Ready for a New Direction? Self-Help for Recovery

When you are heading in the wrong direction, going the extra mile is not a good idea. Sometimes, in order to succeed and flourish in a happy life, you need to:

• Stop! Look around. Now look inside. Are you in a good place? Really look.
• Are you moving toward more of what you want in life or away from it?
• Open your heart and mind. Are you willing to see your situation clearly? Is there more information available? Do you welcome or block it? 
• Alter your course. As you follow your heart's desire, you have to alter your course as new information becomes available or you will head for a seriously mismatched destination.
• Recover! If your spirit is injured, clean the wound and help it to heal before you make any big decisions or strike out in a new direction. You will take a different path when you feel better. Read "Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" to see how.
• Break out from limiting, unconscious beliefs about perseverance and blind loyalty. It is not a virtue to remain loyal to something (or someone) that does not nurture your growth and well-being. Sticking to something that does not work does not work! 
• Assess and re-balance. To achieve a healthy balance in your life, do you need to be more patient and tolerant or do you need to be more proactive and put up with less. 
• Be Happy! When you are happy where you are, you can move in any direction you like.You tap into the greatest motivation; are open to inspiration; do not fear the truth, see opportunities and take advantage of them more easily. 

Happy journey!

Love, 

Mandy

Recommended Resources available in paperback or for Kindle at Also available through Amazon UK, Europe, India. Did you know you can read Kindle books on any PC, Laptop or notebook accept Apple products?

"Travelling Free: How to Recover from the Past by Changing Your Beliefs" A Self-help/Recovery book. See reviews and order information at  http://amzn.com/B002ACPNXK

"Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness" is a how-to, personal growth book in the strongest sense. Designed to be a workshop-in-a-book to help you blast out from beliefs that block happiness and success. Reviews and order information are available at http://amzn.com/B008RBUC4S

Self-Help for Happiness

Just for you --
Just for now --

Take a moment.  Follow your breath in and out, in and out.

Close your eyes and ask these two questions, taking all the time you need for the answers to come:

1. If you could feel anyway you want to, how would you feel?
2. How do you feel?

Sometimes that's all it takes. Awareness of you you feel is often the first, sometimes the only thing you need to be happy. 

Sending love and happy thoughts to you, 

Mandy

Limiting Beliefs Meet the Law of Attraction

Thank to Jewels, founder of Law of Attraction Radio, for a challenging, lively  interview. Our conversation ranged from wealth to weight, the myth of deserving, guilt, joy and despair, the beliefs that block happiness and success.

Jewels is a real expert on the Law of Attraction. She interviews NY Times bestselling authors, scientists, medical doctors and other experts on the LOA. I know an awful lot about how to find and break out from your own limiting beliefs. Together, I think we came up with a a show that will inform and inspire you. The time flew by.

If you'd like to listen in to learn how to attract more of what you want -- and less of what you do not want, here's the link: http://loaradionetwork.com/jewels.html.

Let us know what you think, your comments are always welcome.

Cheering you on to attract love, success and prosperity. Be happy now!

Love,
Mandy



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Found In Translation

Look what I found (as opposed to the usual lost) in translation! Someone sent me an email that had been translated by one of the automatic translators like the one available from Google. It translated the term "limiting beliefs" as "restrictive faiths." I love it. That's exactly what a limiting belief is, misguided faith in something that isn't true that restricts us.

Limiting beliefs, or restrictive faiths, hamper our creativity and block success and happiness. A belief that limits you cannot be true. As the saying goes, the truth shall set you free.

As we go through life we come to conclusions based on the seeming evidence at hand. These conclusions get added to the data base that forms our individual belief systems, our private versions of reality.

We make all of our choices based on these conclusions. We act and react based on them. We move toward some experiences and away from others according to faith in our versions of reality. Each step, each choice, creates the road we travel.

Some of our beliefs are life-enhancing. Many of them, however, block happiness, creativity and success. I cannot imagine anything that has a greater influence on our lives. Yet most of us never question these beliefs. Even if we want to, where can we learn how?

I wrote "Emotional Options: A Handbook for Happiness" to show you how to uncover, explore and discard beliefs that restrict you. I've kept it in print, available, and affordable for many years. If you would like to break out from "Restrictive faiths" you hold that block your happiness and success, I hope you will read it and share it.

You can order Emotional Options from my website.

Order Emotional Options:
http://mandyevans.com/archives/emotional-options/

If you cannot afford to buy a copy and want to embark on this breakout from "restrictive faiths" adventure, send me an email and I'll give you a copy of the e-book. Use the contact form on my website.

 Contact me: http://mandyevans.com/contact/

Cheering you on to happiness, success and freedom from limiting beliefs!

Love,
Mandy

Happy Easter, Passover and Spring!

Wishing you a glorious time to refresh, revive, renew and recover.

 

 

May you breakout from the limiting beliefs that hold you back and recover from the hurt that blocks your happiness in this beautiful season of rebirth and renewal.

 

 

Happy Easter! Happy Passover! Happy Spring!

 

Love,

Mandy

Your Value Is Beyond Measure

Been thinking about how much we humans suffer because of  what believe about our value. Explorations into this issue with students and clients often lead us to a painfully limiting belief that we can determine our worth by how other people treat us. Here are some examples we found:

People who are abused often stay in those relationships because they believe it's the only love they will ever get. It goes sort of like this: I do every thing I can to please him/her and it's not good enough. If I'm not even good enough for him/her, how would I be good enough for anyone?

Rejection of our company, our creations, or requests tells us that they are not worth much. This belief usually thrives with a companion belief that rejection is incredibly painful. People who live by those beliefs othen avoid risking rejection unless they really have to ask for something. Because of this avoidance if someone turns them down they may have no where else to turn. Unlike a friend who once said, "I'm really good at dealing with rejection; I'm a writer."

If someone is rude to us it only stings because of what we believe it means about us.

How people treat you and me tells us a lot about what they value. It let's us know what they want and do not want. It reveals what they are interested in or not. It's useful information if you're selecting a team, an employee or employer, a friend or a spouse -- but it doesn't give you a clue about your worth.

Your value is beyond measure. You and I are worth everything and nothing. As I look at what I just wrote, it rings true. Space opens. A smile spreads from my heart outward.  Shall we dare an experiment? How about we follow our desire and curiosity? Then correct our courses as new information becomes available?

May we all find the perfect matches for enlightenment in all of our adventures.

Cheering you on to happiness and success.

Love,
Mandy

The Change Challenge

The biggest challenge with change can be living in the present with your new self. As Werner Erhard said, Most likely you are fine just the way you are, but you keep acting the way your were.

I worked with a successful executive who hadn't noticed that since he now delegates a lot of tasks, he no longer needs to appear busy at his desk all of the time -- or feel anxious when he's not. Feeling happier and more relaxed, he signed up for the executive gym. He decided to watch guilt-free Ted Talks for inspiration right there in the corner office with a view. Then he looked around for an opportunity to volunteer some time with kids who need  inspiration and guidance and found one.

I've taught adults to read, who then struggled to realise that they could. Like a woman who never thought to leave a note for her kids when she left home for an emergency, because for 42 years, she couldn't. Her children were frantic until she returned.

Another new reader found it frightening the labels and signs in the supermarket jumped out to bombard him with their messages. They intruded in an area of his awareness that before noticed only color and shape.

I've worked with people who grew up in a harsh environment. My job (and the purpose of my books) is to help them to break out from the limiting beliefs they adopted during painful times that still seem real. It can be so very hard for them to see themselves in the present self as lovable, or to imagine that life could be easier, even fun.

Every change in you requires adjustments from your family and friends too. Friends and spouses especially, may have signed up for a relationship with the old you. This new version may or may not fit. Patience may be called for, or letting go altogether.

Coming into your prime can be a jolt. So can leaving it as you age. I'm adjusting to accepting a helping hand with tasks I could manage easily just a few years ago. It's quite a change. I enjoy the outpouring of kindness that comes my way.

What's new with you? Your comments inform and inspire us.

Here's to the new edition of you. May you thrive and flourish right here, right now!

Love,
Mandy




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