"Women never get anywhere in the art world," she said. She always said that as if it explained why her beautiful paintings stood stacked in the corner of her barn. It was not true, but she held it in front of her like a shield. From what? From the hurt she feared would do her in if she ever dared to open her hungry heart and clenched fists and reach for the connections she yearned to make.
"Nice guys always finish last," he said when the woman withdrew her interest and affection. It was not true. It was not because he was nice. There were other reasons, as mysterious as the purpose of love.
These are examples of incredibly limiting "belief-lies" we humans hold like shields to protect us from the hurt that might just do us in, down for the count -- or forever.
If only it worked it might be worth the effort. There would be some benefit gained for the enormous expenditure of energy and vigilence. But belief-lie shields are only heavy, they do not protect. They only block the light.
My life's work has been finding, exploring, exposing those beliefs for the lies they are. I love helping people to find the courage to live without them. It does require some valor to put down a heavy shield and stand exposed before the glory of life with its infinite possibilities for creativity, love and joy.
I'm looking for new ways to connect with people who are ready to put down the shield and break out from the belief-lies that block happiness, success, and life. I welcome your thoughts. Will keep you posted!
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Changes
At 70, I am changing almost as fast as my granddaughter, Emery is at 19 months. We are both learning as fast as we can only she can accomplish more with her body every day and I can accomplish less.
In early February, I got a flu/cold thing and today is the first time I've had enough energy to more than the bare minimum movement required to keep from sinking into sloth and torpor! I had begun to think, maybe I'm not sick. Maybe I'm just old and cough a lot now. Am so grateful for another reprieve into the cough-free world from barely functioning to fairly functioning.
I am looking at life from yet another side now. I'm not sure what I can count on my body to sustain. Travel and teaching 4 day retreats seems iffy, when for so many years I just signed up, showed up and delivered. No question about it.
I'm going to have to change my ways, maybe go "virtual". I'll need to learn to collaborate, cooperate and ask for help, breakout from some limiting beliefs. OMG!
I so welcome input, advice, suggestions and encouragement.
What changes are you going through? I'd love to cheer you on to happiness and success beyond your wildest dreams.
Mandy
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| Emery meets Wonder, her first horse. |
In early February, I got a flu/cold thing and today is the first time I've had enough energy to more than the bare minimum movement required to keep from sinking into sloth and torpor! I had begun to think, maybe I'm not sick. Maybe I'm just old and cough a lot now. Am so grateful for another reprieve into the cough-free world from barely functioning to fairly functioning.
I am looking at life from yet another side now. I'm not sure what I can count on my body to sustain. Travel and teaching 4 day retreats seems iffy, when for so many years I just signed up, showed up and delivered. No question about it.
I'm going to have to change my ways, maybe go "virtual". I'll need to learn to collaborate, cooperate and ask for help, breakout from some limiting beliefs. OMG!
I so welcome input, advice, suggestions and encouragement.
What changes are you going through? I'd love to cheer you on to happiness and success beyond your wildest dreams.
Mandy
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Come On In In 2012!
Instead of setting goals or making resolutions as we welcome in the new year, I like to reflect on what I would like to welcome into my life in 1212. The first step to making it real is consciousness. Then sharing. Tthe magic, mysterious unfolding of life reveals the rest.
Here is some of what I welcome:
Thank you for reading this. I would love to know your heart's desire for 2012 so I can join in to cheer you on! Just click "Comments" below.
Happy New Year!
Love,
Mandy
Here is some of what I welcome:
- Food, shelter and love for everyone
- Feeling really good
- Health
- Happiness
- Opportunities to share what I've learned
- Opportunities to share what others have learned
- Wonderful books to read
- Good times with friends and family
- Inspiration for The Connection Breakout Course
- Peace on earth and in my heart
- Laughter, lots of laughter
- A bunch of happy surprises, beyond my wildest dreams
Thank you for reading this. I would love to know your heart's desire for 2012 so I can join in to cheer you on! Just click "Comments" below.
Happy New Year!
Love,
Mandy
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Joy to the World
Jot to the world! Why not? Maybe it's having an 18 month grandchild in the family, all full of wonder and curiosity, studying up on how to talk -- and how to climb really high. Maybe it's the sad but welcome end to the war in Iraq. Maybe it's looking at how far we have come on the path to equal rights for women, African Americans and gay people. Whatever! This year as the holidays wrap themselves around us, my abiding desire is joy to the world!
It seems so real. If we will just do it. We can fill our individual hearts with joy and good wishes for everyone! OK, if you can't go that far yet, how about your family, your neighbors, yourself?!
It seems so real that we who have a little or a lot extra can share some to help those in need. Everyone can have enough to eat, shelter and love. Surely there is enough to go around.
It seems so real that the idea of war can become absurd, the idea of peace real and possible.
It seems so real this year. Joy to the world! Why not?
Wishing you the happiest of holidays and many blessings.
Your comments are always welcome. I love to read about your thoughts and insights and think that people we do not even know will be able to read them too.
Mandy
It seems so real. If we will just do it. We can fill our individual hearts with joy and good wishes for everyone! OK, if you can't go that far yet, how about your family, your neighbors, yourself?!
It seems so real that we who have a little or a lot extra can share some to help those in need. Everyone can have enough to eat, shelter and love. Surely there is enough to go around.
It seems so real that the idea of war can become absurd, the idea of peace real and possible.
It seems so real this year. Joy to the world! Why not?
Wishing you the happiest of holidays and many blessings.
Your comments are always welcome. I love to read about your thoughts and insights and think that people we do not even know will be able to read them too.
Mandy
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Words Make Something Happen
Emery is 17 months old. She discovered that words make something happen. Can you imagine her delight? More. Wow, that gets you more of something you like. All done gets them to stop giving you food when you don't want any more. Hi makes people smile and say it back. Bye- bye works pretty much the same way, only when people are going away.
Emery works happily all through the day to capture the magical powers! At night she practices as she drifts off to sleep.
You have probably conquered the magical powers long ago. Remembering the magic and the power is the tricky part and the important part.
The same words that convey love or how to build a house can also start a war or break someone's heart. They bring thoughts into reality with their vibration – literally; the spoken word vibrates through the air into our ears where we interpret it. The written word we figure out with our eyes. Amazing!
Emery is my granddaughter. Her gift to me this Christmas is a new awareness that words make something happen. She encourages me to use them well and kindly to make things happen that I want to happen. Like:
Love,
Mandy
Find life enhancing gifts at the Breakout Store http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/
Emery works happily all through the day to capture the magical powers! At night she practices as she drifts off to sleep.
You have probably conquered the magical powers long ago. Remembering the magic and the power is the tricky part and the important part.
The same words that convey love or how to build a house can also start a war or break someone's heart. They bring thoughts into reality with their vibration – literally; the spoken word vibrates through the air into our ears where we interpret it. The written word we figure out with our eyes. Amazing!
Emery is my granddaughter. Her gift to me this Christmas is a new awareness that words make something happen. She encourages me to use them well and kindly to make things happen that I want to happen. Like:
- Thank you for reading this so we can share some thoughts
- May peace prevail
- Joy to the world
- I wish you boundless success and happiness
Love,
Mandy
Find life enhancing gifts at the Breakout Store http://mandyevans.com/the-breakout-store/
Monday, December 12, 2011
You Are The Present
How are you doing? As the holidays draw near, the days fill with opportunities to connect with friends and family, everyone really – or not.
I don't know about you, but I have spent a few tense holidays, unconscious, on automatic pilot. Growing up in an alcoholic family, my version of that was an exhausting attempt to make everything work out for everyone. Yikes!
This year I plan to break out from the well worn groove and connect with myself and others "presently". Maybe in quiet ways no one will notice, I kind of hope so.
While celebrating our connection and wishing you peace and joy, I think of breakout experiences to share.
When that gate shut behind us in the Woodbourne Correctional Facility in the Catskill mountains of New York, I knew something big had really closed. We would not walk back through that opening until someone in a uniform told us we could.
Members of the NAACP there had invited us to speak about famine in East Africa because we were involved in a project to raise awareness of about world hunger. As a guard escorted us below tiers of cells, inmates screamed down at us in such a roar I couldn't pick out what anyone was saying -- probably a good thing. When we reached an auditorium, he took us backstage to meet our sponsors.
As I waited backstage, I peeked out at rows and rows of black men wearing white tee shirts and green tennis shoes. The first speaker walked on stage, a thin white guy with glasses. They jeered. They howled. He continued with his talk as if nothing were happening.
I was next! As my pulse sped up, I thought the only thing I can do is be present, connect, not go unconscious like a robot on automatic pilot.
I walked out, took the microphone, and stood there -- gazed out at that green-sneakered sea of difference and let it in. Suddenly, as if it had a will of its own, my voice blurted out, "I've never been in a prison before." Over a ripple of laughter another voice from the back rows rang out, "Neither had I, honey."
When our laughter died down, that group of men, incarcerated in the Woodbourne Correctional Facility in the Catskill mountains of New York listened in total silence while I presented statics on infant mortality and starvation in Somalia and the horn of East Africa.
Those guys donated several hundred dollars, their gift to alleviate suffering across the world, an amazing amount considering their meager resources.
As I've worked with all sorts of people over the decades of my coaching experience, over and over we discovered that the present of our presence is always enough.
As you ponder your holiday lists of things to cook and presents to buy, how about including your presence, the most splendid present of all? What a gift you are!
Wishing you golden moments of happy, present holidays.
Love,
Mandy
For other presents look at my Amazon Author page for two books. Give the gift of happiness with Emotional Options. Give the gift of recovery with Travelling Free http://amazon.com/author/mandyevans
I don't know about you, but I have spent a few tense holidays, unconscious, on automatic pilot. Growing up in an alcoholic family, my version of that was an exhausting attempt to make everything work out for everyone. Yikes!
This year I plan to break out from the well worn groove and connect with myself and others "presently". Maybe in quiet ways no one will notice, I kind of hope so.
While celebrating our connection and wishing you peace and joy, I think of breakout experiences to share.
When that gate shut behind us in the Woodbourne Correctional Facility in the Catskill mountains of New York, I knew something big had really closed. We would not walk back through that opening until someone in a uniform told us we could.
Members of the NAACP there had invited us to speak about famine in East Africa because we were involved in a project to raise awareness of about world hunger. As a guard escorted us below tiers of cells, inmates screamed down at us in such a roar I couldn't pick out what anyone was saying -- probably a good thing. When we reached an auditorium, he took us backstage to meet our sponsors.
As I waited backstage, I peeked out at rows and rows of black men wearing white tee shirts and green tennis shoes. The first speaker walked on stage, a thin white guy with glasses. They jeered. They howled. He continued with his talk as if nothing were happening.
I was next! As my pulse sped up, I thought the only thing I can do is be present, connect, not go unconscious like a robot on automatic pilot.
I walked out, took the microphone, and stood there -- gazed out at that green-sneakered sea of difference and let it in. Suddenly, as if it had a will of its own, my voice blurted out, "I've never been in a prison before." Over a ripple of laughter another voice from the back rows rang out, "Neither had I, honey."
When our laughter died down, that group of men, incarcerated in the Woodbourne Correctional Facility in the Catskill mountains of New York listened in total silence while I presented statics on infant mortality and starvation in Somalia and the horn of East Africa.
Those guys donated several hundred dollars, their gift to alleviate suffering across the world, an amazing amount considering their meager resources.
As I've worked with all sorts of people over the decades of my coaching experience, over and over we discovered that the present of our presence is always enough.
As you ponder your holiday lists of things to cook and presents to buy, how about including your presence, the most splendid present of all? What a gift you are!
Wishing you golden moments of happy, present holidays.
Love,
Mandy
For other presents look at my Amazon Author page for two books. Give the gift of happiness with Emotional Options. Give the gift of recovery with Travelling Free http://amazon.com/author/mandyevans
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Speaking of Miracles
Want to experience a miracle? Several to choose
from came up in a Skype interview with those
delightful women, The English Sisters today.
Miraculously, it's already up and available on YouTube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Ej-VpPf4cA
Rome to Palm Springs! A little jerky, but hey,
across the world and free!
More about Accepting Miracles! If you are looking
for holiday gifts (don't forget yourself) please consider
the "Accepting Miracles" video at the Breakout Store.
http://mandyevans.com/archives/accepting-miracles-video/
For $7.95 you can give it 3 times! We set the delivery
so it can be downloaded and saved 3 times. When you
buy it, you can send the link you get on your receipt to
2 other people. Let's see, that's $2.65 each.
Arithmetic aside, the live presentation in this video drew
a big standing ovation because it opens the door to
accepting miracles. They are available to us all, but so
easy to miss if we get caught in the quicksand of stress,
worry and fear. It's ironically common to lose track of our
blessings during the holidays meant to celebrate them.
Here's to accepting and celebrating the miracles of connection, love, and happiness with you!
Love,
Mandy
Readers and I love to hear what you think and share your
miracles. You can post them here by clicking on "Post a comment"below.
from came up in a Skype interview with those
delightful women, The English Sisters today.
Miraculously, it's already up and available on YouTube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Ej-VpPf4cA
Rome to Palm Springs! A little jerky, but hey,
across the world and free!
More about Accepting Miracles! If you are looking
for holiday gifts (don't forget yourself) please consider
the "Accepting Miracles" video at the Breakout Store.
http://mandyevans.com/archives/accepting-miracles-video/
For $7.95 you can give it 3 times! We set the delivery
so it can be downloaded and saved 3 times. When you
buy it, you can send the link you get on your receipt to
2 other people. Let's see, that's $2.65 each.
Arithmetic aside, the live presentation in this video drew
a big standing ovation because it opens the door to
accepting miracles. They are available to us all, but so
easy to miss if we get caught in the quicksand of stress,
worry and fear. It's ironically common to lose track of our
blessings during the holidays meant to celebrate them.
Here's to accepting and celebrating the miracles of connection, love, and happiness with you!
Love,
Mandy
Readers and I love to hear what you think and share your
miracles. You can post them here by clicking on "Post a comment"below.
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