out to you (and me) with good wishes for happy days in the first place winner’s circle and lots of adventures with second prizes too.
Love,
Mandy
More reminders? Visit my website for books, links to free videos, articles and belief quizzes http://www.mandyevans.com/
I love Rosendale, New York, though. Joppenberg Mountain rises up at one end. Rondout Creek runs through on it’s way to the Hudson River. An old cement mining town, at one time a canal town, later a hippie town; it’s the only place I ever knew with a sense of humor about itself. Someone once said Rosedale had the highest percentage of well read, well traveled poor people in the country. It may even be true.
I learned a lot about the contest of life in Rosendale, sometimes the hard way. In the contest of life, the first prize is happiness – in all of its wondrous forms from peace to bliss, contentment to ecstasy, curiosity to triumph.
The second prize is stuff. Second prizes can be fabulous: cars, jobs, awards, relationships, money, houses, fame – you name it. I love second prizes. They often lead to fleeting moments of first prize.
The great news is that we can claim first prize anytime. Unless we get caught in those webs of beliefs that tell us we are not good enough, don’t have enough, have not achieved enough to be happy yet. Then we rule out any chance for the gold and severely diminish chances for bringing home the silver.
If you get stuck in envy, resentment, regret or guilt you get the booby prize.
We live in a societal trance of prize reversal. Breaking out and staying out represents a worthy challenge. My life’s work is helping people to claim first prize then go for the second with gusto.
I still need reminders about the real order of life prizes though. Without an occasional wake-up call I can struggle along, impatiently striving for second prize while I ignore the primo prize within my grasp, a lifetime of happiness.
There is progress! I haven't settled for the booby prize in a long, long time.
This reminder goes out to you (and me) with good wishes for happy days in the first place winner’s circle and lots of adventures with second prizes too.
Love,
Mandy
More reminders? Visit my website for books, links to free videos, articles and belief quizzes http://www.mandyevans.com/
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Clear the Way for Miracles
Here’s an exercise you can do to give your miracle a chance to meet up with you in reality.
Write down something you want, something that would take a miracle to attract or achieve.
Now write down why you cannot have it.
Those answers are your beliefs. If they stand between you and the fulfillment of your heart’s desire it is vital to know if they are true or not.
Erin Carraway did that. At the Breakout Weekend at Rowe at the end of May Erin began to dream of playing rugby. She believed it was an amazing experience she could not have again.
Erin’s reasons and beliefs:
7 years away from the game. That’s too long. You can’t go back after that long.
No teams nearby. There isn’t anybody to play with anyway
Fitness level. I could never get back into the kind of shape I’d need to be in.
Age, 43. That is too old.
Here’s how Erin broke out of her limiting beliefs to her miracle.
“After reading Emotional Options and doing countless more dialogues on myself, and a few with a friend I met at Rowe, I started to attract answers to other questions about my additional concerns.
I used Vitale's Attractor Factor and your Option dialogues, I started to see and feel it happening.
That Tuesday night, at the gym, I visualized myself talking to a friend about why I wanted to play again.
Wednesday morning found me sending a random email to a club I found just 70 miles from me (how I never knew of it before?!).
They offered me a chance to play with them on Saturday.
The obstacles of getting gear and arrangements all fell, effortlessly into place.
Saturday morning I woke up at 3:30am to make the 4 hour drive to beautiful Saranac Lake to play for this team.
Naturally the drive happened without issue, and by 9:05 AM I was playing rugby again...running, tackling, scrumming against women 20 years my junior, and loving it!
The weekend answered my questions: can I do it, and do I still want to do it. Yes to both...the team asked me to play with them. Today I worked out the final hurdle of health insurance.
There is so much more to say...the universe gives what you ask for, and are willing to let go of.”
I love what Erin says about asking and letting go. Sometimes it is a real challenge to do both!
Wishing you many happy miracles –
Love,
Mandy
There’s more! Erin used to weigh just under 300 lbs! Read how she became “normal sized” person and helps others to do the same. http://tinyurl.com/erinmiracle
Learn about the Breakout to Miracles Weekend. http://tinyurl.com/tomiracles
Write down something you want, something that would take a miracle to attract or achieve.
Now write down why you cannot have it.
Those answers are your beliefs. If they stand between you and the fulfillment of your heart’s desire it is vital to know if they are true or not.
Erin Carraway did that. At the Breakout Weekend at Rowe at the end of May Erin began to dream of playing rugby. She believed it was an amazing experience she could not have again.
Erin’s reasons and beliefs:
7 years away from the game. That’s too long. You can’t go back after that long.
No teams nearby. There isn’t anybody to play with anyway
Fitness level. I could never get back into the kind of shape I’d need to be in.
Age, 43. That is too old.
Here’s how Erin broke out of her limiting beliefs to her miracle.
“After reading Emotional Options and doing countless more dialogues on myself, and a few with a friend I met at Rowe, I started to attract answers to other questions about my additional concerns.
I used Vitale's Attractor Factor and your Option dialogues, I started to see and feel it happening.
That Tuesday night, at the gym, I visualized myself talking to a friend about why I wanted to play again.
Wednesday morning found me sending a random email to a club I found just 70 miles from me (how I never knew of it before?!).
They offered me a chance to play with them on Saturday.
The obstacles of getting gear and arrangements all fell, effortlessly into place.
Saturday morning I woke up at 3:30am to make the 4 hour drive to beautiful Saranac Lake to play for this team.
Naturally the drive happened without issue, and by 9:05 AM I was playing rugby again...running, tackling, scrumming against women 20 years my junior, and loving it!
The weekend answered my questions: can I do it, and do I still want to do it. Yes to both...the team asked me to play with them. Today I worked out the final hurdle of health insurance.
There is so much more to say...the universe gives what you ask for, and are willing to let go of.”
I love what Erin says about asking and letting go. Sometimes it is a real challenge to do both!
Wishing you many happy miracles –
Love,
Mandy
There’s more! Erin used to weigh just under 300 lbs! Read how she became “normal sized” person and helps others to do the same. http://tinyurl.com/erinmiracle
Learn about the Breakout to Miracles Weekend. http://tinyurl.com/tomiracles
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Is Wonder Calling You?
Robert Edelberg loves horses. He lived on a ranch and enjoyed the out-the-back-door access to his animals.
When he established a chiropractic practice in Palm Springs and remolded a dream home it seemed that having a horse of his own was a thing of the past.
Then came Wonder.
Wonder is a beautiful thoroughbred jumper. She had a habit of kicking over the top rail in competition so her owner decided to find her a new home.
One of Robert’s friends saw an email about a horse for adoption. She didn’t know much about horses, but she knew Robert. She sent him an email. He asked what kind of horse she was. His friend replied “brown.”
Robert went on with his busy day. Over the next few hours 2 more of his friends sent him emails about a horse for adoption. He ignored them.
When he returned home that night he noticed something odd in the bushes beside his front door. A playing card had lodged there. He lives in a windy area. Maybe the wind?
Or maybe Wonder calling. The card was an Ace with a picture of a horse on it that looked just like –Wonder.
Robert figured he had to at least visit her in the high desert where she was boarded. He fell in love with a horse named Wonder.
When he noticed a cut on her leg, he contacted Wonder’s owner to report the injury and to say he was interested.
His friend, Steve agreed to board her a his ranch nearby. Wonder’s owner met Robert there and said “Let’s move her now!”
Miracles abound! The signs are all around, but if you are listening to a played-out old sad song, trapped in a limiting belief system or just too busy with your day you may miss the call.
If Wonder is calling you, will you hear?
Photos of Wonder and Robert
To many wonders!
Love,
Mandy
Robert Edelberg inspires me every two weeks in the Cathedral City Mastermind Group.
When he established a chiropractic practice in Palm Springs and remolded a dream home it seemed that having a horse of his own was a thing of the past.
Then came Wonder.
Wonder is a beautiful thoroughbred jumper. She had a habit of kicking over the top rail in competition so her owner decided to find her a new home.
One of Robert’s friends saw an email about a horse for adoption. She didn’t know much about horses, but she knew Robert. She sent him an email. He asked what kind of horse she was. His friend replied “brown.”
Robert went on with his busy day. Over the next few hours 2 more of his friends sent him emails about a horse for adoption. He ignored them.
When he returned home that night he noticed something odd in the bushes beside his front door. A playing card had lodged there. He lives in a windy area. Maybe the wind?
Or maybe Wonder calling. The card was an Ace with a picture of a horse on it that looked just like –Wonder.
Robert figured he had to at least visit her in the high desert where she was boarded. He fell in love with a horse named Wonder.
When he noticed a cut on her leg, he contacted Wonder’s owner to report the injury and to say he was interested.
His friend, Steve agreed to board her a his ranch nearby. Wonder’s owner met Robert there and said “Let’s move her now!”
Miracles abound! The signs are all around, but if you are listening to a played-out old sad song, trapped in a limiting belief system or just too busy with your day you may miss the call.
If Wonder is calling you, will you hear?
Photos of Wonder and Robert
To many wonders!
Love,
Mandy
Robert Edelberg inspires me every two weeks in the Cathedral City Mastermind Group.
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Giving Up Is Good Too
I’m learning to cut my losses. As some of you know the year attending Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings inspired me to write “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs.” There is a saying those of us who grew up in alcoholic or abusive families understand all too well, “We stick it out through thin and thin.”
Many of us from all sorts of backgrounds adopted limiting beliefs that caused us to endure, manage, make-do, tolerate and settle-for-less. We curtailed our dreams and visions without even knowing we did it.
It’s been a long, hard long lesson but I’m picking up steam. It’s becoming fun!
Persistence has it’s place. It’s very useful, and popular trait. Giving up is good too.
I trade stocks and options on the internet in the morning and actually relish selling with a small loss in stead of watching it drop day after day hoping for a come back. It frees up so much more money for profitable investments. I like to sell those too. No tree grows straight to the sky.
I’m changing the way I relate to people. Some of them don’t like it one bit. I can’t blame them if they move on to more compatible relationships. I bless them on their way.
A few years ago I told the director of a retreat center director to take “warm” out of my bio. Not that I want to be cold, I explained. I’m just not wanting to attract people who are specifically seeking warmth. I’m more interested in being clear, powerful, understanding and loving now – sort of temperature neutral when I teach.
I may even give up on those piles of things I’m going to read some day and get rid of the clutter in my office!
I hope this idea will help you too. Look around your life and inside yourself. Is there something you’d like to give up on? Call it quits and move on with love, joy and new inspiration.
Sometimes giving up is great!
Wishing you the wisdom to know just when to persist and just when to give up that which no longer serves you.
Love,
Mandy
Reminders:
“What’s Holding You Back and What to Do About It”
Friday 7/17, 10 AM to http://www.contacttalkradio.com/ . Click LISTEN NOW.
Dial in live toll free on 1-877- 230-3062 to be part of the show.
Can't make it Friday? FREE archives are available here:
http://tinyurl.com/Mandy-Elese
“Travelling Free” is also available on Kindle and Mobipocket
http://tinyurl.com/TFdigital
Many of us from all sorts of backgrounds adopted limiting beliefs that caused us to endure, manage, make-do, tolerate and settle-for-less. We curtailed our dreams and visions without even knowing we did it.
It’s been a long, hard long lesson but I’m picking up steam. It’s becoming fun!
Persistence has it’s place. It’s very useful, and popular trait. Giving up is good too.
I trade stocks and options on the internet in the morning and actually relish selling with a small loss in stead of watching it drop day after day hoping for a come back. It frees up so much more money for profitable investments. I like to sell those too. No tree grows straight to the sky.
I’m changing the way I relate to people. Some of them don’t like it one bit. I can’t blame them if they move on to more compatible relationships. I bless them on their way.
A few years ago I told the director of a retreat center director to take “warm” out of my bio. Not that I want to be cold, I explained. I’m just not wanting to attract people who are specifically seeking warmth. I’m more interested in being clear, powerful, understanding and loving now – sort of temperature neutral when I teach.
I may even give up on those piles of things I’m going to read some day and get rid of the clutter in my office!
I hope this idea will help you too. Look around your life and inside yourself. Is there something you’d like to give up on? Call it quits and move on with love, joy and new inspiration.
Sometimes giving up is great!
Wishing you the wisdom to know just when to persist and just when to give up that which no longer serves you.
Love,
Mandy
Reminders:
“What’s Holding You Back and What to Do About It”
Friday 7/17, 10 AM to http://www.contacttalkradio.com/ . Click LISTEN NOW.
Dial in live toll free on 1-877- 230-3062 to be part of the show.
Can't make it Friday? FREE archives are available here:
http://tinyurl.com/Mandy-Elese
“Travelling Free” is also available on Kindle and Mobipocket
http://tinyurl.com/TFdigital
Monday, July 13, 2009
Handle Absolutely Everything
Would you like “A New Way to Handle Absolutely Everything?” Elese Coit dedicates her radio show by that audacious name to making the ‘impossible’ imaginable and the ‘difficult’ do-able.
I enthusiastically accepted her invitation to discuss one of my favorite topics, “What’s holding You Back? (and What to Do About It!)”
Join us to discover a new way to handle any belief that limits you this Friday, July 17 at 10:00 AM Pacific Time.
What beliefs? The ones that block happiness, success, prosperity and love!
Miracles abound. Are you ready to accept them?
Here’s the info you need to listen free:
To listen on the day at 10 am Pacific time, 1 pm Eastern time simply go to http://www.contacttalkradio.com/
Click LISTEN NOW. Listeners can dial in live toll free on 1-877- 230-3062 to be part of the show.
Can't make it Friday? FREE archives are available here:
http://tinyurl.com/Mandy-Elese
Psst! Pass it on,
Love,
Mandy
http://www.mandyevans.com/
I enthusiastically accepted her invitation to discuss one of my favorite topics, “What’s holding You Back? (and What to Do About It!)”
Join us to discover a new way to handle any belief that limits you this Friday, July 17 at 10:00 AM Pacific Time.
What beliefs? The ones that block happiness, success, prosperity and love!
Miracles abound. Are you ready to accept them?
Here’s the info you need to listen free:
To listen on the day at 10 am Pacific time, 1 pm Eastern time simply go to http://www.contacttalkradio.com/
Click LISTEN NOW. Listeners can dial in live toll free on 1-877- 230-3062 to be part of the show.
Can't make it Friday? FREE archives are available here:
http://tinyurl.com/Mandy-Elese
Psst! Pass it on,
Love,
Mandy
http://www.mandyevans.com/
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