Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Searching for Gratitude

It's usually right there, readily accessible – the feeling of gratitude. All I have to do is think about it.

This year, when I thought about the holiday, all I got was a vague sense of should. I should be grateful. I should write something about gratitude. But what could I honestly say? I don't feel it this year? I know that there is stuff to be grateful for. I know there are blessings, but I do not feel grateful.

Given my life's work, I set about questioning my feelings. First, how did I feel?

  • Relieved that our US election is over
  • Bombarded by Black Thursday, Friday and every-dang-day advertising
  • Disheartened about the petty, small minded meanness of so many of my fellow citizens
  • Concern about the people of NY and New Jersey struggling with the aftermath of Sandy
  • Heavy hearted about the brutality of wars
  • Discouraged about the cruelty of so many and society's blind faith in punishment

Oh, my! This is a shocking revelation for the "Handbook for Happiness" author.

On to the next question. Why? Why were those feelings the ones for me to have on this beautiful autumn day in Palm Springs?

The answer is familiar – because I do not like those things! I want everyone on the planet to have shelter, enough to eat, peaceful homes filled with love and kindness.

As I bring that desire into consciousness, I begin to feel my world expand. I see the miracle of life again. I realize the amazing grace of love, generosity and kindness. The fact that they exist at all astounds me anew -- and in so many hearts and deeds.

There it is! The sweet, warm awareness of blessings – the feeling of gratitude!

  • I'm grateful to you for inspiring me to search for what is true for me to share.
  • Grateful for loving friends and family.
  • Grateful to everyone who buys my books; it encourages me to keep them available for people they may help.
  • Grateful for every review that helps people find my work.

Grateful! When I was a kid, I thought it was spelled greatfull. I still like it that way. It describes the feeling of gratitude, full of great. Filled to the very brim with the amazing reality of life, with all of it's illusions, abundance, limiting beliefs, challenges, and infinite opportunities for miracles every day.  

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Wishing you many happy days of Thanksgiving!



  1. Excellent article. Sometimes we wait for things to happen so we can be grateful and that´s not good. I´m glad I read this today.

  2. I needed to see your perfect words today.....thank you Mandy

  3. Mandy,I am so 'greatful' for you. After all these years the learning i did with you is so much a part of me. i say 'grim up' at least twice a week and laugh and laugh. my personal favorite that i share with everyone who says someone/thing is wise - is ' how do you know it's wise? YOU recognize it and YOU believe it.' right inside you all the time. and the wishing circles, the wanting, the smiles they bring. when i taught for every child's birthday the whole class did a wishing circle -it was so beautiful. oven is beeping that the pies are ready. enjoy, xoxo

  4. Look a bit further afield. Be grateful every time you brush your teeth, you have safe running water, not like many people in the world. Be grateful when you go to the toilet, the results disappear from view, many people aren't so lucky. Think of yourself as a citizen of the world and you will find loads of things to be grateful for every day.

  5. And we are grateful for YOU, Mandy my dear...thank you!


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