I Love Writers

I love writers!

They say writers only need one tool, a seat-belt! A grimmer version explains how to write a book, "You just stare at a blank piece of paper until blood pours out of your eyes."

Thank you dear writers for:

• The hours you spend alone
• The courage to share your creation
• The joy and wisdom you have given us
• Opening our hearts and minds to new thoughts
• Explaining things I would never understand without you
• Helping me to make it through the night more than once -- a lot more than once
• Making me laugh out loud
• Allowing me to cry when I could not
• Getting me through my childhood
• Teaching me about compassion
• Helping me to learn the "how to" of so many things
• Daring to face the harshest, most snide criticism some people can dish out
• Sharing the secrets of your very soul that your words reveal
• Creating worlds of wonder for us to travel in and characters we remember for life
• Filling me with hope
• Making the would richer, finer, and more accessible to so many people
• Letting me to dare to join your ranks!

I love you so dearly. Thank you so deeply.

Father's Day Wish

Hooray and thank you to all of the fathers who protect, provide for, and love their children. And for all of the men and women who do the same for children, throughout the world.

One of life's greatest joys is to see your own baby boy grow up to be a wonderful father. Here is my son Barnaby with his daughter, Emery.

My wish for fathers:

The joy of boundless love

The courage to face the scary times, like diseases and when your child is treated unfairly

The patience to weather conflicts

The wisdom to guide and let go

The support of many to help you

Abundance and health

The sheer delight of seeing your small person grow and learn, flourish and thrive

Amazing happiness

A loving home

Loving laughter like no other kind

Appreciation, loyalty, and love from your little ones as they grow into a beautiful, strong, healthy, loving, successful, happy, adults.

Happy Father's Day!

Happy Friday Everyone

Happy Friday, Everyone!

Why wait for Friday? Exercise your Emotional Options! Be happy now. Read "Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness" today. 

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How Will We Find You?

If there are people who would love to know about you and all you have to offer, how will they find you?

That question rocked the room at the Breakout Coach Training in Palm Springs last year. It dredges up beliefs that keep us from connecting with the very person or people we dream of. It opens doors for me and my coaching students so I recommend it to you.

Today I asked, "If there are people who would benefit from your work, how will they know? How will they find you?" My answer prompted me to write this. There's some more at the end.

Why is it such a big deal? Why are we reluctant to let others know about the richness of our experience, our wisdom, what we have created and what we dream of creating? The desire to be discovered battles the desire to hide our uniqueness, the spark that might not fit the established norm. It keeps us hungry but quiet. We may minimize our gifts and resent not being recognized.

Talk about driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.

What blocks you from telling us who you are? Do you ever hide or down-play your gifts, what you can do, and the value it has for us? What are you concerned will happen if you communicate honestly, clearly and powerfully about who you are and what you have to offer?

Here are some of the beliefs people discovered and shared with me most often:

• I'll seem like I'm bragging
• If I get too big, the fall will really hurt
• I don't want to be like those big blow-hard people who hype everything
• I don't want to define myself
• I'm not good enough
• I'm not into selling
• Marketing is not for me
• I'm not one of those people who talk about themselves easily
• I'm not good enough
• I don't deserve it (attention, success, being known)
• People will think that I think I'm all that
• People will attack me

In my many years helping people to break out from beliefs that block happiness and success, I've never found it useful to lecture or find fault. Questions open these doors better than battering rams.

Discovering a limiting belief is the first giant step. Unraveling it comes next. Do any of these beliefs  hold you back? Did you find some different ones of your own?

Here are some questions to ask about them:

• Do you believe that?
• What seems true about it?
• What are you concerned would happen if you did not believe that?

There is a lot of space and energy on the far side of a limiting belief. Someone I worked with recently declared, "I'm taking off my minimizer bra!" She has a new slogan, "Thou shalt not self-deprecate."

Cheering you on to magical connections and great adventures.

Mandy

Here's the answer I got when I asked,  How will they find me?" I put the best of how you can break out from limiting beliefs to happiness, success, and miracles into the books, audios, and videos in the Breakout Store
 http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/

People tell me the content is profoundly useful. Every time someone buys something in the Breakout Store I get excited like a kid at Christmas because I know there is a good chance someone will really benefit from my life's work. Thanks!

Memorial Day Memory

Memorial: anything meant to help people remember

In the US we celebrate Memorial Day, set aside for the dead from all of our wars, with remembrance and barbecues. I will enjoy both and envision a world at peace.

On Memorial Day my grandmother cut all the flowers in the yard behind our house. Here is a painting done long after all moved away.

She filled the back of the car with them and the scent of peonies and lilacs. We’d drive out of town, down the country road, past the country club and into the Rockville Cemetery.

We left bouquets on the graves of generations of Bouics, Peters, Vinsons and Evans’s while she told me things about them I’ve long forgotten.

Headstones for my father, aunts, uncles, cousins and some of my mothers ashes mark their lives and their passing there now too.

I remember my grandmother’s love. How hard her life was. How she worked to make things better for everyone she knew. I honor her and thank her for raising me, though I did not then.

My father was a gentle sober man and a violent alcoholic. He lived most of his life alone, especially after he finally stayed sober for a few years before he died. I hardly knew him.

In the only real conversation we had as adults I learned he had been a Dachau Liberator in WWII. He told me about prisoners killing guards and his fellow GI’s laughing and cheering. He understood the prisoners, he said, but not his buddies. He worked on Eisenhower's campaign, telling me, "He'll keep us out of war; he knows what war is." I remember and honor him and his service, thankful for that story. It helped me to understand him and something about myself. 

I remember the smell of peonies and lilacs, a reminder to be happy and to thank the people whose contributions fill our lives with love—while they are still alive.

The flowers are different here in the desert but the love, gratitude and memories are the same.

May peace prevail.

Love,

Mandy

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A Little Goose for You

Sometimes you need a little goose to get you going. Here are several. They showed up by my patio. We have two regular geese who show up every year after all of the others leave. Ms. Goose sits on her eggs while they bake in 105 degree weather. Two years ago we had a very late spring and two eggs hatched.

This year four geese came back. Two made their regular nest but nobody knows where these guys came from.

You just never know when you're going to get a little goose. Thought they might brighten your day and get you going.

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day!  In the USA it's a special time to celebrate the nurturing, mothering spirit in us all. You are welcome to join us from anywhere!

As you ponder (and maybe worry about) so many choices this weekend, how about choosing to nurture the life-giving spirit inside you? Look for opportunities to bring lit-up-life to a moment.

You could:

·         Acknowledge your mother and everyone who has nurtured you. Who helped you to become the wondrous being that you are? Do they know what they mean to you?

·         Bestow patience, kindness, generosity, a sudden smile, silence, a hug, advice, a phone call or an expression of gratitude.

·         Sit quietly and send love and blessings to people you care about – and those you find it challenging to care about too!

My heart is full of gratitude for the nurturing kindness that gives us life.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts and feelings with me. I would love to hear about yours.

To the life-giving nurturing spirit in you!
Love,
Mandy

Your comments are always welcome.