Questions about money fly around like mosquitoes on a muggy night lately. No kidding? Since we hurtled from the ‘give me, get me, buy me era to the days of ‘what happened to my job? And who took my retirement?’ it’s a natural hot topic.
Here are some prosperity priming tips to weather the storm and thrive.
Six habits to breakout from:
1. Clinging to the status quo. Fighting change uses up energy you could put to better use. It’s like trying to cling to a rock as a tsunami roars in instead running for high ground. One of the toughest laws of the universe tells us, “you either expand, or you contract.” You can’t just hover; you’ll crash.
2. Blaming. The fixed idea that someone else determines the outcome of your life blocks creativity. It sucks the life force right out of you. The more you are will to be responsible for, the more freedom you have.
3. Resenting the success of others. It is very hard to attract to yourself what you condemn in others.
4. Complaining. A little whining goes a long way. It turns people off. Not only that, it keeps your focus on what you don’t want. What you focus on grows!
5. Fear. Many people actually keep themselves in a state of fear and anxiety on purpose due to the misguided belief that fear will help them avoid danger. Fear bombards their bodies with adrenalin and wears them out to the point of giving up.
6. Shame. The belief that there is something shameful about loss and hardship is prevalent. I’ve explored it with lots of people. It has never proved true.
Seven habits to cultivate:
1. Flexibility: You may have to move, downsize or expand. It can be a nightmare (if you do not break out from the habits above) or a great adventure. Your choice.
2. Gratitude. Being aware of the miracles around us natures our sense of wonder. Feeling grateful alters your private version of reality from one of lack to one of abundance and blessings.
3. Looking for opportunities. One of my favorite quotes is, “What you see is mostly what you look for.” Keep an eye out for open doors in places you might not expect to find them.
4. Asking for help. Often a simple shame-blame-and-complaint-free request brings big benefits. Friends, family and Facebook Friends are often glad to provide introductions, useful advice, leads and other assistance if they know what you are looking for.
5. Learning. A return to school, some training in your field, working with a coach, a how-to book, a master mind group, an exciting hour with Google – just for starts! So much to learn, so little time. Learning about how to improve your financial health is fun and profitable.
6. Desire. Use your desire as a sense of direction. Follow it and your intense curiosity.
7. Break out from Limiting Beliefs. When you develop the habit of challenging any belief that blocks happiness and success you move out of the prison of lack into the space of miracles.
Prosperity is an inside job. The greatest experience of prosperity comes with knowing you are enough and you have enough to give to others. It may be your love, your time, a job, encouragement, knowledge or money. Circulate your gifts wisely. They will grow and come back to you.
Additional Resources:
October BREAKOUT Coach Training in Palm Springs. If there is a way you can do it, be there! This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to learn how to break out from poverty and lack to abundance and the space of miracles. I have NO plans to offer it again. There are 8 spaces open. Does one have your name on it?
http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training
Check out 50 Beliefs About Money. Which ones are holding you back? It’s free.
http://mandyevans.com/archives/82
Cheering you on to happy prosperity!
Love,
Mandy
Friday, September 2, 2011
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
BREAKOUT to Miracles Radio Show
On Thursday, 8/11 from 12 -1:00 pm PDT Hay House radio will air "BREAKOUT to Miracles" with Michael Neill and me.
You know how sometimes you just sort of talk then wait your turn while someone else does? Then sometimes you have a conversation? You think new thoughts, learn new stuff, have a good laugh or two, share some useful information. The time flies by and you wish all of your friends could have been there.
This was one of those conversations and you can all listen in! Woo Hoo!
I'd love to know what you think so please leave comments.
Here's the link. Breakout to Miracles Radio Show
It will be archived so you can listen at your convenience in the next few days.
To many happy miracles!
Love,
Mandy
You know how sometimes you just sort of talk then wait your turn while someone else does? Then sometimes you have a conversation? You think new thoughts, learn new stuff, have a good laugh or two, share some useful information. The time flies by and you wish all of your friends could have been there.
This was one of those conversations and you can all listen in! Woo Hoo!
I'd love to know what you think so please leave comments.
Here's the link. Breakout to Miracles Radio Show
It will be archived so you can listen at your convenience in the next few days.
To many happy miracles!
Love,
Mandy
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Do You Dare To Be Present?
I recently watched Todd Haynes’ “I’m Not There”. Extraordinary actors like Heath Ledger, Christian Bale, Cate Blanchett and Richard Gere create characters that represent different aspects of Bob Dylan’s life. The film explores the conflict between the ever-changing Dylan and outraged fans and critics who wanted to define him and keep him that way.
I can’t say I loved it. Can’t even recommend it. But it has stayed with me as a complex, rich lesson about being present in your life – often in conflict with other people’s expectations. It reminded me of a line from the est training, “Most likely you are perfect the way you are; you just keep acting the way you used to be.”
The more well known you are, the more success you achieve, the more people demand you “be” what they define you as. What is an operative word here because that way of relating to each other objectifies and depersonalizes us.
When you make healthy changes in your life or even totally transform some aspect of yourself it may require courage and patience to interact with friends, family, co-workers and fans who feel betrayed that you are not the same person they signed up to be with.
It can be painful, especially if you believe it’s wrong to be different today from how you were yesterday or last year – or for someone you love or work with to evolve into someone new. Consider the alternative. All creativity, life and growth exist only in the here and now. To keep acting the way we used to be chokes the life-force right out of us. It leaves us bored and frustrated or zombie-like.
It can be a great adventure to discover which relationships can flex and grow as we do and which ones cannot withstand the strain of the stretch.
I remember when I asked Doug Wilson, director to the wonderful Rowe Conference Center, to take ‘warm’ out of my bio. I didn’t want to be cold. I just didn’t want to attract people who functioned like heat-seeking missiles any more. Something shifted. Being clear and useful grew in importance. Being warm, not so much.
At 70, I’m becoming an old person. It’s very interesting. I’ve never been an old person before. When I am present with who and where I am now, it’s as exciting as any other phase of my life. When it doesn’t fit the way I used to be, I feel diminished, just less that I was.
Take a moment to pause. I will too. Notice what it is like to be you. Right here. Right now. Like you have never been before.
As shiver of excitement traveled through my body and remains tingling in my heart. What is happening with you?
Cheering you on to be here now.
With love,
Mandy
I can’t say I loved it. Can’t even recommend it. But it has stayed with me as a complex, rich lesson about being present in your life – often in conflict with other people’s expectations. It reminded me of a line from the est training, “Most likely you are perfect the way you are; you just keep acting the way you used to be.”
The more well known you are, the more success you achieve, the more people demand you “be” what they define you as. What is an operative word here because that way of relating to each other objectifies and depersonalizes us.
When you make healthy changes in your life or even totally transform some aspect of yourself it may require courage and patience to interact with friends, family, co-workers and fans who feel betrayed that you are not the same person they signed up to be with.
It can be painful, especially if you believe it’s wrong to be different today from how you were yesterday or last year – or for someone you love or work with to evolve into someone new. Consider the alternative. All creativity, life and growth exist only in the here and now. To keep acting the way we used to be chokes the life-force right out of us. It leaves us bored and frustrated or zombie-like.
It can be a great adventure to discover which relationships can flex and grow as we do and which ones cannot withstand the strain of the stretch.
I remember when I asked Doug Wilson, director to the wonderful Rowe Conference Center, to take ‘warm’ out of my bio. I didn’t want to be cold. I just didn’t want to attract people who functioned like heat-seeking missiles any more. Something shifted. Being clear and useful grew in importance. Being warm, not so much.
At 70, I’m becoming an old person. It’s very interesting. I’ve never been an old person before. When I am present with who and where I am now, it’s as exciting as any other phase of my life. When it doesn’t fit the way I used to be, I feel diminished, just less that I was.
Take a moment to pause. I will too. Notice what it is like to be you. Right here. Right now. Like you have never been before.
As shiver of excitement traveled through my body and remains tingling in my heart. What is happening with you?
Cheering you on to be here now.
With love,
Mandy
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Breakout to Inner Kindness
I stubbed my toe yesterday, the little one. It really hurt.
I exclaimed right out loud. "Whoa-oo, that really hurts."
My inner meanie voice said "Oh, you are such a sissy."
Filled with doubt about my very senses, I wondered if
I am a big sissy. Pain is so subjective, you know.
Marshalling my sensory and intellectual faculties, I realized
My poor toe did hurt. I also wondered why I would say
such a mean thing to myself.
Can you imagine seeing a friend in pain and the best thing
you can come up with is "Oh, you are such a sissy!"?
I like this example. It is a short and clear(albeit mild)version
of the cruelty people inflict on themselves every day.It surprised me, because I thought I had left those self-chiding remarks in the dust long ago.
I remember a time, when I set out to teach that mean old voice a lesson in inner kindness. I consciously corrected it when I caught it saying "You stupid bitch!"--which it actually used to say fairly often. I would say out loud, "I am not." Sometimes I would follow that with "I'm actually
quite bright."
This little private practice did not require discipline. As
I became more conscious of the inner meanie voice, I
simply wanted to set things straight. It was fun. The voice
quieted down. I enjoyed noticing how ridiculous the meanie
judgments were.
I am grateful for the first glimmer of consciousness that
made me aware of the meanie voice and alerted me to
the common practice of self-chastisement.
My clients often say "I beat myself up" when they
want to change something or disapprove of themselves
in some way.
I'm an inward bound explorer so I ask them what they
mean and how they do it. Their answers often shock me.
It turns out that what goes on inside a lot of us makes my
meanie voice sound like a kindly kindergarten teacher.
They describe lying in bed at night raging at themselves.
They walk around cursing themselves, damning themselves,
threatening themselves.
The really weird thing is that they cannot imagine
not 'beating themselves up.' It often seems justified
by some mistake or failure they detect in themselves. They
see it as motivating themselves to do better.
I've never seen it work once. Cruelty is debilitating and demoralizing. It crushes desire and creativity.
I am on a crusade to stop cruel and unusual punishment
of the self and others. I have worked with lots of people.
I wrote two books and lots of articles discouraging the
practice of attempted motivation by misery.
If you suspect you are the victim and perpetrator of misery
motivation, what to do? Listen, listen, listen to that voice
inside. The one that just said "What voice?"
Be firm, but gentle with it. Tell it that it may not speak to you that way. Refuse to accept it. If the beat-you-up voice points out something you do want to change or improve, let it know you do not respond well to cruelty.
I'll bet you will have more happy times and fewer painful ones.
Oh, and about that sissy business? My toe is black now
and I didn't even cry! Pretty brave, huh?It is getting better quickly,
thank you.
To your inner kindness!
Love,
Mandy
There are 10 spaces open in the October BREAKOUT Coach Training
and lots of kindly happiness resources in the Breakout Store
http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store
I exclaimed right out loud. "Whoa-oo, that really hurts."
My inner meanie voice said "Oh, you are such a sissy."
Filled with doubt about my very senses, I wondered if
I am a big sissy. Pain is so subjective, you know.
Marshalling my sensory and intellectual faculties, I realized
My poor toe did hurt. I also wondered why I would say
such a mean thing to myself.
Can you imagine seeing a friend in pain and the best thing
you can come up with is "Oh, you are such a sissy!"?
I like this example. It is a short and clear(albeit mild)version
of the cruelty people inflict on themselves every day.It surprised me, because I thought I had left those self-chiding remarks in the dust long ago.
I remember a time, when I set out to teach that mean old voice a lesson in inner kindness. I consciously corrected it when I caught it saying "You stupid bitch!"--which it actually used to say fairly often. I would say out loud, "I am not." Sometimes I would follow that with "I'm actually
quite bright."
This little private practice did not require discipline. As
I became more conscious of the inner meanie voice, I
simply wanted to set things straight. It was fun. The voice
quieted down. I enjoyed noticing how ridiculous the meanie
judgments were.
I am grateful for the first glimmer of consciousness that
made me aware of the meanie voice and alerted me to
the common practice of self-chastisement.
My clients often say "I beat myself up" when they
want to change something or disapprove of themselves
in some way.
I'm an inward bound explorer so I ask them what they
mean and how they do it. Their answers often shock me.
It turns out that what goes on inside a lot of us makes my
meanie voice sound like a kindly kindergarten teacher.
They describe lying in bed at night raging at themselves.
They walk around cursing themselves, damning themselves,
threatening themselves.
The really weird thing is that they cannot imagine
not 'beating themselves up.' It often seems justified
by some mistake or failure they detect in themselves. They
see it as motivating themselves to do better.
I've never seen it work once. Cruelty is debilitating and demoralizing. It crushes desire and creativity.
I am on a crusade to stop cruel and unusual punishment
of the self and others. I have worked with lots of people.
I wrote two books and lots of articles discouraging the
practice of attempted motivation by misery.
If you suspect you are the victim and perpetrator of misery
motivation, what to do? Listen, listen, listen to that voice
inside. The one that just said "What voice?"
Be firm, but gentle with it. Tell it that it may not speak to you that way. Refuse to accept it. If the beat-you-up voice points out something you do want to change or improve, let it know you do not respond well to cruelty.
I'll bet you will have more happy times and fewer painful ones.
Oh, and about that sissy business? My toe is black now
and I didn't even cry! Pretty brave, huh?It is getting better quickly,
thank you.
To your inner kindness!
Love,
Mandy
There are 10 spaces open in the October BREAKOUT Coach Training
and lots of kindly happiness resources in the Breakout Store
http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Betty Ford Helped Me Make Peace with My Past
When I signed on to speak about "Making Peace with the Past" at the Betty Ford Center in Rancho Mirage I had no idea what I was in for. The large audience at the free "Alcohol and Addiction Awareness Hour" ranges from professionals in the field to folks who have only a few days clean and sober. They can be a twitchy group.
I had been warned that many people would leave during the hour and a half I was supposed to fill. The room is wide and shallow so when they get up and go they have to push past a whole lot of people to get out of their row. Right in front of me!
I knew all of that going in. What I didn't know was how hard it would be to share intimate details of my life as an adult child of an alcoholic with a room full of alcoholics. Talk about deja vue!
I guess it always takes courage to reveal yourself for the benefit of people who do not welcome the information. Imagine what it was like for our First Lady to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic."
There were a couple of moments as my past seemed to blend with the present when I just wanted to walk off the stage. But I didn't.
Toward the end I shared a story about when I graduated from high school and my mother sent my father away because he was drunk.
When it was finally over, I was amazed at the crowd around the book table eagerly lining up to have me sign their copies of "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs." A large man approached me. "That was for me," he said. "That was me at my son's graduation from high school, looking through a chain link fence with a bottle in my hand."
We hugged each other and held on for a long time. Sharing some tears, we both made peace with the past in a way we never dreamed of.
I will always be grateful to the courage and contribution of Betty Ford and the support of my friends Catherine Rush and Debra Lux who helped through that wonderful day!
The audio, "Making Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" and Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" are available at http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store
Cheering you on to peace with your past and present!
Love,
Mandy
I had been warned that many people would leave during the hour and a half I was supposed to fill. The room is wide and shallow so when they get up and go they have to push past a whole lot of people to get out of their row. Right in front of me!
I knew all of that going in. What I didn't know was how hard it would be to share intimate details of my life as an adult child of an alcoholic with a room full of alcoholics. Talk about deja vue!
I guess it always takes courage to reveal yourself for the benefit of people who do not welcome the information. Imagine what it was like for our First Lady to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic."
There were a couple of moments as my past seemed to blend with the present when I just wanted to walk off the stage. But I didn't.
Toward the end I shared a story about when I graduated from high school and my mother sent my father away because he was drunk.
When it was finally over, I was amazed at the crowd around the book table eagerly lining up to have me sign their copies of "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs." A large man approached me. "That was for me," he said. "That was me at my son's graduation from high school, looking through a chain link fence with a bottle in my hand."
We hugged each other and held on for a long time. Sharing some tears, we both made peace with the past in a way we never dreamed of.
I will always be grateful to the courage and contribution of Betty Ford and the support of my friends Catherine Rush and Debra Lux who helped through that wonderful day!
The audio, "Making Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" and Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" are available at http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store
Cheering you on to peace with your past and present!
Love,
Mandy
Monday, July 11, 2011
Join Me In Palm Springs
Join Me in Palm Springs?
Who will get the most from the October Breakout
Coach Training in Palm Springs? The ones who come!
Learn how to open doors you did not know you closed
and walk through to miracles. The next door you open
may be the one that brings you to the Breakout Coach
Training.
There are 12 spaces open. The discount deadline looms!
You have until this Friday, 7/15 to take $100 off the already
(some say too low) low tuition.
See you in Palm Springs?
http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training
Cheering you on to open doors wherever you are!
Who will get the most from the October Breakout
Coach Training in Palm Springs? The ones who come!
Learn how to open doors you did not know you closed
and walk through to miracles. The next door you open
may be the one that brings you to the Breakout Coach
Training.
There are 12 spaces open. The discount deadline looms!
You have until this Friday, 7/15 to take $100 off the already
(some say too low) low tuition.
See you in Palm Springs?
http://mandyevans.com/breakout-training
Cheering you on to open doors wherever you are!
Saturday, July 9, 2011
The Courage and Conviction of Betty Ford
Remembering the courage and contribution of Betty Ford who died today at the Eisenhower Medical Center in Rancho Mirage, California. The Betty Ford Center is located there. It has helped addicts get clean and sober, "one step at a time" since 1982.
I had the honor of speaking there about the importance of making "Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" The man who introduced me was part of the intervention team who dared to confront the First Lady about her drinking.
It always takes courage to "come out of the closet" as someone society judges harshly. Can you imagine what it would be like to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic?"
The audio of my talk is available in the Breakout Store at my website. www.mandyevans.com.
I had the honor of speaking there about the importance of making "Peace with the Past: Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center" The man who introduced me was part of the intervention team who dared to confront the First Lady about her drinking.
It always takes courage to "come out of the closet" as someone society judges harshly. Can you imagine what it would be like to say "My name is Betty Ford and I am an alcoholic?"
The audio of my talk is available in the Breakout Store at my website. www.mandyevans.com.
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