In his haunting song, "Bird on a Wire" Leonard Cohen says,
"and a young man leaning in his darkened door
he called out to me
why not ask for more?"
There are many reasons we do not ask for more. Most, if not all, of those reasons are limiting beliefs, misconceptions about the infinite possibilities available to us all.
Our desires always conform to our beliefs. We will never truly desire something we believe is impossible or something we believe we do not deserve. We will not actively, joyfully open ourselves to welcome something we disapprove of, even unconsciously -- like prosperity, if we equate seeking abundance with greed for example.
To break out from the limits we place on our own desire requires a change in how we perceive ourselves and our universe. For example:
A man who believes he cannot learn to read will focus his desire on how to hide his illiteracy, not on how to learn.
A woman who believes asking for help will make her more vulnerable to attack will never seek support.
An addict who believes he can cannot survive without his substance will not seek freedom from addiction.
Someone who believes greater fortune would make her a bad, greedy person will not be open to great prosperity.
Would you like to have an inner adventure today? Think of something you want. What would you like to welcome into your life this very day?
Now what would be more? What would be beyond your wildest dreams?
Will you dare to ask for it in the privacy of your own being? In most endeavors the first step is the challenge. When you take that step into expanded desire, what does it feel like to "ask for more?"
Love,
Mandy
PS There are free belief quizzes, articles and info about my books at http://www.mandyevans.com if you want more support for breaking out from limiting beliefs.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Friday, March 21, 2008
Mastering the Power of Release
I received an email from Buz McGuire, the director of the Viral Happiness Expansion Initiative. He's launching a e-book and audio CD combo, "Mastering Your Power of Release." I liked what I read so much I contributed a chapter on how to "Make Your Own Declaration of Independence."Check it out! Here's the link: http://breakout1.buzrelease.hop.clickbank.net/
To your happiness and success!
Mandy
To your happiness and success!
Mandy
Friday, February 22, 2008
ZERO BELIEF ZONE
An email arrived from the UK today by someone who had read “Emotional Options” saying, “...it appears the method does not show one how to adopt a new belief” and asking for clarification.
My answer may shock you.
I do not help people to change limiting beliefs, improve their beliefs, replace their beliefs or adopt new beliefs
I help people to BREAK OUT from beliefs that limit them, block success and make them miserable.
Think about it. If you were going to break out of prison would you want to change to a better prison or freedom from bars and constraints?
If you were on the Titanic, would you choose help with the deck chairs or to get the heck off the ship?
I know it takes inward courage to challenge a belief and break out from it, disprove it, render it useless and eliminate it. It breaks up reality as you know it. It’s disorienting and confusing. Our education systems do not reward disorientation and confusion.
Life does! Like this. When sunlight breaks through the clouds -- beyond belief!
My answer may shock you.
I do not help people to change limiting beliefs, improve their beliefs, replace their beliefs or adopt new beliefs
I help people to BREAK OUT from beliefs that limit them, block success and make them miserable.
Think about it. If you were going to break out of prison would you want to change to a better prison or freedom from bars and constraints?
If you were on the Titanic, would you choose help with the deck chairs or to get the heck off the ship?
I know it takes inward courage to challenge a belief and break out from it, disprove it, render it useless and eliminate it. It breaks up reality as you know it. It’s disorienting and confusing. Our education systems do not reward disorientation and confusion.
Life does! Like this. When sunlight breaks through the clouds -- beyond belief!
When you dare to break out from a belief barrier, you enter a zero belief zone. In that zero belief state, if you can resist the urge to fill it up right away with a better belief, you will find infinite possibilities and greatly expanded creativity.
To your happiness and success in the ZERO BELIEF ZONE!
Love,
Mandy
Monday, February 11, 2008
Love Surprise
Happy Valentine’s Day! Sending you good wishes for an abundance of love and a reminder – keep your heart open for love surprises. They are all around, but easy to miss if you close your heart and mind to them.
Here are two amazing love surprises that came into my life.
How do you get a grandson? Just teach a seminar about Desire in The Netherlands, of course! During a “Desire Marks the Path seminar in Utrecht two years ago I mentioned that I did not have grandchildren. A lovely woman named Els came up at a break and told me that her son, Siem, did not have any grandmothers. “Hmm...” we said smiling.
Els went home and told Siem, “I think I found a grandmother for you, but there is one problem – she lives in America.” “America?!?” Siem replied with a big grin.
And so we began. Siem drew grandson-pictures for me. I sent him some cards and a grandmotherly birthday present.
This Christmas Els, Siem and his dad, Kees came to visit. My son Barnaby was with his girlfriend’s family and I shared the holiday with my surprise Dutch family. The amazing thing is that from the moment they arrived we felt like family – all 4 of us. Here we are at a favorite Cathedral city Mexican restaurant the night before they left.
By definition, love surprises come when you least expect them. A couple of weeks ago, I spoke to a very large group at the Betty Ford Center’s Alcohol Awareness Hour about “Making Peace with the Past.”
I talked about my father, and writing “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past.” (order info at http://www.mandyevans.com/ ). For the first time, I talked publicly about my childhood.
I told them that when I graduated from highschool, my father came and brought me a watch. I did not see him or hug him or hear him say how proud he was of me. My mother sent him away because he was drunk. I was mad at her and heartbroken for him.
At the end of the program a burly man, about my age, approached me. He said, "That story about when you graduated from highschool, that was for me. That was me, standing outside a chain-link fence with a bottle in my hand watching my child graduate. His eyes filled with tears and mine did too. We hugged each other and held on for a moment. It felt like being held in one big heart that encompassed all time and space to let a father and child share a love surprise about a highschool graduation -- and gratitude for making peace with the past.
Whether you are in a romantic relationship or on your own now, love is all around! Flowers and chocolates are nice to give and receive. Don’t forget to be open to giving a receiving amazing love surprises too -- far beyond anything you thought of.
Here are two amazing love surprises that came into my life.
How do you get a grandson? Just teach a seminar about Desire in The Netherlands, of course! During a “Desire Marks the Path seminar in Utrecht two years ago I mentioned that I did not have grandchildren. A lovely woman named Els came up at a break and told me that her son, Siem, did not have any grandmothers. “Hmm...” we said smiling.
Els went home and told Siem, “I think I found a grandmother for you, but there is one problem – she lives in America.” “America?!?” Siem replied with a big grin.
And so we began. Siem drew grandson-pictures for me. I sent him some cards and a grandmotherly birthday present.
This Christmas Els, Siem and his dad, Kees came to visit. My son Barnaby was with his girlfriend’s family and I shared the holiday with my surprise Dutch family. The amazing thing is that from the moment they arrived we felt like family – all 4 of us. Here we are at a favorite Cathedral city Mexican restaurant the night before they left.
By definition, love surprises come when you least expect them. A couple of weeks ago, I spoke to a very large group at the Betty Ford Center’s Alcohol Awareness Hour about “Making Peace with the Past.”
I talked about my father, and writing “Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past.” (order info at http://www.mandyevans.com/ ). For the first time, I talked publicly about my childhood.
I told them that when I graduated from highschool, my father came and brought me a watch. I did not see him or hug him or hear him say how proud he was of me. My mother sent him away because he was drunk. I was mad at her and heartbroken for him.
At the end of the program a burly man, about my age, approached me. He said, "That story about when you graduated from highschool, that was for me. That was me, standing outside a chain-link fence with a bottle in my hand watching my child graduate. His eyes filled with tears and mine did too. We hugged each other and held on for a moment. It felt like being held in one big heart that encompassed all time and space to let a father and child share a love surprise about a highschool graduation -- and gratitude for making peace with the past.
Whether you are in a romantic relationship or on your own now, love is all around! Flowers and chocolates are nice to give and receive. Don’t forget to be open to giving a receiving amazing love surprises too -- far beyond anything you thought of.
I hope you will share your thoughts and love surprises here!
With an abundance of love for you,
Mandy
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Welcome in 2008
When the calendar measure of time marks a new year, thoughts turn to new beginnings. Instead of resolutions, I focus on what I would like to welcome into my life. This year I noticed with some surprise that I wanted a good deal of less along with my more.
I think conscious, clear awareness of what we want to attract to us or move toward -- what we want to fill our bodies, hearts, souls and lives with matters most. That includes an awareness of what we want to avoid. Sort of like a walk down a lovely lane with a desire to avoid mud puddles from a recent rain – unless of course it’s a hot day and squishy mud on bare feet is just what you want.
It’s so easy to get caught in the trap of what we ought to want or ought to avoid. But each of us is one of a precious kind and our unique desire will lead us down a path we make with our own footsteps. Correct your course as new information becomes available. Be willing to learn! Be willing to be happy!
There is power in awareness and in sharing. It makes things grow. It turns thoughts into reality, reality into life-lessons, life-lessons into awareness.
I hope you will share some of your "welcomings" with us! Here are mine.
I WELCOME IN 2008
MORE:
peace on earth, good will to all
happiness, laughter, love, health, wisdom, good books
smart, funny, kind friends to share good times with who live nearby
creative outlets
healthy ways to be useful and helpful to others
continued prosperity
food, shelter, love for all
physical health and well-being
clearing away false beliefs that limit health, success and happiness
interesting, engaging, enjoyable learning experiences
spiritual growth and enlightenment
LESS:
less pain, harsh judgement, punishment, war
less starvation, torture, cruelty and hatred in the world
less pain in my body
less fat in my body
less reluctance to ask for help
It’s a start! How about you?
Love,
Mandy
I think conscious, clear awareness of what we want to attract to us or move toward -- what we want to fill our bodies, hearts, souls and lives with matters most. That includes an awareness of what we want to avoid. Sort of like a walk down a lovely lane with a desire to avoid mud puddles from a recent rain – unless of course it’s a hot day and squishy mud on bare feet is just what you want.
It’s so easy to get caught in the trap of what we ought to want or ought to avoid. But each of us is one of a precious kind and our unique desire will lead us down a path we make with our own footsteps. Correct your course as new information becomes available. Be willing to learn! Be willing to be happy!
There is power in awareness and in sharing. It makes things grow. It turns thoughts into reality, reality into life-lessons, life-lessons into awareness.
I hope you will share some of your "welcomings" with us! Here are mine.
I WELCOME IN 2008
MORE:
peace on earth, good will to all
happiness, laughter, love, health, wisdom, good books
smart, funny, kind friends to share good times with who live nearby
creative outlets
healthy ways to be useful and helpful to others
continued prosperity
food, shelter, love for all
physical health and well-being
clearing away false beliefs that limit health, success and happiness
interesting, engaging, enjoyable learning experiences
spiritual growth and enlightenment
LESS:
less pain, harsh judgement, punishment, war
less starvation, torture, cruelty and hatred in the world
less pain in my body
less fat in my body
less reluctance to ask for help
It’s a start! How about you?
Love,
Mandy
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Be the Gift
At my age, 66, some people begin to fall apart. I seem to be fusing myself together with arthritic bone spurs and calcium deposits. After a rough night with little sleep, I was feeling very discouraged. I lay awake questioning my own unhappiness (yes, I really do always do that) but I didn’t get very far.
Feeling bad seemed inevitable. That’s the key; it almost always does. Since our beliefs are our version of reality, it’s hard to see them as just beliefs. They seem like reality, inevitable.
I dragged my weary self out to get the mail. The day sparkled around me and I felt my spirits lift. Then I spied him as he tooled around the oleander hedge by the mailboxes, a smiling man with white hair astride a bright red, brand new electric scooter.
“Make every day count!” he said. “”Yes,” I heard myself reply, “It’s all we have. It’s precious.” How had I forgotten?
We chatted for a few minutes. He told me he is from New York. He can’t walk. He pointed to his leg and said there was a steel rod in it. His sons bought him the scooter. He is 92 years old!
As he whizzed off he raised his hand to the bright blue sky. Rounding the corner, he shouted, “It’s a beautiful day!”
And it was. I felt better and better as the hours went by and the sweet encounter warmed my spirits.
What a sweet gift. There is a saying, “Be the change you want to see.” How about, “Be the gift you want to receive?”
Maybe these thoughts will warm your spirits. Maybe you are already feeling wonderful -- spread the word. Imagine if we knew at every moment that this one, now this one, now this one is really all we have.
You are a precious gift. Have a beautiful day!
Love,
Mandy
Feeling bad seemed inevitable. That’s the key; it almost always does. Since our beliefs are our version of reality, it’s hard to see them as just beliefs. They seem like reality, inevitable.
I dragged my weary self out to get the mail. The day sparkled around me and I felt my spirits lift. Then I spied him as he tooled around the oleander hedge by the mailboxes, a smiling man with white hair astride a bright red, brand new electric scooter.
“Make every day count!” he said. “”Yes,” I heard myself reply, “It’s all we have. It’s precious.” How had I forgotten?
We chatted for a few minutes. He told me he is from New York. He can’t walk. He pointed to his leg and said there was a steel rod in it. His sons bought him the scooter. He is 92 years old!
As he whizzed off he raised his hand to the bright blue sky. Rounding the corner, he shouted, “It’s a beautiful day!”
And it was. I felt better and better as the hours went by and the sweet encounter warmed my spirits.
What a sweet gift. There is a saying, “Be the change you want to see.” How about, “Be the gift you want to receive?”
Maybe these thoughts will warm your spirits. Maybe you are already feeling wonderful -- spread the word. Imagine if we knew at every moment that this one, now this one, now this one is really all we have.
You are a precious gift. Have a beautiful day!
Love,
Mandy
Sunday, December 9, 2007
Amazing Gift
This incredible, amazing, astoundingly beautiful planet is a gift to us all. We do not have to prove our worth, do anything to deserve it or earn the privilege to enjoy it's beauty. It is just here for us, one and all.
Today, where I live in Southern California we have snow on the mountain and rain in the valley. I thought you might like to see it too.
Love,
Mandy
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