You may have heard me say, “Be happy and do what you want.” But what if you’re not happy? What if you’re really scared?
The level of economic fear and worry I hear reminds me of one of my very first clients.
Robert was out of work. And he was scared. Walking into a job interview paralyzed him with dread. He began to stammer and sweat his way through the few interviews he forced himself to go. They ended abruptly, putting him out of his misery but leaving him out of a job.
Robert also felt deeply ashamed – of his lack of employment and of his fear.
We sat across from each other at a battered old drop leaf table in an apartment on Manhattan’s Upper West Side. As a young single parent I had financial issues of my own, but that wasn’t the point. My job is to find the beliefs that fuel those painful emotions, keep them in place and block happiness and success.
I began to ask Robert questions about his fear. He was afraid he wouldn’t find work, his wife would get tired of him, that she would eventually leave him.
We followed his fear to see where it led – into those dark corners where it’s hard to look.
Robert was afraid he’d end up homeless and alone. When I asked what scared him about that he looked at me like I was crazy.
“Could you still be happy?” I asked. I admit, it took all my nerve to get the question out. It sounded outrageous, even to me.
During the long, long silence that followed, I barely resisted the temptation to butt in with soothing words or a positive thought.
Then Robert exploded out of his chair with a yell, “Yes! I could!” He danced around my living room shouting gleefully, “It could be a relief! I could be happy! I could be happy! I could think, Oh boy! We’re having pea soup at the shelter tonight!”
The next week Robert got a job. And his wife had never even thought about leaving him.
It’s still seems outrageous to ask someone (or myself) what about being homeless, or alone, or even dying frightens them. There is freedom in the answers to those questions though. In that freedom we breathe deeply again and focus on what we want. We give ourselves the best chance to move toward our heart’s desire or attract it to us.
Wishing you freedom from every fear and happy solutions to every challenge!
Love,
Mandy
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Friday, October 10, 2008
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Miracle Lillies
The UPS guy handed over the tell-tale long box. The temperature hovered at 107 in the late afternoon. The box felt warm, very warm.
When I opened it, steam came out! Oh, no. Inside, a huge bunch of long stemmed lillies, just in the bud was actually hot!
What a shame, I thought. They’ll never make it.
I hurried to clip the stems and put them in water, though I was sure they were lilly toast.
I read the note. The lillies were from the Miracles Coaches to thank me for a recent training with them in Texas on how to clear limiting beliefs.
Look what happened! Miracles abound!
When I opened it, steam came out! Oh, no. Inside, a huge bunch of long stemmed lillies, just in the bud was actually hot!
What a shame, I thought. They’ll never make it.
I hurried to clip the stems and put them in water, though I was sure they were lilly toast.
I read the note. The lillies were from the Miracles Coaches to thank me for a recent training with them in Texas on how to clear limiting beliefs.
Look what happened! Miracles abound!
May all of your budding ideas, hopes and dreams open in splendor!
Love,
Mandy
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Mystery of Attraction -- Magic and Miracles
I met them in Michigan in the summer of 1960.
I was a 19 year old from a small town in Maryland, completely on my own for the first time as an apprentice at The Ledges Playhouse in Grand Ledge.
The producer, Bill Slout; his lovely wife and talented leading lady, Marte Boyle and the handsome writer/actor, multi-talented leading man, Harry Cauley lived in New York. So did my fellow apprentice and life-long friend 17 year old actor/director-in-the making, Bob Burgos.
The memory of that first summer in Grand Ledge (I spent 2 there) is bright and vivid. For the first time I felt wanted, connected, a vital part of something I loved.
I gave up my short life in the theater a few years later and never thought much about those early dreams again.
From Michigan, New York and Maryland, all of us ended up in Southern California within 2 hours from each other.
Last night we gathered with a whole bunch of other people for Bill and Marte’s 50th wedding anniversary. What a time!
For us to be hugging, laughing, teasing, reminiscing again seems almost miraculous. What sweet mystery attracted us to each other in the first place and brought all 5 of us together again on a soft end-of-summer evening 48 years later?
For a long time I’ve known I was going to join Joe Vitale and a group of exciting teachers next week in the San Diego Miracles Weekend, http://www.miraclesweekend.com/
I knew they are going to video it and make a movie.
But not until I headed West to meet my old show business friends did it dawn on me – I’m going to be in a movie!
The Law of Attraction? Karma? Dreams coming true? Whatever it is, I love it!
May all of your special connections thrive and be blessed, cherished and nurtured! And how about an old dream coming true, like magic and miracles?!
Love,
Mandy
PS -- Comments welcome! Click "comments" below to add yours.
I was a 19 year old from a small town in Maryland, completely on my own for the first time as an apprentice at The Ledges Playhouse in Grand Ledge.
The producer, Bill Slout; his lovely wife and talented leading lady, Marte Boyle and the handsome writer/actor, multi-talented leading man, Harry Cauley lived in New York. So did my fellow apprentice and life-long friend 17 year old actor/director-in-the making, Bob Burgos.
The memory of that first summer in Grand Ledge (I spent 2 there) is bright and vivid. For the first time I felt wanted, connected, a vital part of something I loved.
I gave up my short life in the theater a few years later and never thought much about those early dreams again.
From Michigan, New York and Maryland, all of us ended up in Southern California within 2 hours from each other.
Last night we gathered with a whole bunch of other people for Bill and Marte’s 50th wedding anniversary. What a time!
For us to be hugging, laughing, teasing, reminiscing again seems almost miraculous. What sweet mystery attracted us to each other in the first place and brought all 5 of us together again on a soft end-of-summer evening 48 years later?
For a long time I’ve known I was going to join Joe Vitale and a group of exciting teachers next week in the San Diego Miracles Weekend, http://www.miraclesweekend.com/
I knew they are going to video it and make a movie.
But not until I headed West to meet my old show business friends did it dawn on me – I’m going to be in a movie!
The Law of Attraction? Karma? Dreams coming true? Whatever it is, I love it!
May all of your special connections thrive and be blessed, cherished and nurtured! And how about an old dream coming true, like magic and miracles?!
Love,
Mandy
PS -- Comments welcome! Click "comments" below to add yours.
Monday, September 8, 2008
Keep Learning!
Every single person I know who is unhappy and stuck balks at learning. They may resist a life-lesson that stares them in the face. Or they might cling to the status quo and fight every inevitable change.
Every single successful, happy person I know loves to learn.
Keep Learning!
On Saturday I trained Joe Vitale’s Miracles Coaches http://miraclescoaching.com/apply team in my way to find and clear beliefs that keep each and every one of us in a small box of our own making. Those beliefs separate us from the abundant opportunities and resources available to us all.
With this is extraordinary group of dedicated, experienced and caring people, my concern was that nobody would admit to having anything to work on.
Guess what? They had plenty of stuff – painful, bewildering, confusing stuff. That’s because they are human. What sets them apart and contributes to their remarkable success with clients is that they keep learning and learning and learning.
On Friday night I had dinner with Joe and his beloved Nerissa. A major factor in Mr. Attractor Factor’s ability to accomplish more than most people ever even dream about in a lifetime (or 10 lifetimes!) is his insatiable thirst for knowledge. As fast as he learns something wonderful, he finds a way to share it.
I learned so much over Thai lettuce wraps! An amazing idea to improve the BREAKOUT Weekend, new ways to communicate old ideas, websites to visit and a killer title for an article.
In search of a summer learning adventure I took a 4 day Qigong course in San Diego. At 67 I did wonder if I’d be the oldest, stiffest, chubbiest, least experienced person there – I wasn’t! Though it was a challenge, I completed every single exercise and form all the way through including the one that lasted 2 hours. I loved it. My body, mind and spirit learned a lot.
Richard is 67, like me. Though he has a lot of physical problems, he’s happier than he has been in years. He is learning how to read – fast! We work together twice a week . Teaching adults how to read thrills me beyond description.
If you’d like to learn something that will enhance and enrich your life forever, come to the October 24-26 BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs:
http://mandy@mandyevans.com
Or the Miracles Weekend with Joe Vitale and a group of his favorite teachers (including me) in San Diego, September 26-28:
http://www.miraclesweekend.com/
Or be wild! Come to them both.
Love,
Mandy
Every single successful, happy person I know loves to learn.
Keep Learning!
On Saturday I trained Joe Vitale’s Miracles Coaches http://miraclescoaching.com/apply team in my way to find and clear beliefs that keep each and every one of us in a small box of our own making. Those beliefs separate us from the abundant opportunities and resources available to us all.
With this is extraordinary group of dedicated, experienced and caring people, my concern was that nobody would admit to having anything to work on.
Guess what? They had plenty of stuff – painful, bewildering, confusing stuff. That’s because they are human. What sets them apart and contributes to their remarkable success with clients is that they keep learning and learning and learning.
On Friday night I had dinner with Joe and his beloved Nerissa. A major factor in Mr. Attractor Factor’s ability to accomplish more than most people ever even dream about in a lifetime (or 10 lifetimes!) is his insatiable thirst for knowledge. As fast as he learns something wonderful, he finds a way to share it.
I learned so much over Thai lettuce wraps! An amazing idea to improve the BREAKOUT Weekend, new ways to communicate old ideas, websites to visit and a killer title for an article.
In search of a summer learning adventure I took a 4 day Qigong course in San Diego. At 67 I did wonder if I’d be the oldest, stiffest, chubbiest, least experienced person there – I wasn’t! Though it was a challenge, I completed every single exercise and form all the way through including the one that lasted 2 hours. I loved it. My body, mind and spirit learned a lot.
Richard is 67, like me. Though he has a lot of physical problems, he’s happier than he has been in years. He is learning how to read – fast! We work together twice a week . Teaching adults how to read thrills me beyond description.
If you’d like to learn something that will enhance and enrich your life forever, come to the October 24-26 BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs:
http://mandy@mandyevans.com
Or the Miracles Weekend with Joe Vitale and a group of his favorite teachers (including me) in San Diego, September 26-28:
http://www.miraclesweekend.com/
Or be wild! Come to them both.
Love,
Mandy
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Coaching the Coaches
Austin, Texas, here I come. I’m flying out tomorrow to work with the Miracles Coaches team.
Joe Vitale (author of “The Attractor Factor” who is featured in “The Secret”) put the program together to share the insights, principles and life-skills that contribute to the amazing success he has achieved. Now people can learn in a few weeks what it took him a lifetime to master. http://miraclescoaching.com/apply
The feedback on the program rocks. I can’t wait to spend time with this group of seasoned, inspired and dedicated life-coaches doing what I love best. Teaching people how to uncover hidden limiting beliefs that block success and happiness and break free from them still thrills me after all these years. With this knowledgeable group it will be one advanced class for sure!
Life delivers amazing opportunities. Sometimes it only takes clearing away one or two beliefs to see them. Here are two quizzes you can take to break out from some of you own limiting beliefs: http://mandyevans.com/beliefreliefquizzes5.html
To share you thoughts click the word “comments” below. It’s always great to hear from you.
To your happiness and success!
Joe Vitale (author of “The Attractor Factor” who is featured in “The Secret”) put the program together to share the insights, principles and life-skills that contribute to the amazing success he has achieved. Now people can learn in a few weeks what it took him a lifetime to master. http://miraclescoaching.com/apply
The feedback on the program rocks. I can’t wait to spend time with this group of seasoned, inspired and dedicated life-coaches doing what I love best. Teaching people how to uncover hidden limiting beliefs that block success and happiness and break free from them still thrills me after all these years. With this knowledgeable group it will be one advanced class for sure!
Life delivers amazing opportunities. Sometimes it only takes clearing away one or two beliefs to see them. Here are two quizzes you can take to break out from some of you own limiting beliefs: http://mandyevans.com/beliefreliefquizzes5.html
To share you thoughts click the word “comments” below. It’s always great to hear from you.
To your happiness and success!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Celebrate the Fruits of Your Labor
Here in the US on the first Monday in September we celebrate with a tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity and well-being of our country.
After a hundred years of observance there is still a lot of doubt about how it all started. One thing seems sure – it’s a great idea for a holiday.
It also points up a topic of confusion and controversy I hear a lot about – The Law of Attraction VS that stuff about reaping and sowing.
I get emails every day expressing anger, fear, frustration. People say that they’ve seen “The Secret” 12 times and read “The Attractor Factor” 3 times. They’ve said their affirmation for attracting wealth 10 times a day and nothing has shown up but their credit card bill.
I’ve seen “The Secret” too. I even wrote a segment in the “Attractor Factor.” I cannot find the part about not doing anything. Or the part about cultivating fear, resentment and anger.
You have to take action! You can’t just lie there. You’ll get bed sores.
The question that takes some delving into, some work to get clear about is: What kind of action?
Happy action! Action that is likely to lead to what you want – not away from it.
In addition to the barbeques, beer, movies and such, for a wonderful holiday weekend:
Celebrate the fruits of your labor. It took a lot of work just to survive as a human being on planet earth. Take a rest from struggle of all kinds (you won’t forget how in one weekend) and give yourself a true holiday.
Be grateful for the labor of all the people through the generations that have given us so much.
Be happy now! Even before you fix all of the things you would like to change in yourself, your relationships and our world.
Wherever you are on this glorious planet earth, have a blessed and beautiful weekend!
Love,
Mandy
Here are some resources to help you to be happier, take inspired action and attract miracles.
“Emotional Options” provides a step by step method to identify and clear beliefs that block happiness and success. Order at
http://www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html
“Travelling Free” focuses on how we form beliefs you form during difficult and painful times. They shape our lives in ways we don’t understand. This book tells you how to free yourself from those beliefs. Order at
http://www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html
The Miracles Weekend.
Joe Vitale has gathered a group of teachers and experts to help him deliver an extraordinary experience in San Diego, September 26-28. This is a rare opportunity to work with Joe live and in person. I’m proud to be one of the teachers. I’ll present a 90 minute talk on “Accepting the Current Miracle.” I hope to see you there. Check it out at http://www.miraclesweekend.com/register/
The BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs, October 24 - 26.
This is such an incredible opportunity to work with 24 like minded people to find and eliminate the individual, unique limiting beliefs that block your happiness and your success. The result is happiness, success and miracles! This course combines the very best of everything I’ve learned and taught in 35 years in the clearest, most empowering way possible. If you can possibly do it – be there! http://www.mandyevans.com/home1.html
Share your thoughts, questions and insights with us. Click on the word “comments” at the end of a blog entry.
After a hundred years of observance there is still a lot of doubt about how it all started. One thing seems sure – it’s a great idea for a holiday.
It also points up a topic of confusion and controversy I hear a lot about – The Law of Attraction VS that stuff about reaping and sowing.
I get emails every day expressing anger, fear, frustration. People say that they’ve seen “The Secret” 12 times and read “The Attractor Factor” 3 times. They’ve said their affirmation for attracting wealth 10 times a day and nothing has shown up but their credit card bill.
I’ve seen “The Secret” too. I even wrote a segment in the “Attractor Factor.” I cannot find the part about not doing anything. Or the part about cultivating fear, resentment and anger.
You have to take action! You can’t just lie there. You’ll get bed sores.
The question that takes some delving into, some work to get clear about is: What kind of action?
Happy action! Action that is likely to lead to what you want – not away from it.
In addition to the barbeques, beer, movies and such, for a wonderful holiday weekend:
Celebrate the fruits of your labor. It took a lot of work just to survive as a human being on planet earth. Take a rest from struggle of all kinds (you won’t forget how in one weekend) and give yourself a true holiday.
Be grateful for the labor of all the people through the generations that have given us so much.
Be happy now! Even before you fix all of the things you would like to change in yourself, your relationships and our world.
Wherever you are on this glorious planet earth, have a blessed and beautiful weekend!
Love,
Mandy
Here are some resources to help you to be happier, take inspired action and attract miracles.
“Emotional Options” provides a step by step method to identify and clear beliefs that block happiness and success. Order at
http://www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html
“Travelling Free” focuses on how we form beliefs you form during difficult and painful times. They shape our lives in ways we don’t understand. This book tells you how to free yourself from those beliefs. Order at
http://www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html
The Miracles Weekend.
Joe Vitale has gathered a group of teachers and experts to help him deliver an extraordinary experience in San Diego, September 26-28. This is a rare opportunity to work with Joe live and in person. I’m proud to be one of the teachers. I’ll present a 90 minute talk on “Accepting the Current Miracle.” I hope to see you there. Check it out at http://www.miraclesweekend.com/register/
The BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs, October 24 - 26.
This is such an incredible opportunity to work with 24 like minded people to find and eliminate the individual, unique limiting beliefs that block your happiness and your success. The result is happiness, success and miracles! This course combines the very best of everything I’ve learned and taught in 35 years in the clearest, most empowering way possible. If you can possibly do it – be there! http://www.mandyevans.com/home1.html
Share your thoughts, questions and insights with us. Click on the word “comments” at the end of a blog entry.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Invest in Yourself
When the prosperity arrows glow red and point down where do you invest your resources?
In your self! There is only one dear, precious you.
Here are my tips for investments in “down times” on any budget.
Recommended...
Time: Every moment spent in happiness is well spent. Happiness is free. It’s the ultimate reward and end goal of fulfilled desires anyway.
Effort: Use it on worthy goals. Worthy to you that is. It could be a clean closet or a cure for cancer. What is worth some elbow grease, some brain-challenge for you to be able to say “I did it!”
Pleasure: Highly underrated, often judged. When I came out of a theater the other night, the sky blazed as the sun sank behind Mount San Jacinto. People stood in the parking lot gazing at the soul-stirring beauty. Ahhh. We felt a sweet connection that is so often missing in the illusion that we are separate and alone here on planet earth.
So often we put pleasure at the end of a never-ending to do list. Reverse the order! It’s like having a no-calorie dessert first.
Relationships: Take some time to nurture those relationships that sustain you and enhance your life.
Is there a thank-you note you might write to someone who contributes to your well-being? An over-due love letter to a parent, child, spouse or friend? A call to encourage a loved one who is struggling?
Education and Enlightenment: Learn! Read. Take seminars like the BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs (info at http://www.mandyevans.com/.) Master a new skill. Put yourself in a new environment; it may be just around the corner or across town. Give yourself a brand-new experience.
Eyes on the Prize: If you know what you want move toward it. You may have to go over, around or find a new way but keep your eyes on the prize until you get what you want or think of something just as wonderful or even better.
Investments to Avoid...
Time and energy spent in fear, guilt, anger, resentment, blame or regret.
Commiserating with friends, co-workers and family about how awful it all is.
Following a path that leads away from what you want.
Wishing you happy returns on all of your investments.
It's always great to see your thoughts and comments. Click the "comments" link below to post them.
Love,
Mandy
In your self! There is only one dear, precious you.
Here are my tips for investments in “down times” on any budget.
Recommended...
Time: Every moment spent in happiness is well spent. Happiness is free. It’s the ultimate reward and end goal of fulfilled desires anyway.
Effort: Use it on worthy goals. Worthy to you that is. It could be a clean closet or a cure for cancer. What is worth some elbow grease, some brain-challenge for you to be able to say “I did it!”
Pleasure: Highly underrated, often judged. When I came out of a theater the other night, the sky blazed as the sun sank behind Mount San Jacinto. People stood in the parking lot gazing at the soul-stirring beauty. Ahhh. We felt a sweet connection that is so often missing in the illusion that we are separate and alone here on planet earth.
So often we put pleasure at the end of a never-ending to do list. Reverse the order! It’s like having a no-calorie dessert first.
Relationships: Take some time to nurture those relationships that sustain you and enhance your life.
Is there a thank-you note you might write to someone who contributes to your well-being? An over-due love letter to a parent, child, spouse or friend? A call to encourage a loved one who is struggling?
Education and Enlightenment: Learn! Read. Take seminars like the BREAKOUT Weekend in Palm Springs (info at http://www.mandyevans.com/.) Master a new skill. Put yourself in a new environment; it may be just around the corner or across town. Give yourself a brand-new experience.
Eyes on the Prize: If you know what you want move toward it. You may have to go over, around or find a new way but keep your eyes on the prize until you get what you want or think of something just as wonderful or even better.
Investments to Avoid...
Time and energy spent in fear, guilt, anger, resentment, blame or regret.
Commiserating with friends, co-workers and family about how awful it all is.
Following a path that leads away from what you want.
Wishing you happy returns on all of your investments.
It's always great to see your thoughts and comments. Click the "comments" link below to post them.
Love,
Mandy
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