Breakout Training in The Netherlands with Mandy Evans

An experiential training to breakout from (usually hidden) limits that block happiness and success. I cannot imagine anything that would add more value to your life and career.

Dates: May 18 thru 21
Tuition for Dutch participants is €675 (plus tax)
Tuition for International participants is $775
Early Registration discount is €575 and $675 until December 1

Who should come? Everyone coaches someone, especially yourself!

• Experienced and new coaches 
• Mentors and managers
• Counselors  
• Teachers  
• Parents  
• Therapists  
• People in the healing professions 
• Students of personal growth and human potential  

You can learn the basics of Breakout Coaching in 4 days. The experience will last forever. When you are clear and happy you make different choices that lead down remarkably different paths from the ones you pick when you are afraid or caught in a web of life-extinguishing beliefs. Open doors you did not know you closed and enter a world of new possibilities.

Learn how to:

• Expand your ability to work in the creative space of acceptance 
• Use breakout dialogues to coach yourself and others through fear and doubt that keeps you stuck 
• Work with individual belief systems in a deep and meaningful way  
• Recognize flawed perceptions of reality that block happiness and success 
• Tap into the strongest motivation we all have (and overcome the reluctance to use it)  
• Distinguish desire from attachment  
• Make peace with the past and why it matters 
• Present yourself and your work comfortably and confidently   

This training provides:

• An accepting, encouraging atmosphere to foster growth and creativity 
•  A journal and written exercises  
• Extensive practice and constructive feedback 
• Ample opportunities to identify and breakout from issues about success, relationships, money and other important areas of your life 
• Limited class size of 24 people to assure individual attention 
• Saturday Nite Live Celebration 
• A certificate of completion  

Take advantage our early registration discount (good until December 1) and pay only €575 for Dutch or $675 for International students.

Since the training is limited to only 24 participants, it may fill quickly. Register now to secure your space. 

How to Register
Send your name and email address to Karen Gerritsen at karengerritsen@gmail.com.

International participants send $675 tuition via Paypal  PayPal.Me/MandyEvans1. You do not need to have an account. Paypal accepts credit cards and handles currency conversion.

Dutch Participants will receive an invoice for €675 plus tax from Karen

Receipt of tuition completes your registration and secures your space.

Meeting space and lodging
On the beach in Zandvoort! Zandvoort Centerparcs Hotel and Cottages is right on the beach about 30 minutes by train from the airport and Amsterdam.  It's an ideal location for home base for an extended visit to The Netherlands.You will receive lots of travel information after you register, including a discount from the hotel for us.

Read what people say about working with Mandy Evans

“I’ve been working with Mandy for more than 20 years. She is the clearest, happiest, and most effective miracle-maker I’ve ever known. She helps me get clear so I get results. I have never met anyone like her. I love her.”
–Joe Vitale, author of The Attractor Factor and way too many other books to list here.

Whenever I’m feeling stuck and convinced I’ll never get back into the flow, I turn to Mandy Evans – her deceptively simple questions are fast-acting, long-lasting, friendly and fun!
–Michael Neill, SuperCoach and best selling author of You Can Have What You Want.

Sometimes just learning more information is not enough. We need to take action- change our thinking, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. Taking Mandy’s Break Out weekend helped me to realize how and why I was holding myself back from a fuller life, not facing certain difficulties, and to reconnect to my inner Spirit of daring and joyous living. Inspired and ‘breakout’ determined, I have now completed a huge project avoided for 10 years!  Also, by taking the necessary steps to action and believing in my core of joy.
–Laura Silva, M.A., LicMHC, Awakening Coach and Intuitive Psychotherapist

The BREAKOUT weekend experience was life changing for me personally and professionally. Mandy’s gift for teaching and practicing the BREAKOUT Method is brilliant. If something is not working in your life you can be sure somewhere behind it is a self-defeating belief. Wouldn’t you like to know what that belief is? Happiness IS only a thought away.
–Dr. Robert Edelburg, The Palm Springs Healing Center

Join us in May. Let's stage a Breakout in the Netherlands!

Free Breakout Keys. Prices Drop to 0!

Free is good! No? Being of relatively sound mind, in a burst of gratitude for the blessings in my life, I dropped the prices on the breakout material available on my website to 0. Yes, that's zero, zilch, zip, nada. Free, gratis, no charge. Well you get the point.

These are my gifts to you with my compliments and good wishes for great success and much happiness at 
https://mandyevans.com/breakout-keys/

Break out to Miracles! Video
Miracles abound; you just have to accept them.  To learn how, listen to the inspiring talk that brought the house down, recorded live at the Miracles Weekend in San Diego with Joe Vitale. About 60 minutes.

Beliefs About Love – Audio;
This funny, insightful audio teaches how to break out from beliefs that block love. Do your beliefs about love sabotage cupid? The good news is there is enough love for everyone! About 25 minutes.

Choosing Happiness – Audio  with Mandy Evans Live at Interface. 

This recording includes an overview of the Option Method and rare Option Dialogues with real people working on real issues. Learn how to identify, explore and unravel limiting beliefs.

Peace with the Past – Audio
Recorded Live at the Betty Ford Center in California
In this revealing hour long talk, Mandy Evans tells the story of her childhood as the daughter of a violent alcoholic father and how she made peace with her own past. During challenging times we form beliefs that we continue to live by without knowing it. Learn how break out from beliefs you adopted in your past that block success and happiness now. About 60 minutes

Cheering you on to happiness and success!

Love, 

Mandy

Breakout from Guilt Jail

Are you locked up in guilt jail? A lot of of people have expressed feelings of guilt lately. Or insisted that someone else should feel guilty. Feeling guilty doesn't help anything much, though. It breeds resentment. It locks you up in guilt jail for an indefinite sentence -- with no release guaranteed. 

Here are some observations about the toxic nature of guilt (gleaned from decades of exploring this over-rated, painful emotion) to aid and abet your escape. Do you hold any of these limiting beliefs?

Myths about guilt:

• If I didn't feel guilty, I would be a monster. I doubt that you are a monster, but if you are, feeling guilty will not un-monster you. It will just make you feel bad.
• If I didn't feel guilty, I wouldn't change (whatever it is you feel guilty about). Desire is the strongest motivation for change. You probably really want to change something already if you are willing to feel that awful guilt just on the chance it might help you. Instead of stoking the hell fires of guilt, focus on what you want instead. 
• Feeling guilty shows I care. This in another cart before the horse situation. You have to care first in order to know when to feel guilty. Skip the guilt and nurture the care.
• If I can make you feel guilty, you'll do what I want. This rarely works. First, you can't really make someone else feel guilty. You can only discover what they will feel guilty about and give them an unhealthy dose of it to swallow. Second, they may give up or give in but they will resent the heck out of you for it.The price of induced guilt is way to high for the minimal, short-lived gains it promises but rarely delivers. 
• It, he or she, makes me feel guilty. All guilt is self-imposed. You have to agree to it or it won't work.
• Feeling guilty is how we know right from wrong. The old cart first scenario. Awareness of wrongdoing only takes a moment, but some people incarcerate themselves in guilt jail for years. Finding another way and acting on it is the real work.The punitive approach of self-induced guilt demoralises rather than strengthening your chances for changing something you want to be different. 
• Feeling guilty is how you pay for hurting someone. I would really like to know who came up with the idea that pain pays for pain. Wars and prisons testify to society's faith in that life extinguishing contract, but look at the results. There has to be a better way. I believe it would transform our world if we could banish that myth. Inflicting pain only creates more pain. Can you imagine a world committed to finding a creative, compassionate solutions to problems? What a paradise we would live in without guilt and punishment as moral guides.

Some questions that have helped people breakout from guilt jail. Each question follows the answer to the one before it.

• What do you feel guilty about? Identify and clarify.
• Why do you feel guilty about that?
• Do you believe that?  
• If you answer yes, why do you believe that?
• What are you concerned would happen if you did not feel guilty?
• Do you believe that (your answer)?
• What are you concerned would happen if you did not believe that?

Instead of guilt, I recommend happiness and desire. Make amends when you can. Be kind. Be happy. Do you dare to breakout from guilt jail?

With guilt-free love, 
Mandy

Breakout from Struggle to Grace

Is your life filled with struggle or filled with grace?

They say the work begins when you sign up and commit. I recently signed up to teach the Breakout Coach Training in the Netherlands next May. As I work on material for the course, the balance between grace and struggle rocks back and forth, from one side to the other.

In grace mode, I feel a tingle of excitement. Possibilities appear as unbounded as they truly are. I enter the space of creativity. Life is sweet.

In struggle mode I feel kind of tense, a bit grumpy and totally uninspired. Oh, and obviously unconscious, because who would ever choose that on purpose? Yet choose it I have. Sometimes I still do. Alas, the choice is no less powerful for being made in a state of grumpy unconsciousness. How to break out?

Thank heaven for consciousness -- that wake up call that brings us into the here and now. All you have to do is take a few breaths and notice who you are and what is going on. Then you can choose on purpose. Grace or struggle?

That leads to another favorite saying, when you know, you must teach. I love nothing more on this earth than to share how to break out from hidden limits in order to thrive and be happy. So since only 24 people will be able to attend the Breakout Training, I'm going to share some of it here as the work begins.

Here are some tips to break out from struggle:

When you tackle a new project or just begin a new day, take some time to reflect on how you would like it to unfold. No need to be reasonable here. Just let yourself know what you welcome into your life at this point. For the Break Out training, for example, I choose to be present for the highest good for everyone involved. I want to connect with the people who will get the most from our experience and bring the most to it. I welcome a time filled with learning, love and grace. I would like it to fill up quickly and easily too :-).

Notice how you feel. Your emotions provide wonderful clues about what is going on with you, especially your thoughts and beliefs. If you get caught up in fear, anger, dread or plain old grumpiness ask yourself what those feeling are about and why this is the reaction you come up with in these circumstances. Ask how you want to feel right this minute. Sometimes that's is all you need to transform the moment.

Look into your beliefs about struggle and grace. Success in grace mode may involve hard work; it does not require struggle. It allows inspiration, support, creativity, curiosity and happiness. Life in struggle mode indicates a conviction that there is no clear path forward. In that case, it's time to create one.

What happens if you miss the mark? Bruce Di Marsico, founder of The Option Method, said he always asked I wonder what this is for? instead of "Why did this happen?" It has proved to be a great question, leading to insightful answers.

Wishing us all happy times in a state of grace!

Speak Up or Shut Up?

The fiery political anger and fear in our USA election rhetoric raises the old question, speak up or shut up? Searching for an answer, I see relationships that ended when I delivered well intended but uncomfortable messages and others that grew deeper and stronger.

I usually avoid public displays of political bias except when to do so seems just plain immoral. This is one of those times.

I am very concerned about the influence of Fox News on my fellow citizens. I watch an actual speech on CSPAN and then watch a commentator on Fox News select a sound bite and spin the message in the opposite direction -- over and over.

I see the same thing on CNBC and CNN but to a much lesser degree.

That is why I urge everyone who watches the Democratic Convention to please view the actual event on CSPAN and make up your own informed mind. I hope we can share opinions and ideas across party and ideological lines and remain friends.

I hope this heartfelt concern will strengthen our relationship. If not, I'm sorry to see us part.

Wishing you inspired and informed voting.

Mandy

Who Irritates You?

I recently spent time with someone I'm tempted to say irritates the hell out of me, like chalk on a blackboard. Only I know I'm the one doing the irritating; he's just being him. It's my chalk and my blackboard -- all screeching and scritching up to me.

I decided to make the leap from knowing to acting as if how I react really is up to me. I kept the chalk in my pocket and simply remained present. I had to remind myself to breathe and keep-chalk-in-pocket a couple of times. And guess what? I had a good time.

Note to self and you: good times may await just beyond your memories of hard times and views of present injustice. The other thing I noticed was that without rancor, instead of stifling my irritated comments, I was able to speak much more directly and freely.

I'm going to use this chalk-in-the pocket technique all the way through the election!

Cheering you on to chalk-on-blackboard free times.

With love,
Mandy

How to Buck the Current

Like swimming up a waterfall! Yes, changing a deeply rooted behavior can feel like that.  It is hard sometimes. But going with the flow when the current sweeps you away from your heart's desire is not the best approach to success and happiness.

You may just have to buck the current. It's strong. All of the experiences in your life feed into it. The way others see you flows into the stream too. Then there all of those societal beliefs to pull you along, like:

• It's bad to be the tallest poppy in the field
• You can't teach an old dog new tricks
• You don't deserve that
• Desire is the cause of all pain

Enough to make you give up? No, don't do it! Changing your life takes awareness and dedication sometimes, but not pain. It can be a great adventure.

You can find a way out of rip-tides and cross currents in the mindset that keeps your old ways in place, with you bobbing about in the life-jacket you thought you needed to keep afloat.

To grow your relationships, career, prosperity, you have to alter the beliefs that put you where you are in the first place and hold you there now. It may be one limiting belief, a cluster of them, or an undiscovered perception of reality that paralyzes you.

No matter who tells you to get a grip and pull up your socks, or how much more you deserve, if you do not address your own underlying version of reality your chances of success are pretty small. When you start with the outside stuff, even the most expensive life coach or highly trained therapist is unlikely to help you move beyond your own reality. Changing circumstances does little to transform the quality of your life.

This blog is full of articles about how to find and dismantle the beliefs that hold you back. My books, "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past" and "Emotional Options" are dedicated to helping you breakout from the prison of your own limiting version of reality. I recommend exploring them.

What I want to address here, though, is how to buck the current. Think of something you want and look inside to see what's been in the way. Every time you successfully discover that something you have believed is simply not true, take action in a new direction. Add strong desire for new outcome.

Do something new or in a new way. You will build a new diving off point. The auto-pilot in your brain will change. Your past will actually change as you add new experiences to it that give it new meaning. You will be able to swim up waterfalls!

Let us know what you find.

Love,
Mandy